Okay, a quick google search learns that you don't have notaries. Maybe the law is easier in the US otherwise I think it's wise to ask for legal advice to be sure.
We have notaries. That's a good point to ask for legal advice, but I don't have it in me to put forth that effort especially without my wife knowing. I'll do some google searches myself but was hoping someone here could relate and have some insight.
You can phrase it differently. Just say that you want to be sure that everything is arranged well for her in case that you get for example a car accident. Just say it in a way that it isn't a big deal (like it will never happen), but that you just want to be sure. I don't know anything about the US, but in my country you have different scenario's, like which money did you use. It differs if you put some money in the house that you earned before or after marriage. But maybe it's easier and more straightforward in the US.
I almost ctb a few times this year and was hospitalized twice so she would be suspicious if I asked her anytime soon or else I would have asked to do a will haha. I wonder if I just write what I want in a note if that would hold any weight if she needs to go to court about it. Seems like it's all a headache; I just want to make it easier but idk if it can be done without being suspicious.
In my country you can write and change a will without notifying the receivers. It's registered in a central database and can be accessed only after you died. This is all done by notaries and it's really private. You said, that you have them too, so I guess it works the same in the US.
Ah okay so I could do it with a notary and my wife wouldn't be alerted?
Probably yes (assuming that it works the same in the US). I'm in the same process at the moment and that's what the notary told me. But you can search one in your area and ask them how it works on beforehand.
Thanks! I figured it out. Much appreciated.
Thank you so much for your input. Gonna take me a bit to process this.
