Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
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Hi folks. Longtime replier, first-time thread creator here. I wasn't sure if this really belonged into the Suicide Discussion so I put it in Offtopic just to be safe. Anyway...
Post Traumatic Embittered Disorder is defined on Wikipedia as "a pathological reaction to drastic life events. The trigger is an extraordinary though common negative life event (for example, divorce, bereavement, dismissal, personal insult, or vilification). The consequence is severe and long-lasting embitterment. This disorder is not characterized by the triggering event but by the temporal connection to the critical incident."
So basically, it means when something happened in your past that wrecked your emotions and caused you to become extremely resentful and obsess over the exact circumstances or details of that event. A classic fictional example would be like the death of Batman's parents for him. It's different from post-traumatic stress disorder because that is when remembering traumatic events triggers stress or fear. PTED instead is when these events bring anger, bitterness, shame, resentment, that kind of stuff. The term caught on in 2009 but not much has been looked into it ever since, probably because some of the people who actually have it became the mass shooters or other serial criminals in the world. They did conclude that getting revenge is not an effective treatment though. Other than that, one article in the LA Times called it "treatment-proof". The kicker with this condition is that the people who have it can be so far gone that there is nothing left for them than to ruminate on the negative event.
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Anyway, I know that bitterness doesn't always lead to becoming a terrible person but it did for me. I just wanted to put this out there in case anyone still thought I was any good. That would be unfortunate. I'm also curious though, is anyone else currently in their own miserable situation because of one specific event? Like the definition says, it could be anything as long as it's an event (if you're traumatized by something happening in your life every day I am so sorry).
Post Traumatic Embittered Disorder is defined on Wikipedia as "a pathological reaction to drastic life events. The trigger is an extraordinary though common negative life event (for example, divorce, bereavement, dismissal, personal insult, or vilification). The consequence is severe and long-lasting embitterment. This disorder is not characterized by the triggering event but by the temporal connection to the critical incident."
Post-traumatic embitterment disorder - Wikipedia
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So basically, it means when something happened in your past that wrecked your emotions and caused you to become extremely resentful and obsess over the exact circumstances or details of that event. A classic fictional example would be like the death of Batman's parents for him. It's different from post-traumatic stress disorder because that is when remembering traumatic events triggers stress or fear. PTED instead is when these events bring anger, bitterness, shame, resentment, that kind of stuff. The term caught on in 2009 but not much has been looked into it ever since, probably because some of the people who actually have it became the mass shooters or other serial criminals in the world. They did conclude that getting revenge is not an effective treatment though. Other than that, one article in the LA Times called it "treatment-proof". The kicker with this condition is that the people who have it can be so far gone that there is nothing left for them than to ruminate on the negative event.
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My event was far less dramatic but to me it was just as traumatic (I'm kind of a piece of shit like that lol). In my case basically, I lost my first chance at a real relationship to some guy who legitimately treats her like crap yet he's still better than me in every way. I remember the exact day I found out. It was the Christmas party for the place we both worked for and she told me matter-of-factly since we were friends and all. Learning this broke me. It confirmed every negative thing I already felt about myself and made it real. I'm sure it really doesn't sound that bad to anyone hearing this story but I went through my dad physically and verbally abusing me, dropping out of college, and even a shitty sales job where I never sold anything but none of that compares to that single moment when I realized once and for all that my life needs to be over and that I am going to die alone. Before this happened to me I would still cling onto hope and the goodness of mankind but now I really just don't care anymore. I lost my ability to truly care about anyone else. Not my family, not my friends, and definitely not myself. I've also become extremely racist against the group of people that other guy belongs to (don't worry he's not black, indigenous, or Hispanic so at least I'm not racist to them). Even so though, that event caused me to knowingly become a terrible person I went from wanting to see the good in everyone to only being able to see the good in people like me, aka evil, hateful villains. I just want to see all members of that group of people suffer then die and even though logically I know they aren't actually responsible for all my problems, they might as well be. I see them as subhuman creatures of filth but to be fair, so am I. I get told to move on all the time but the issue is I can't. I simply don't have the strength to move somewhere I don't want to go. Maybe if I knew where I'd have an idea but so far I haven't found anyone else to move on to and I doubt that's healthy anyway even though it's been almost five years. I've tried a little bit to find someone else but I realize that this girl was unique and there's no one else like her, at least in my vicinity. Besides, what girl would actually like me knowing how terrible I am which they'd see if they truly know me. And that's not even considering all the other problems with me. No, I'm just doomed to be a racist a-hole who deserves to die. The only noble thing left to do is remove myself from the earth.
Anyway, I know that bitterness doesn't always lead to becoming a terrible person but it did for me. I just wanted to put this out there in case anyone still thought I was any good. That would be unfortunate. I'm also curious though, is anyone else currently in their own miserable situation because of one specific event? Like the definition says, it could be anything as long as it's an event (if you're traumatized by something happening in your life every day I am so sorry).