Discussion Possession hardest to part with?

[savory]

Apart from your body and existence I mean. For me it's childhood photos, I'm dreading destroying them. I've already gotten rid of journals, letters, and digital images. If it were possible no images of me would exist. Reluctantly I'll probably leave a select few, especially for my mom. I look at myself as a kid and wonder what went wrong, what can't I remember? I look at the pictures, searching, and there's nothing to be gained.

I don't have a shredder and won't be able to burn them. I'll cut them up and soak them in a chemical before disposing of them. I want to do this soon because I've been procrastinating.

 

[TheHolySword]

I won't be destroying anything. I want everyone to have things to remember me by. I'm not going to be here anymore so it doesn't make sense to destroy everything with me, let other people keep it since they can't keep me. That's just me though. If I were to be destroying anything I would have to agree that childhood photos would be the hardest. It's like erasing the last time I was happy and fully accepting that what could have been is gone.

 

[Opera]

Personally I wouldn't destroy anything, because it holds a lot of connection to myself. If I ever fail or backtrack in trying then I have something to fall back to. I think the hardest part though would be my friends, because I care about them. It would be hard, but it would be better for me to be at peace.

 

[J&L383]

I won't be destroying anything. I want everyone to have things to remember me by. I'm not going to be here anymore so it doesn't make sense to destroy everything with me, let other people keep it since they can't keep me. That's just me though. If I were to be destroying anything I would have to agree that childhood photos would be the hardest. It's like erasing the last time I was happy and fully accepting that what could have been is gone.

No destroying for me either. Let the people who have the lovely opportunity to dissect my things enjoy the process! I don't think I'll be around to worry about it once I'm dead anyway, although I could be wrong.

 

[savory]

I won't be destroying anything. I want everyone to have things to remember me by. I'm not going to be here anymore so it doesn't make sense to destroy everything with me, let other people keep it since they can't keep me. That's just me though. If I were to be destroying anything I would have to agree that childhood photos would be the hardest. It's like erasing the last time I was happy and fully accepting that what could have been is gone.

What you say makes sense and with your decision I can imagine it'll be comforting for your family when you're gone.

Personally I wouldn't destroy anything, because it holds a lot of connection to myself. If I ever fail or backtrack in trying then I have something to fall back to. I think the hardest part though would be my friends, because I care about them. It would be hard, but it would be better for me to be at peace.

That's understandable. I've considered I could change my mind about CBT, as I have many times, and regret destroying my pictures. I'm sorry you're struggling with letting go of your friends, that must be heartbreaking to consider

 

[avalokitesvara]

You don't have to destroy them. Why not leave them for your family? It won't matter to you either way. This sounds like putting needless stress on yourself.

I don't care about any of my possessions but I'm sad about my childhood teddy bear. I still have and love him after all these years. I guess I'll leave him behind and my mom can keep him, but that feels horribly tragic.

 

[savory]

No destroying for me either. Let the people who have the lovely opportunity to dissect my things enjoy the process! I don't think I'll be around to worry about it once I'm dead anyway, although I could be wrong.

I wish I felt the same. I don't want my personal belongings gone through. It's enough knowing my body will be looked at and handled. If it were possible I'd make it so I never existed at all.

 

[lnlybnny]

My beautiful memories. I wish I could take them with me

Also my pictures and signed stuff with/from my fav artist and everything regarding her and our interactions.

 

[savory]

You don't have to destroy them. Why not leave them for your family? It won't matter to you either way. This sounds like putting needless stress on yourself.

I don't care about any of my possessions but I'm sad about my childhood teddy bear. I still have and love him after all these years. I guess I'll leave him behind and my mom can keep him, but that feels horribly tragic.

I'll leave a few, again mostly with my mother in mind. I'm one of those people who hold so much shame they'd rather not be perceived at all. Even posting online 'anonymously' gives me anxiety. It's a painfully difficult thing to try to make others understand.

That's endearing about your teddy, I suppose he's been with you through a lot. I'm sorry you can't take him with you, hopefully your mom will take good care of him.

 

[VoidBlessed]

I'm indifferent to my possessions since once I'm dead I won't need them anymore. In one of my notes I explain to my family they can keep whatever they like as keepsakes.

What I'm more concerned about are photos. In the past few years I've tried to erase every photo of me out there and avoid any new photos being taken. Unlike Ozymandias, my goal is to be remembered for as short a time as possible and leave no material record of my presence here. I don't want to be tethered to the earth any longer than I have to be.

 

[savory]

My beautiful memories. I wish I could take them with me

Also my pictures and signed stuff with/from my fav artist and everything regarding her and our interactions.

If I believed in an afterlife I'd hope I could take certain memories and comforts with me as well

 

[phantomime]

i have also burned all of my childhood pictures and deleted every old drawings i had made as a kid and i make sure there are no pictures of me around too. i don't know why you're getting rid of yours but i understand not being able to look at yourself.
i don't think i would want to get rid of anything else but images of me. when i die i probably want my toys and my collections to be split inbetween my friends to remember me as things i really loved and found cute instead of my appearance, or be split to other fans of my Mori(my waifu whom i collect merchandise of), i don't think i want to be buried, i think i'd rather be forgotten and for it to be in a way no one can look at me ever again. if i end up having to be buried i think i would like to have some of my favorite Mori figures and toys like plushies buried with me.

 

[savory]

What I'm more concerned about are photos. In the past few years I've tried to erase every photo of me out there and avoid any new photos being taken. Unlike Ozymandias, my goal is to be remembered for as short a time as possible and leave no material record of my presence here. I don't want to be tethered to the earth any longer than I have to be.

I understand and respect your efforts!

 

[Forever Sleep]

I kind of feel sad I won't be able to enjoy music or films. I wonder what new releases I'll miss. Possessions though, I think I'm ok to leave. I inherited lots of keep sakes from deceased family members and as time has gone on and they've gone forvever, I've realised that it's all just stuff. Nothing brings them back.

 

[MercenariesofMidgar]

Other than my journals that honestly have been keeping me sane that I plan to rip and dump before I ctb I'm not planning to get rid of anything in life. If my family wants to throw away my knife that I used to sharpen my drawing pencils then so be it, or the plastic skeletons I collect every halloween, or my playstation memory cards... But I plan to give things like books, signed posters, games, etc. to family and friends that I know they will enjoy. It's just material; it goes to waste being unused.

 

[avalokitesvara]

I'll leave a few, again mostly with my mother in mind. I'm one of those people who hold so much shame they'd rather not be perceived at all. Even posting online 'anonymously' gives me anxiety. It's a painfully difficult thing to try to make others understand.

That's endearing about your teddy, I suppose he's been with you through a lot. I'm sorry you can't take him with you, hopefully your mom will take good care of him.

I understand. I think you're brave to post here, I'm glad you do. If I had a magic wand I would vanish myself and eternal sunshine myself from everyone's memory who knows me. At least, taking the long view, any memory and evidence of our existence will be completely wiped out eventually once everyone we know has also died. And the sun explodes

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

To me Nothing really matters except avoiding pain and suffering and bad problems, especially avoiding unbearable pain and extreme suffering . No possession nothing matters

I have to and want to kill myself asap

To me it's the pleasurable addictions that are crippling me from achieving my only rational goal

. To me it's the pleasurable addictions which keep me here and distract me from working to get my suicide ready to go and defeat si. So these I hate the most and to me are the most evil
Nothing really matters except avoiding pain and suffering and bad problems

So logically to me nothing is hard to part with it's all part of the same evil even the things u like as I wrote above are evil

I'll be glad to get rid of it all and get out of this nightmare . After Death I won't exist ever again.in non-existence I won't need anything so non-existence forever is the ultimate perfection

 

[savory]

probably want my toys and my collections to be split inbetween my friends to remember me as things i really loved and found cute instead of my appearance,

That's sweet of you to leave those things for your friends, I hope they'll appreciate them. While I'm getting rid of the bulk of my personal items, I'll be setting aside a few pictures and some items for my family members I think they'll each like.

The biggest reason I want to get rid of my photos is because of the internet. I've requested in the past for family members to take down images of me, and one hasn't. People don't get it. It's about my values/beliefs and is also trauma related... If you're buried, admittedly that does sounds cozy having all your sentimental beside you. Hopefully it's respected whatever you want. I plan to be cremated.

I kind of feel sad I won't be able to enjoy music or films. I wonder what new releases I'll miss. Possessions though, I think I'm ok to leave. I inherited lots of keep sakes from deceased family members and as time has gone on and they've gone forvever, I've realised that it's all just stuff. Nothing brings them back.

I understand about music and films, it is sad to think I won't enjoy or know those things anymore. And you make a good point about inheriting a deceased relatives possessions. A lot of it is just 'stuff' and will sit there unused or still in boxes. I've seen it be a huge burden on surviving family to sort through and decide where it all goes.

Other than my journals that honestly have been keeping me sane that I plan to rip and dump before I ctb

I hope that's not too painful for you to do when the time comes. For years it's been a regular practice for me to destroy my journals. Sometimes I regret it, mostly I do not.

I'll be glad to get rid of it all and get out of this nightmare . After Death I won't exist ever again.in non-existence I won't need anything so non-existence forever is the ultimate perfection

I'm sorry you're suffering and struggling with addiction, I can sense your agitation and restlessness to get beyond it all. May you find peace soon