People who were born exceptionally lucky

[wantedloser]

How do you deal with the guilt and shame of your own self knowing there are people in far worse conditions than you who are surviving, they do not even have the privilege to complain. There is so much suffering in the world.

 

[lamargue]

there will always be people suffering more than you, and always people that are suffering less. it's important probably to work through your own problems, and only then can you choose to help those who are less fortunate

 

[wantedloser]

there will always be people suffering more than you, and always people that are suffering less. it's important probably to work through your own problems, and only then can you choose to help those who are less fortunate

Yeah, but I feel like an ungrateful POS but my interests just are different, idk, just intp lore. Like I am so lucky in some ways, shouldn't I be happy? Why must my brain work this way. I guess I'll just vent now. Wish I could see past brain hardcoded attraction and love someone despite things they never chose.

 

[Grimpoteuthis]

I relate to this. When I was spiraling into depression, I did not even dare to vent anywhere because I have a life that is too fortunate for me to complain and reading people's stories online made me even more depressed, both from the empathetic perspective of being sorry for all the sufferings people have to endure and the selfish perspective of not even having a reason as valid and severe as theirs. I was filled by guilt of not deserving to suffer and therefore being "offensive" to and "appropriating" those who actually need help.

It takes a lot of time to get out of this mindset, but try to focus on yourself first and don't compare sufferings. You are not a saint and you can't save everyone, so at least save yourself.

 

[wantedloser]

I relate to this. When I was spiraling into depression, I did not even dare to vent anywhere because I have a life that is too fortunate for me to complain and reading people's stories online made me even more depressed, both from the empathetic perspective of being sorry for all the sufferings people have to endure and the selfish perspective of not even having a reason as valid and severe as theirs. I was filled by guilt of not deserving to suffer and therefore being "offensive" to and "appropriating" those who actually need help.

It takes a lot of time to get out of this mindset, but try to focus on yourself first and don't compare sufferings. You are not a saint and you can't save everyone, so at least save yourself.

Wow, yes, very well said. But some of my suffering is real, got hit with a pretty big nerf when I lost an eye. But before that I was blessed besides the anxiety and "happiness part" of my brain.

 

[Grimpoteuthis]

Wow, yes, very well said. But some of my suffering is real, got hit with a pretty big nerf when I lost an eye. But before that I was blessed besides the anxiety and "happiness part" of my brain.

I am sorry to hear that and I wish you the best. Tasting the sweetness before the bitterness hits has its pros and cons. On one side you are not miserable for your entire life, yet on the other side you know for sure that there exists a peaceful and soothing place where you can never go back.