Venting People who say you cut for attention

[LadyAlastor]

So I had a situation a couple of months back that just dawned on me throughout my depression, and that's when someone had said "people only cut for attention especially it's not on the wrist"

As an individual who cuts, I will say in my experience I've never cut for attention I have literally only cut so I didn't feel the mental pain or at least try not to feel it, it works for me, no it's not the best cover mechanism but hey it's something but yeah I've had to jump a lot of people's throats over that subject cuz I've got a lot of scars up my arm from cutting because I'd be having a manic episode or I would be so just gone that I would cut myself to make sure I was still alive because I felt that dead inside.

So yes I cut haven't gotten a while but I cut

 

[lofticries]

Yeah the cutting for attention thing is bullshit. The only reason I used to cut when I did is because I had no where to let out all my anger. Cutting was a way to bring me back to earth and stop the racing thoughts inside my head. I haven't cut in years which I'm proud of but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have moments where I missed it.

 

[Shadowplay]

I used to cut. I did discuss with some people, but that was not the main reason. I think some people do it for attention though.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

When I did it (it was a looong time ago) I did it to mask psychological pain with physical pain.
But, I must admit, a part of me was seeking attention. Although, I wouldn't call it seeking attention as much as a cry for help. Verbalizing my pain came off as either impossible or wasn't taken seriously. And since ordinary language didn't suffice, cutting was, in a way, writing about how I feel in a more universal language.

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

I understand people not understanding cutting but it would be nice if they just stepped back and stopped pushing their uninformed, mind-numbingly simplistic theories as absolute gospel.

I cut because it mitigates mental pain. There's also endorphin release and it lowers blood pressure. I don't do it on the wrist because it isn't a suicide attempt and I don't do it anywhere I can't cover with clothing (because people instantly decide you're mental and to be avoided, which I don't need more of).

I've tried to explain this but people short circuit and suggest I masturbate instead. Brilliant.

 

[restforeternity]

The cut on my wrist was my uneducated 16 year old self doing it the wrong way. I didn't make it count damn....I could have saved a life and 5 souls.

 

[Makko]

I've tried to explain this but people short circuit and suggest I masturbate instead. Brilliant.

Endorphins are endorphins. Right?

 

[callme]

Does it work? I largely never did, because never had the impulse, plus no available body part that stays covered for a long time. Summer comes eventually and it's damn hot.

 

[Yukako]

Does it work? I largely never did, because never had the impulse, plus no available body part that stays covered for a long time. Summer comes eventually and it's damn hot.

As OP said, it's not the best coping mechanism, you could get a really bad infection, had a friend that almost got her leg chop off cause of an infected cut, it replaces mental pain with a physical pain that sometimes is easier to cope with, i still don't recommend it tho, try to find another "healthier" coping mechanism like drawing or going out for a walk if possible. GL
-Yukako

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I don't understand why people say things like that. I guess it's good that they don't seem to have been in a place where cutting is a legitimate way to cope. And honestly, even if someone is cutting for attention, they still deserve some sort of help, so idk. It really rubs me the wrong way when people talk like that.

 

[netrezven]

Got this period for selfharm few years ago. No cut, just little burning, but never ever told anyone about it. It was the only way to rise adrenaline and stop that insane pain, my brain was pulling out from nothing. Mental pain can be alot worse than physical, and feel very physical.

 

[OrcWitch]

This october is my 2 year anniversary of abstaining from cutting. It is a difficult addiction. When I am feeling overwhelmed my mind still wants to go cut because it really does make all mental difficulties go *poof* and vanish in the moment. It's like a magic pill that deletes mental problems. I like that my arms are clean and I don't have to hide them under sleeves, but I have a few deep and broad scars that will probably never fade. Most are now little white lines that you would only noticed if you really examined my skin, but a few are these pink and raised marks that are very visible scars.

People like to say things about it being for attention because we don't like to acknowledge pain in people. And even if someone did want attention from their scars as a cry for help, it doesn't make their pain less real or something. There is a certain type of ignorant person that just gets very angry over the topic of self harm and wants to be judgmental/dismissive. They're morons.

 

[Yukako]

This october is my 2 year anniversary of abstaining from cutting. It is a difficult addiction.

Do you have any tips to get over it?

 

[OrcWitch]

Do you have any tips to get over it?

My thing is when I get overwhelmed I ground myself to bed and don't let myself get up, which prevents me from cutting. That's about all I do.

 

[Makko]

Do you have any tips to get over it?

My thing is when I get overwhelmed I ground myself to bed and don't let myself get up, which prevents me from cutting. That's about all I do.

See, being comfy is a good tip.

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

Endorphins are endorphins. Right?

Nah, not all endorphins are created equal. People say they get runner's high but whenever I do any hardcore exercise, I actually end up getting incandescently angry.

 

[stellabelle]

So I had a situation a couple of months back that just dawned on me throughout my depression, and that's when someone had said "people only cut for attention especially it's not on the wrist"

As an individual who cuts, I will say in my experience I've never cut for attention I have literally only cut so I didn't feel the mental pain or at least try not to feel it, it works for me, no it's not the best cover mechanism but hey it's something but yeah I've had to jump a lot of people's throats over that subject cuz I've got a lot of scars up my arm from cutting because I'd be having a manic episode or I would be so just gone that I would cut myself to make sure I was still alive because I felt that dead inside.

So yes I cut haven't gotten a while but I cut

I had always picked at scabs or cut my feet as a child and grew older started cutting in other ways. It wasn't for attention. It was because of the pain. The pain and lack of love or support or meaningful existence outside of being a pawn or someone's paycheck or a narcissistic extension of an abuser. Someone that refused to love you and instead just continued to ignore the problem, create bigger problems, lie and fuck around. Basically gave up from the very get go. There was nothing I could do to be loved by my mother and it killed me inside. It lead to overdosing all the time, nothing got better at school or at home, nothing ever good came out of it. She loved inmates but she never could love me. Her bullshit was always more important. Her secrecy and her abuse and hellraising. She had a hard on for causing trauma and emotional distress. She always played pretend. It wasn't fun. It got worse as I got older. They blamed me, instead of the situation that caused it. Oh well.