sharpiemarker

sharpiemarker

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I hope some people can relate to this, because it seems like this is only my problem. I struggle a lot with people never, or hardly ever showing compassion or empathy towards me. I think I'm pretty closed off with my feelings and stuff happening to me, so it's not really an issue of me always venting and draining people. My life problems are also not very small I think? Like constant family death, being almost killed, psychwards etc. like I don't wanna say that people not facing this are less important, but I think that's fair I am upset by this? But on rare occasions that I speak on this, people just stare at me with hollow eyes and pretty much push whatever I was talking about on the side, when I try my best to always help them or comfort them in opposite situations. It's not because I am friends with very cold, callous people- it's actually fucking worse, because I constantly see them giving so much support and love to people with even less "serious" issues. I don't know what is wrong with me or what am I doing wrong? I tried to improve on this in theraphy, but even then it was made out to be kinda in my head when even one of my closer friends admitted that this does happen to me constantly and she doesn't know why either. In the end I was told to kinda forget it, but how can I forget something like this? This is my whole life and it hurts me on a daily basis.

I wonder if someone here had a similar issue and overcame it?
 
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Im having something like the same issues. Even the most caring people turning their back when being confronted with me or they shush me away and cutting me of fast, when im trying to say or do anything.
With time, i became like "i dont give a fuck" about all this but still im venting at home alone and talking to my plush all the time how much i wished anyone else would be listening to me like her, but i have the feeling that my plush would run away if it could...idk

But im sending you a very big hug
 
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sharpiemarker

sharpiemarker

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Im having something like the same issues. Even the most caring people turning their back when being confronted with me or they shush me away and cutting me of fast, when im trying to say or do anything.
With time, i became like "i dont give a fuck" about all this but still im venting at home alone and talking to my plush all the time how much i wished anyone else would be listening to me like her, but i have the feeling that my plush would run away if it could...idk

But im sending you a very big hug
yes omg... i also talk to myself and i kinda have my therapist but obv it's not the same, theraphy is more focused on sloving stuff than comfort
 
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peony

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Nov 1, 2024
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I came to the conclusion that as a people pleaser I tend to attract one sided relationships, people who don't like me and don't want to waste compassion on me, but are eager to take mine, while they take care of people they actually care about. I never figured out how to "make" people care about me, or rather find compatible people. Psychs just tell you to keep looking, or like yours, don't believe you.
 
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