Stick
Experienced
- Aug 31, 2020
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I still sleep with my baby blankets, which isn't the point of this thread but I do, and I truly love them. I have an emotional connection to these dumb blankets, and I would be very sad if they ceased to exist. This is not because I care for them, they have no emotion, but because they stop bein what they mean to me. They stop being my source of comfort.
In that same way, when a death occurs, what causes sadness is not that the other people in the deceased's lives feel the dead person is suffering, but rather the dead is no longer alive, no longer fits their image and definition of that person. They cannot fulfill their role.
That's not to say real, genuine love isn't real-- but that isn't the aspect of love that causes the intense grief people feel after a death.
In this way, I don't quite feel guilty for planning to kill myself, because "I" am already dead. I am not the happy daughter, the future doctor, the hopeful teen that the people in my life have grown to love. They see my sadness and perspective on life as something that is keeping their version of me from reappearing--not the traits that the person I used to be has been replaced by. Also, it's not a good thing but I'm a rather different person, I think, than I appear to be to those I love.
It's only a matter of time before they grieve her disappearance, and so, I don't feel like I will be causing any extra pain when I die; I will simply be bringing the inevitable pain to an earlier date.
Most people view mental illness not as a part of the person it affects, but as something keeping them from being themselves. Sometimes, this can be true, but I don't think so in many cases. It changes how we think and who we are. It's only a matter of time before the people in our lives realize that we are not who they think we are, and they will grieve that image they had.
Again, I do believe I am truly loved, but I don't believe that that is the emotion that has the most impact at death. I think it is this false love that is more impactful on emotion.
In that same way, when a death occurs, what causes sadness is not that the other people in the deceased's lives feel the dead person is suffering, but rather the dead is no longer alive, no longer fits their image and definition of that person. They cannot fulfill their role.
That's not to say real, genuine love isn't real-- but that isn't the aspect of love that causes the intense grief people feel after a death.
In this way, I don't quite feel guilty for planning to kill myself, because "I" am already dead. I am not the happy daughter, the future doctor, the hopeful teen that the people in my life have grown to love. They see my sadness and perspective on life as something that is keeping their version of me from reappearing--not the traits that the person I used to be has been replaced by. Also, it's not a good thing but I'm a rather different person, I think, than I appear to be to those I love.
It's only a matter of time before they grieve her disappearance, and so, I don't feel like I will be causing any extra pain when I die; I will simply be bringing the inevitable pain to an earlier date.
Most people view mental illness not as a part of the person it affects, but as something keeping them from being themselves. Sometimes, this can be true, but I don't think so in many cases. It changes how we think and who we are. It's only a matter of time before the people in our lives realize that we are not who they think we are, and they will grieve that image they had.
Again, I do believe I am truly loved, but I don't believe that that is the emotion that has the most impact at death. I think it is this false love that is more impactful on emotion.