People are so hard

[Dear_headlights]

Isolation and lonliness is a part of why i want to ctb and i thought it couldnt hurt to try one more social thing before i give up. I tried my best to go in with a good attitude but throughout it i slowly lost energy before giving up and leaving. I hardly said i word to anyone. I just dont understand people. All they did was shout random shit and laugh it was like watching animals in a zoo... not to say im better than them, just i feel that distanced from them. I think tonight i learned its never going to happen. I will never have freinds let alone a relationship, ive been alone my whole life and its going to stay that way.

 

[SinisterKid]

So what type of social event was it?

 

[Sensei]

I don't know your life situation and maybe this sounds stupid, but... The majority is not always right. Maybe there's not something wrong with you but rather the people you meet? If you could meet people who are on your wavelength, maybe it would turn out better?

 

[Sweet emotion]

Isolation and lonliness is a part of why i want to ctb and i thought it couldnt hurt to try one more social thing before i give up. I tried my best to go in with a good attitude but throughout it i slowly lost energy before giving up and leaving. I hardly said i word to anyone. I just dont understand people. All they did was shout random shit and laugh it was like watching animals in a zoo... not to say im better than them, just i feel that distanced from them. I think tonight i learned its never going to happen. I will never have freinds let alone a relationship, ive been alone my whole life and its going to stay that way.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way but you said yourself you just went in, and I have no idea where you were because you didnt say, and just gave up. You can't blame people if you're the one giving up. You said you hardly said a word to anyone. Well how is it their fault then if you're not sociable? If you're not approachable people aren't going to flock to you. By what you say it sounds like you're the one with the issue so maybe you can see a therapist to learn how to socialize with others?

 

[Mr2005]

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I thought they were very reasonable actually. Group dynamics can be uncomfortable if they have their click and your not part of it.

 

[Sweet emotion]

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I thought they were very reasonable actually. Group dynamics can be uncomfortable if they have their click and your not part of it.

They who?

 

[MourningHeart]

Isolation and lonliness is a part of why i want to ctb and i thought it couldnt hurt to try one more social thing before i give up. I tried my best to go in with a good attitude but throughout it i slowly lost energy before giving up and leaving. I hardly said i word to anyone. I just dont understand people. All they did was shout random shit and laugh it was like watching animals in a zoo... not to say im better than them, just i feel that distanced from them. I think tonight i learned its never going to happen. I will never have freinds let alone a relationship, ive been alone my whole life and its going to stay that way.

I'm sorry that you feel so marginalized. I know how much it can hurt to be alone. Maybe you are very introverted?

 

[Mr2005]

They who?

Dear headlights

 

[Sweet emotion]

I don't know your life situation and maybe this sounds stupid, but... The majority is not always right. Maybe there's not something wrong with you but rather the people you meet? If you could meet people who are on your wavelength, maybe it would turn out better?

It seems like she was the problem. She said she didn't bother to socialize or say one word and got sick if everyone very easily. Can't come plain about something if you're not willing to do something about it.
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Dear headlights

You mean the person that posted. Because you said they so I had no idea who you were talking about. Doesn't sound reasonable to me if the person didn't say a word and had no energy to talk to anyone. He or she...don't know if it's a guy or a girl, is doing this to themselves. It's really not that hard to be social.

 

[Dear_headlights]

Im not even gonna bother to argue, cant believe that here of all places i still get told i just need to try harder.

 

[Sweet emotion]

Im not even gonna bother to argue, cant believe that here of all places i still get told i just need to try harder.

I promise I'm not trying to argue with you. I'm just going by what you said. And what you said is that you didn't try at all.

 

[Sensei]

Im not even gonna bother to argue, cant believe that here of all places i still get told i just need to try harder.

I don't necessarily think so. I probably didn't express myself clearly in my post above. What I mean is, is it really a good thing to talk and socialize non-stop as (I assume) the people you meet do? Sometimes it's a good thing to take it easy and be mindful in social situations. Maybe if you meet people like you instead, you'll do just fine? I don't know if this makes sense.

 

[Sweet emotion]

I don't necessarily think so. I probably didn't express myself clearly in my post above. What I mean is, is it really a good thing to talk and socialize non-stop as (I assume) the people you meet do? Sometimes it's a good thing to take it easy and be mindful in social situations. Maybe if you meet people like you instead, you'll do just fine? I don't know if this makes sense.

Well you have to socialize with people in order to get to know them and she's unable to do that.

 

[Sensei]

Well you have to socialize with people in order to get to know them and she's unable to do that.

Indeed, but maybe it's easier to socialize with other people than those who surround her?

 

[LaBrava]

Isolation and lonliness is a part of why i want to ctb and i thought it couldnt hurt to try one more social thing before i give up. I tried my best to go in with a good attitude but throughout it i slowly lost energy before giving up and leaving. I hardly said i word to anyone. I just dont understand people. All they did was shout random shit and laugh it was like watching animals in a zoo... not to say im better than them, just i feel that distanced from them. I think tonight i learned its never going to happen. I will never have freinds let alone a relationship, ive been alone my whole life and its going to stay that way.

I think a fair few people here also find that they just don't seem to gel with other people and socialising at the kind of events just feels tiring and alienating.

 

[azucaramargo]

I think a fair few people here also find that they just don't seem to gel with other people and socialising at the kind of events just feels tiring and alienating.

I love your screen name, @LaBrava. Every time I see it, I feel happy.

 

[CuriousAboutThis]

Isolation and lonliness is a part of why i want to ctb and i thought it couldnt hurt to try one more social thing before i give up. I tried my best to go in with a good attitude but throughout it i slowly lost energy before giving up and leaving. I hardly said i word to anyone. I just dont understand people. All they did was shout random shit and laugh it was like watching animals in a zoo... not to say im better than them, just i feel that distanced from them. I think tonight i learned its never going to happen. I will never have freinds let alone a relationship, ive been alone my whole life and its going to stay that way.

Feel free to socialize with people on here I might not always be here because I know I can't do anymore suicide attempts because I am no longer in that state of mind until someone ruins it for me.

Sometimes I feel the same subjective way but relatively speaking I am never alone I think about the people in my life who truly care about me who don't want me to die while acknowledging there are those around me who abused, used, lied to, stolen from, and manipulated me and it really was as much as their fault as it was my own, so I hope you continue to live even if you don't want to I won't want to judge you since I don't know you or your life situation and I do t want to make it worse for you if you do CTB may it be painless and peaceful.