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tiredxillenial
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- Jul 19, 2020
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Tried meds, tried ketamine, tried TMS. I think I can say this depression is truly treatment resistant. I am tired of seeing myself neglect things I care about because of this depression. It has become apparant to me this week that my therapist is willing to let me continue to decline. I have been talking about wanting to actually be proactive in treating my depression instead of just keeping me from killing myself. I thought I had finally got through to her but in session this week she suggested not pursuing further medical treatment and having a backup hospitalization plan. This is completly unacceptable. Part of what I'm dealing with is mental health stigma and because psych hospitals keep you from email and cell phone, there is no way I could do a psych hospitalization without being outed at work. I would rather die than do that. Anyway, therapist has reached out to tms provider saying I would ask for ect and she doesn't think it's a good idea. I have been dealing with depression for years and have seen it whittle away most everything I care about. I have been at my last straw and her doing this only closes doors for me. She took away my gun and ammo but now I am buying replacements because I need that option.
My choices moving forward are: 1) try ect now as a proactive measure (no one is willing to perscribe it though and my therapist has now closed off what was likely my only path to it); 2) ignore it all, try to focus on wrapping up projects, kill myself when I have the first indications of a decline (this is likely what I'm doing); 3) kill self now to avoid inevietable future slide into more depression (the benefit of this is that I won't see myself continue to neglect the thigns I love due to depression); 4) have a perscriber on tap willing to get me into treatment the moment I show I am declining; 5) wait- allow depression to take its course and either I live or I die (the drawback is that this means commiting myself to more suffering.)
My choice would be trying ect because I really am at my last straw. If I can't turn the depression around though I would rather kill myself than continue to suffer or see myself lose even more or continue to neglect the thigns I care about. People don't understand this and think living misery is better. I wish I could explain my situation to doctors and ask for advice about how to move forward, but they won't accept killing oneself as a valid option and they'll just tell me to reach out to a psychiatrist. That's the problem though- I've been there and done that and it has only wasted money and further convinced me that dying is a good choice: the unwillingness of psychiatrists to treat this more aggressively when I am asking them is frustrating and tells me that killing myself is likely the most dignified option I have. Because I can still work though, no one seems to understand that I've been at my last straw and am simply unwilling to continue to lose more to depression and that I prefer death over continued decline.
I am going to stop seeing the therapist who is willing to let me decline further, doesn't want me to pursue what is my last option for treatment, and is closing doors for me to do that. I'm just frustrated. I don't know if there are other options I'm maybe not seeing, but I just wanted to say my situation to people who might understand and who will not think that death should be avoided at all costs. I've tried playing by the rules providers have given me and it's just been utterly fruitless and harmful. At this point, if I can't try that last treatment option, dying would be far more dignified and preferable than ongoing decline or suffering.
I hope to replace my gun and ammo this weekend. I am searching multiple sites to find replacements. I'm gonna finish tms treatment on tuesday but I don't think asking the provider for an ect referral will be fruitful at this point thanks to the therapist, so i'm likely just going to drop contact. I'm not going to cancel therapy just yet, because I don't want to raise suspicion, but closer to the date of the next scheduled session i'm gonna ask to skip that week because the week has been a lot. I think that messaging about a week later that i'm gonna stop therapy because i can't work with a therapist who is willing to have me decline further and doesn't listen to me, will hopefully not result in any attempt to section me. And of course if I get a replacement gun and ammo this weekend or asap, then I can do the most dignified thing I have left to do.
My choices moving forward are: 1) try ect now as a proactive measure (no one is willing to perscribe it though and my therapist has now closed off what was likely my only path to it); 2) ignore it all, try to focus on wrapping up projects, kill myself when I have the first indications of a decline (this is likely what I'm doing); 3) kill self now to avoid inevietable future slide into more depression (the benefit of this is that I won't see myself continue to neglect the thigns I love due to depression); 4) have a perscriber on tap willing to get me into treatment the moment I show I am declining; 5) wait- allow depression to take its course and either I live or I die (the drawback is that this means commiting myself to more suffering.)
My choice would be trying ect because I really am at my last straw. If I can't turn the depression around though I would rather kill myself than continue to suffer or see myself lose even more or continue to neglect the thigns I care about. People don't understand this and think living misery is better. I wish I could explain my situation to doctors and ask for advice about how to move forward, but they won't accept killing oneself as a valid option and they'll just tell me to reach out to a psychiatrist. That's the problem though- I've been there and done that and it has only wasted money and further convinced me that dying is a good choice: the unwillingness of psychiatrists to treat this more aggressively when I am asking them is frustrating and tells me that killing myself is likely the most dignified option I have. Because I can still work though, no one seems to understand that I've been at my last straw and am simply unwilling to continue to lose more to depression and that I prefer death over continued decline.
I am going to stop seeing the therapist who is willing to let me decline further, doesn't want me to pursue what is my last option for treatment, and is closing doors for me to do that. I'm just frustrated. I don't know if there are other options I'm maybe not seeing, but I just wanted to say my situation to people who might understand and who will not think that death should be avoided at all costs. I've tried playing by the rules providers have given me and it's just been utterly fruitless and harmful. At this point, if I can't try that last treatment option, dying would be far more dignified and preferable than ongoing decline or suffering.
I hope to replace my gun and ammo this weekend. I am searching multiple sites to find replacements. I'm gonna finish tms treatment on tuesday but I don't think asking the provider for an ect referral will be fruitful at this point thanks to the therapist, so i'm likely just going to drop contact. I'm not going to cancel therapy just yet, because I don't want to raise suspicion, but closer to the date of the next scheduled session i'm gonna ask to skip that week because the week has been a lot. I think that messaging about a week later that i'm gonna stop therapy because i can't work with a therapist who is willing to have me decline further and doesn't listen to me, will hopefully not result in any attempt to section me. And of course if I get a replacement gun and ammo this weekend or asap, then I can do the most dignified thing I have left to do.