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Ready2GoNow
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- Sep 10, 2020
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I feel beyond sick and triggered right now.
My birth-givers were both extremely abusive. Physically and mentally. They completely destroyed not only my childhood, but my entire future too. I went from being top of the class to being unable to pass. I developed thyroid problems (which have been scientifically proven to be linked to child abuse), anxiety and PTSD.
In adulthood, my birth-givers shunned me from all family events. They said I'd embarrass them, or that other family members didn't want me there. They set up a family group chat and included distant relatives, but not me. They didn't even tell me my sister was pregnant. I found out from a distant cousin. They completely shunned me and treated me worse than a stray dog. But treat my sister like a queen. Go figure.
Tonight my 'dad' messaged me saying he's in my country (they live abroad), and asking when they can come visit. I said never. The last time I went to visit them they treated me like shit, to the point where I left 2 weeks early. I had even taken them £500 worth of gifts, which of course I didn't even get a thank you for. I've spent my entire adulthood trying to buy their love, it's pretty sad. It was my birthday a month later and they got me the same thing they always get me: nothing.
Anyway, the point is that they're shitty people. Yet they have no self awareness. My 'dad' couldn't understand why I didn't want to see him. He kept saying 'we've always been so good to you' and similar bs. I brought up the child abuse, and we got into a debate about it. Of course he denied it as always, then said I deserved it because I was a bad kid and skipped school... so I was a normal kid then...
He knows I tried to commit suicide a year ago. He hasn't checked on me since. He hasn't changed or made any effort. Yet he had the nerve to say HE'S 'been suffering greatly by how divided our family is'. I told him he has no clue what suffering is, and that the only one of us who's suffering is the one who's planning their own death soon.
He responded by saying 'I have to go to bed. We're always here until the last breath (not sure if he meant his or mine...) ready to help, you can call us anytime. Goodbye. Never forget that no one will love you more than we do. You will always be in our thoughts and hearts. I'm sorry for everything. Until one day'
I feel so sick and drained. Idk what I expected but it certainly wasn't a goodbye. He accepted my death like it means nothing. Wow...
To make matters worse my SN seems to be lost in the mail, there's been no update in 8 days. What did I do to deserve this life?
My birth-givers were both extremely abusive. Physically and mentally. They completely destroyed not only my childhood, but my entire future too. I went from being top of the class to being unable to pass. I developed thyroid problems (which have been scientifically proven to be linked to child abuse), anxiety and PTSD.
In adulthood, my birth-givers shunned me from all family events. They said I'd embarrass them, or that other family members didn't want me there. They set up a family group chat and included distant relatives, but not me. They didn't even tell me my sister was pregnant. I found out from a distant cousin. They completely shunned me and treated me worse than a stray dog. But treat my sister like a queen. Go figure.
Tonight my 'dad' messaged me saying he's in my country (they live abroad), and asking when they can come visit. I said never. The last time I went to visit them they treated me like shit, to the point where I left 2 weeks early. I had even taken them £500 worth of gifts, which of course I didn't even get a thank you for. I've spent my entire adulthood trying to buy their love, it's pretty sad. It was my birthday a month later and they got me the same thing they always get me: nothing.
Anyway, the point is that they're shitty people. Yet they have no self awareness. My 'dad' couldn't understand why I didn't want to see him. He kept saying 'we've always been so good to you' and similar bs. I brought up the child abuse, and we got into a debate about it. Of course he denied it as always, then said I deserved it because I was a bad kid and skipped school... so I was a normal kid then...
He knows I tried to commit suicide a year ago. He hasn't checked on me since. He hasn't changed or made any effort. Yet he had the nerve to say HE'S 'been suffering greatly by how divided our family is'. I told him he has no clue what suffering is, and that the only one of us who's suffering is the one who's planning their own death soon.
He responded by saying 'I have to go to bed. We're always here until the last breath (not sure if he meant his or mine...) ready to help, you can call us anytime. Goodbye. Never forget that no one will love you more than we do. You will always be in our thoughts and hearts. I'm sorry for everything. Until one day'
I feel so sick and drained. Idk what I expected but it certainly wasn't a goodbye. He accepted my death like it means nothing. Wow...
To make matters worse my SN seems to be lost in the mail, there's been no update in 8 days. What did I do to deserve this life?