Over 5 years of (NHS) Therapy ended

[ScottishFox]

I had been in therapy for around 5.5 years, ending in March 23. I had one goal, and therapist said in order to tackle that we first had to remove my "shield" , which took around 5 years (I think actually was achieved earlier but she kept wanting me to more vulnerable), so finally she agrees we have achieved removal of the shield and finally start tackling my main goal, we spend one session on it, then immediately at the following session was "We need to pause", I fought and got a review, meant to have had 6 more sessions (unfortunately focusing on Imagery rather than CBT), and after previously being told as Had been in therapy for so long it would be a gradual exit, instead I was given just one exit session, and at that exit session when all previous mentions of pause were "When you resume, I will be happy to continue treating you) instead when it comes to the exit it was suddenly "If" you return, we will see "If" we can help you, giving me no hope that my problems will be fixed and took away my shield which had allowed me to live reasonable well though without romantic relationships, but no with no shield and being more exposed to my negatives feelings, I need to to strong sleeping pills to get me to sleep, and sometimes I second one at night / early morning to progress sleep.

Also when she mentioned we needed to pause, she said "I still think you are slightly Austic" when years before (was before Covid), she hot me to do a very short test, which deemed I was unlikely to be autistic and only work we did was everyone is on the spectrum and i thought we both agreed I was on the neurotypical side of spectrum and we left it like that. She knows one of the things I struggled with was wanting to be normal, so she just casually drops you I think you are rustic without then doing on work on it (e.g. this means you should do X, or be aware of Y,etc), it was just said a thruway comment.

Anyone have any NHS success stories for psychology / talk therapy?

Is it worth trying f0r me to return (though Imagine with a new therapist) or would I simply be wasting even more time.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

From my anecdotal personal experience it wouldn't worth it.

According to what I have read the NHS has egregiously long waiting times anyways.

But mg experience isn't necessarily all that relevant.

I'm sorry that happened. Emotional whiplashes like that can be very difficult to bear. I recommend you check the subreddit r/therapyabuse.

 

[ScottishFox]

Thanks

 

[Kattt]

I'm a psychotherapist and work in the NHS. I can't speak for other therapists, but the most important thing is to build a relationship with mutual trust and faith in the confidentiality that is required of all registered practicioners. This can take a while to achieve, but definitely not five years. It's one of the reasons why online therapy is not capable of achieving the same results that traditional methods are.
I can't tell you whether continuing with further sessions is the right thing for you. The only person who knows that is you.

 

[mia_qwerty]

Sounds weird like you were left kind of undone. Un shielded. And the ending sessions need to be a number of them esp after 5 years. You could always apply for another therapist.

 

[Meditation guide]

I had been in therapy for around 5.5 years, ending in March 23. I had one goal, and therapist said in order to tackle that we first had to remove my "shield" , which took around 5 years (I think actually was achieved earlier but she kept wanting me to more vulnerable), so finally she agrees we have achieved removal of the shield and finally start tackling my main goal, we spend one session on it, then immediately at the following session was "We need to pause", I fought and got a review, meant to have had 6 more sessions (unfortunately focusing on Imagery rather than CBT), and after previously being told as Had been in therapy for so long it would be a gradual exit, instead I was given just one exit session, and at that exit session when all previous mentions of pause were "When you resume, I will be happy to continue treating you) instead when it comes to the exit it was suddenly "If" you return, we will see "If" we can help you, giving me no hope that my problems will be fixed and took away my shield which had allowed me to live reasonable well though without romantic relationships, but no with no shield and being more exposed to my negatives feelings, I need to to strong sleeping pills to get me to sleep, and sometimes I second one at night / early morning to progress sleep.

Also when she mentioned we needed to pause, she said "I still think you are slightly Austic" when years before (was before Covid), she hot me to do a very short test, which deemed I was unlikely to be autistic and only work we did was everyone is on the spectrum and i thought we both agreed I was on the neurotypical side of spectrum and we left it like that. She knows one of the things I struggled with was wanting to be normal, so she just casually drops you I think you are rustic without then doing on work on it (e.g. this means you should do X, or be aware of Y,etc), it was just said a thruway comment.

Anyone have any NHS success stories for psychology / talk therapy?

Is it worth trying f0r me to return (though Imagine with a new therapist) or would I simply be wasting even more time.

I see how vulnerable you are to anything she tells you, which in my opinion, based on what I went through with a couple of psychiatrists, was really terrible for my thinking over the long run.

We come to feel that they know better than we do what we need and we put ourselves into the hands of these therapists, assuming they know best, and will make everything ok if we put our lives in their hands.

I finally realized I would not only not recover with any help from any therapists but was being made dependent and vulnerable by them. That was my unfortunate experience anyway, maybe you're not in the same situation.

The thing to realize is they don't care about you at all. They just sit there with you to get paid.

 

[gbi2]

The NHS is completely fucked. I have foremd that opinion both from several health conditions they have failed to treat, even when they wree easy, and from working there.

The non-clinical staff think they run teh healthcare system now. They don't listen to the doctors who know the score and the doctors who don't know the score are happy to stick to the script to keep up teh 'business as usual' approach that doesn't work.

If anyone attempts to go ahead iwth NHs treatment they need to understand you need to be forceful with them when they suggest treatment that wont work., Tell them they are rubbish at what they do and how they probaly wouldn't figure out how to get a cat out of a pile of cushions.

The NHs now only employs people who already ahve a higher graded position in mind. Healthcare is secondary to them. Do not trust them to fix your health.

 

[Kattt]

Just want to point out that NHS employees are paid a salary