Why is the vote publicly visible? Ain't voting!
Lol I see what you're saying.
I will admit I said yes but it doesn't mean I think anything is going to come of it, I just feel the thread is a beacon of what will continue to happen regardless, people will pm one another and evolve their communication into a meet-up quite easily, same as anywhere else, as Symbiote mentioned.
So in that way we are not taking away anyone's autonomy by simply removing the thread. At the same time, we wouldn't exactly be solving the problem either.
A problem that is admittedly, much worse on more popular and well known sites/apps.
People will do as they please whether I agree with it or not, I don't want to tie anyone down and prevent them from going forward with what they want when it comes to ending their suffering, even if it could harm them.
If I did, I would not be much better than those who want to lock someone up for being suicidal.
But-besides the fact that many partnerships don't actually end in putting a stop to the suffering via ctb-as others have brought up, most ignore the cautionary measures and any warnings and advice the site admins/mods give out on the matter.
We can't cure willful ignorance of safety, and "safety" might be an ironic word to use in the context of suicide, but I think we all want to avoid anymore excessive harm to ourselves (save for a select few who may have some wild ideas).
Another thing to add is that some predators play the long game, you could meet up in a safe place, multiple times, before you are lulled into a false sense of security, and the one time you follow this new found friend into the shadows, you're done for. Because eventually it's going to happen, especially if you are actually going to go through with the suicide together, I doubt most partnerships end their lives in the middle of a public market.
As far as the censorship aspect, this site has had to censor certain things before for the benefit of its user base, we are certainly not a free-for-all, and I would never advocate to censor the topic of partnerships, or a person bringing up the desire on their own, but that thread is not really a topic of discussion, the last time I checked it appeared more like a list of people advertising themselves to eachother, and IMO, that makes things a little too easy for the prey to be scoped out by the predators, also a great way for them to fish using their own bullshit description.
I don't enjoy having to say this because I don't want to bring any detriment to a necessary place or give the pro-life delirium any substance to twist to fit their insane narrative, but I have to be honest.
And yes, I am obviously not open to partnerships and I think the whole idea of a pact is highly unfavorable to both parties. As I've said before on other threads, beyond the danger aspect, I find it very unlikely that two people would be on the exact same page and become ready to die at the exact same time, without some coercion going on, on one side or the other. People are less likely to appeal to their own trepidation and doubt when there is peer pressure, even if unspoken.
Idk about anybody else but even if someone tells me "no pressure", I will still feel the pressure, especially if there's another person involved and I see the frustration and desperation on their face.
On a lighter note, there are also partnerships that end with one person turning heel and trying to tell the other person not to go through with it, for selfish reasons, or because that was their plan all along, wasting the actually suicidal's time, effort, and sanity..where I suppose the only danger is a whopping dose of irritation and betrayal of a purported shared values/beliefs system.
Other meet-ups that may be on the 'recovery' side of things can also lead to unnecessary drama and doxxing, negating the positives and leading to one or both parties spiraling, so no matter what your reason for taking the plunge, there is a spectrum of risks to take into consideration that most are not appreciating.
It's definitely something I may have to think more on after reading some of the replies here, because some do get a benefit out of it and may have different backgrounds where the idea of meeting in person is a lot more tantalizing or necessary to alleviate their loneliness, but all I know for certain is that it's something I won't personally ever give the time of day.
