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Wisdom3_1-9
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- Jul 19, 2020
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I'm going to say something I've never said on this site before. We are not always a supportive community. I've posted time and time again about how welcoming, supportive, and compassionate the SS community is. But, like any community, we are not perfect.
I've seen several examples now of people reacting to others' pain in not-so-compassionate ways. I've seen posts intended to antagonize or demonize. I've seen threads hijacked by arguments that overshadow the OP's concerns.
In such a community, I think it's important that we all remember that it costs nothing to simply be kind. No matter how much people share of their lives on here, we can never understand their full story. All they seek is a little kindness and understanding.
Now I don't mean that we should stifle debate or let people misuse the forums. But surely we can engage civilly. We don't have to agree with every OP or feel empathy for their situation, but it doesn't mean we have to interject with hurtful, insensitive comments. Each thread, each post on this site is a leap of faith. It's someone who has been pushed aside by the world for some reason - maybe even by their own fault. Each post is an attempt to reach out to find some semblance of understanding and belonging. You don't have to agree or empathize or hug/cry/like. But I think it's good to remember that it costs you nothing to be kind.
I realize this is all a bit idealistic, and it generally ignores the fact that many people on this site also suffer with mental health issues that affect social interactions. I don't want to negate that element, but I still think it's important that this is a site that lifts people up. What better way to show the pro-lifers what true compassion looks like?
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I've seen several examples now of people reacting to others' pain in not-so-compassionate ways. I've seen posts intended to antagonize or demonize. I've seen threads hijacked by arguments that overshadow the OP's concerns.
In such a community, I think it's important that we all remember that it costs nothing to simply be kind. No matter how much people share of their lives on here, we can never understand their full story. All they seek is a little kindness and understanding.
Now I don't mean that we should stifle debate or let people misuse the forums. But surely we can engage civilly. We don't have to agree with every OP or feel empathy for their situation, but it doesn't mean we have to interject with hurtful, insensitive comments. Each thread, each post on this site is a leap of faith. It's someone who has been pushed aside by the world for some reason - maybe even by their own fault. Each post is an attempt to reach out to find some semblance of understanding and belonging. You don't have to agree or empathize or hug/cry/like. But I think it's good to remember that it costs you nothing to be kind.
I realize this is all a bit idealistic, and it generally ignores the fact that many people on this site also suffer with mental health issues that affect social interactions. I don't want to negate that element, but I still think it's important that this is a site that lifts people up. What better way to show the pro-lifers what true compassion looks like?
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