Never realized I was wasting my life until it was too late

[Worthless loser]

I am 31 now - far too old to ever come back in life or fix everything I screwed up. I am miles behind everyone else my age. I have no career, little money, no skills, no family except parents, no friends, single most of my 20s, and now I have no future. I've been a loser for so long that now it has permanently ruined my life. People my age are married and having children, buying homes, rising in their careers, and moving forward in life. I can't believe how badly I screwed up. It is such a bitter pill to swallow that I completely wasted my life and there is nothing left for me. I am so envious of other people my age, and ashamed and embarrassed- especially when I see people younger than me doing so much better. I am hurting so much thinking about this everyday. People lie to me and tell me I could still do something, but it's not true. It's too late for me. Life is a competition that I have lost. I'm basically a hobbled horse, and it's well known what happens to them.

 

[Final Escape]

31 is not too late I did have the same thing happen but imagine being 43 and female. I took my relationships for granted in my 20's, decided kids would be inconvenient and just aborted them, I know right? I look back in absolute horror. I became a drug addicted prostitute, sucked at normal employment, I had suffered a lot of neglect as a kid so I'm not entirely blaming myself for how I dealt with life. I'm still very ashamed though. Just today I was walking around this park that has a lake in the middle. There was all these beautiful people and couples, with kids, attractive young people who seem like they are doing great. I felt like the biggest loser being old, alone, and poor. I did see some homeless or disheveled people in the park too and I thought that's me pretty soon give me just a few more years. I'll be walking around with scraggly hair, missing teeth, mismatched clothing. Are u male or female? Guys have a bit longer to figure things out. You are at the age where it's important to act on any goals right away as it does get harder once u get to like 40. You can still change at this point. All those people may not be doing as great as u think it just looks like it from the outside.

 

[Mr2005]

I am 31 now - far too old to ever come back in life or fix everything I screwed up. I am miles behind everyone else my age. I have no career, little money, no skills, no family except parents, no friends, single most of my 20s, and now I have no future. I've been a loser for so long that now it has permanently ruined my life. People my age are married and having children, buying homes, rising in their careers, and moving forward in life. I can't believe how badly I screwed up. It is such a bitter pill to swallow that I completely wasted my life and there is nothing left for me. I am so envious of other people my age, and ashamed and embarrassed- especially when I see people younger than me doing so much better. I am hurting so much thinking about this everyday. People lie to me and tell me I could still do something, but it's not true. It's too late for me. Life is a competition that I have lost. I'm basically a hobbled horse, and it's well known what happens to them.

We've pretty much done the same thing and arrived at the same place

 

[Margimet]

I am 31 now - far too old to ever come back in life or fix everything I screwed up. I am miles behind everyone else my age. I have no career, little money, no skills, no family except parents, no friends, single most of my 20s, and now I have no future. I've been a loser for so long that now it has permanently ruined my life. People my age are married and having children, buying homes, rising in their careers, and moving forward in life. I can't believe how badly I screwed up. It is such a bitter pill to swallow that I completely wasted my life and there is nothing left for me. I am so envious of other people my age, and ashamed and embarrassed- especially when I see people younger than me doing so much better. I am hurting so much thinking about this everyday. People lie to me and tell me I could still do something, but it's not true. It's too late for me. Life is a competition that I have lost. I'm basically a hobbled horse, and it's well known what happens to them.

Wrote my story. I wish I could do something for you. Perhaps there are no words to comfort us. I send you a loving hug

 

[randomz]

@Worthless loser I think I am going this way too. I dont think you are such a loser though. You still have your parents, you might not have a career or a lot of money but you stil have a job and make money, right? Everyone progresses through life in their own pace and you must not let the society's rat race get to you. You still have time to find a partner and have kids, also buy/rent a home. There are people who do all this stuff even later in their lifes.

 

[puppy9]

Dude I'm 27 yo and I feel exactly the same. I guess the pain grows as you age. I'm afraid to turn 31. Please don't take me 28, 29, 30, 31.....
If this makes you feel better I'm also a loser like you. Losers unite. At least I'm not alone. sigh

 

[alexK]

I feel the same. Had so much potentials and opportunities delivered my way in a silver platter that I just threw away. I was ahead of everyone my age in my community and I just took things for granted. I am 25 now turning 26 in May and I feel like a useless human trash. I have a degree that I might as well throw in the trash as I've been unemployed for 2 years and a half. I see how certain people I used to view as incompetent and stupid miles ahead of me and doing much better and I look at myself deteriorating into the abyss of nothingness.

 

[Tired_Tired]

If you married someone, and then have kids. Few years later, you find out she is not your life partner. Your nightmare just began. Alone is not so bad. When you are hungry, only you are hungry. The only problem is who will take care of your funeral if you really care you should have tomb.

 

[NumbItAll]

Late 20s and I feel the same way at times, but what was the alternative? Get into a miserable, soul-sucking career and force an unfulfilling relationship for the sake of having one? There are many different ways to light you life on fire! Plus, by holding out, there is still time to improve things. It's not so easy to get out of an ill-advised marriage, home mortgage, responsibility of children, etc...

 

[WornOutLife]

I'll be 33 tomorrow and I feel the same as you in many aspects.
However, if you really commit to it, I can assure you you'll be better at something you weren't so good before.
For instance, japanese. Last year my japanese skills sucked but I studied and studied and studied and now I'm getting the hang of it.

Still, this is not some pro-life speech.

Life is hard and the more time passes by, the worse it gets.

There's lots of things I regret doing but there are some I don't.

I'll probably leave this world this year but I'll give life a shot one more time during these months.

Anyway, hope you feel better soon, pal and remember: you're not as old as you think.

 

[Phill]

I'm 30 and I feel exactly the same. Single, no career, no degree, no car, little money, living with my parents, and even the mediocre job I have has its days numbered (I was communicated last week the position I occupy will be cut off). The friends I had in secondary school are doing good today. You know, they married, have children, career, are buying their own houses and cars, etc. I kinda pushed myself away from them because I would feel like crap every time we met. I feel lost and I know I'm the one to blame.