Venting my stepdad is a piece of shit.

[hyacinths]

i don't know if ive ever possibly been so disgusted with someone before. a few years ago my stepdad had been cheating on my mom with someone else, got caught and apologized. my mom gave him the benefit of the doubt and tried taking him back. i moved out around that time bc i just could not stand to be around him anymore. he moved out about a year later, saying he needed space, and then i moved back in to keep my mom company (im her only child) and because i had lost my full time job. he basically used to come once a week and have dinner with us, but would never talk and acted really weird. he'd occasionally bring gifts but he'd always seem mad about having to do it. i basically told him that he needed to stop playing with her feelings and leave us alone if he wasn't serious- because he was lovebombing her to the point where she'd feel like he cared but wouldn't actually put in any effort besides from the times he showered her in care. turns out he's still been cheating on her with the same person. apparently she had been texting my mom their nudes for months and my stepdad never told her to stop. now that its been figured out he's telling her that she should've known and that its her fault. i tried to talk to him to let him know how I feel but he refuses to answer my calls, instead he nows just posts pictures of him hanging out with his other kids (my step siblings) and telling my mom how much they hate her. but she was literally the only person who was actually there and fed those kids, spent the gas money to pick them up from their biological mom. i just told him to stay the fuck out of my life. i have never felt such betrayal from someone I cared about and i can't begin to imagine how my mom feels. I just hope this man has a horrible fucking life.

 

[FuneralCry]

Some people really are so awful. I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that.

 

[Manaaja]

That's horrible. It's awful how some people can disrespect others like that.

From what little I know, if a person cheats with someone once, they cheat with them all the time. He should have just been honest about it. Break up and get with that other woman. Cheaters are usually really angry, they hide their cheating by acting like everyone else is the problem. Cheaters often blame others and are incapable of taking responsibility.

It sounds like that man has ruined a lot people's lives by being an idiot. It's terrible how much suffering one person can bring upon others.

 

[hyacinths]

It sounds like that man has ruined a lot people's lives by being an idiot. It's terrible how much suffering one person can bring upon others.

he has. although i refuse to let him ruin mine. my mom and i are slowly healing from the way he treated us and will eventually be able to move on, being happier than we ever were when he was around us. its sad to me a bit how unhappy his life will be because of his actions, but at the end of the day its his life and i am no longer choosing to be in it.

 

[OrcWitch]

That sounds incredibly infuriating. You seem very protective of your mom and strong willed to stand up for her like this. I hope you can convince her to get divorced and move on. He sounds evil.

 

[callme]

Well, you know your step-dad well enough to make him your stomp-dad.

 

[Manaaja]

he has. although i refuse to let him ruin mine. my mom and i are slowly healing from the way he treated us and will eventually be able to move on, being happier than we ever were when he was around us. its sad to me a bit how unhappy his life will be because of his actions, but at the end of the day its his life and i am no longer choosing to be in it.

It's good that you are able to reject him. It can be a slow process but I hope you and your mom will feel much better in the end. True. It's best to get away from toxic people.

 

[Pluto]

Sounds a lot like he has narcissistic personality disorder. Welcome to the club.

 

[summers]

@hyacinths Speaking from personal experience (me, not the people I was with), once a cheater, always a cheater. At least I figured out a serious relationship wasn't for me. The problem is when people want both the relationship and other partners.

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

Sounds a lot like he has narcissistic personality disorder. Welcome to the club.

Concur. You should all go no contact if you can.