Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
Is this common with narccisistic parents?
Chupacabra 44
If boredom were a CTB method, I would be long gone
- Sep 13, 2020
- 710
I have the same problem with my narcissistic father. It was absolutely soul crushing as a child for him to never remember and to not celebrate or to ever buy a gift. He couldn't be bothered, since it wasn't about him.
I think my bro is a narcissistic too. He also forgot about my birthday and he barely pays any attention to my life.
So, my answer to your question is: yeah, it could be!
Hugs
So, my answer to your question is: yeah, it could be!
Hugs
It is common. I'm sorry you got a narcissist for a parent. Sending hugs and love.
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
My father also never bought gifts. He spent the money on himself. For Christmas we sometimes got clothes instead of gifts, when clothes should be a given. We had to beg for new clothes. At least we got something I suppose. We had a roof over our heads and food to eat but other than that he was neglectful and always in an aggressive mood. It felt like we children were a burden to him.
Sorry you have a narcissistic brother. Do you have any kind of relationship with him? I find it impossible to have a normal relationship with narcissists.
Thank you for your kind words.
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Well, he used to be my boss haha.
He's a cool person but too self-centered. I find it hard to communicate with him so we talk about once a month.
Fortunately he's divorced but in a new relationship. The thing, I really miss my nephew who lives with him, far away from my city. That little devil is the best.
Makko
Iä!
- Jan 17, 2021
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I never remember anyone's birthday either. Is that just a narcissist thing, or...? To be fair, I also don't celebrate my own.
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
Not necessarily a narcissist thing if you're forgetful, but this pertains more to narcissists with children. Do you have children?
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Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
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Lmd
Elementalist
- Jul 12, 2020
- 812
I don't think it's a narcissist act. Mine forget it some years and when he remember it's just a "happy birthday". I forget a lot of birthdays of important people too and it's ok. I know that special dates can be important for the meaning but to show that you care about someone you don't have to wait for a specific day of the year.
Makko
Iä!
- Jan 17, 2021
- 2,430
I don't, but I notice that it's basic social expectation even outside of the family circle. You're expected to at least acknowledge people's birthdays, or they will think you're snubbing them on purpose.
Never understood the whole birthday thing overall. Seems like an oddly arbitrary thing to celebrate. It made sense in old societies where you had formal rites of passage, but not so much today.
I'd enjoy a family that doesn't try to stick its long nose into my life. I guess I'm in the minority though.
WhatDoesTheFoxSay?
Hold your head high, and your middle finger higher
- Dec 25, 2020
- 1,115
I'm not sure. I'm sorry that happened to you. If today's your birthday,
Happy birthday to you!
For me, things are a little... different. (N)dad NEVER forgets, such that I'd use the word 'memorious' to describe him. He'd remember the times you've been disrespectful, how you've let him down etc. down to every last detail, even after decades have passed. As he's the type to see the negative in everything, sometimes I wish he were a little more forgetful.
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Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
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That't not the point. I don't care about my birthday, I very rarely celebrate it. It's just that I mean so little to my father that he doesn't know my birthdate. He does send birthday wishes to my cousins and his stepchildren though.
Makko
Iä!
- Jan 17, 2021
- 2,430
If he remembers other people's birthdays but not yours, then yeah. That's a snub. I understand.
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
It seems that some narcissists never forget the times you've slighted them. And they'll keep bringing it up and rub it in your face, reminding you what a 'bad' person you are. They never seem to forgive either. Same with anything embarrassing you've done years after the fact. They'll tell people about it right in front of you like it's some sort of party trick, watching you squirm. They get off on humiliating you.
I'm not saying your parent is like that but it's what I've observed from the narcissists and sociopaths I've known.
Oh, and thanks for the birthday wish. That's sweet of you.
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wordsonscreen
Peanuts aren't nuts! They're seeds!
- Jan 21, 2021
- 728
Yup. Sucks. But fuck it. Happy birthday to you :) I'm glad you are here. Buy yourself your own gifts and celebrate in your own way.
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
Thank you, glad that special people like you are here too. x
wordsonscreen
Peanuts aren't nuts! They're seeds!
- Jan 21, 2021
- 728
Me? :') thank you hehe that is so sweet!! Can you get yourself 1 amazing for your birthday?? Like I love choc milk! Its a small thing but makes me so happy
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
I love chocolate and chocolate milkshake. All things choc! How about death by chocolate? ;p
GenesAndEnvironment
Autistic loser
- Jan 26, 2021
- 5,739
Wish I had a narcissistic dad that knew when my deathday was and shot me in the head. Fuck society.
wordsonscreen
Peanuts aren't nuts! They're seeds!
- Jan 21, 2021
- 728
ohhh this sounds good! Am thinking of eating some choc after taking sn. Death by choc maybe? hehe
Pookie
Somebody you used to know.
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1,051
SN is apparently very salty from what I've read so choc might help disguise the taste haha.
