that she would never have had a baby if she knew he was going to suffer so much
ouchh
ouchh
GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
- 6,727
How is that an ouch? I don't understand.
Superdeterminist
Enlightened
- Apr 5, 2020
- 1,877
I can easily see how that could be insulting because it's not far from "I wish you never existed". But, to want you not to suffer is at least compassionate.
the sadness of the situation. how much i suffer physically and mentally. she was coming from the hospital.she went to hand in my last will as i am a livong corpse. we have endured so much pain together. i feel so sorry for her
she is fighting with the doctors so that they put me the morphine pump to end my life cause she hates to see me suffer. its rly tragic
she is fighting with the doctors so that they put me the morphine pump to end my life cause she hates to see me suffer. its rly tragic
Weightoftheworld
Let me burn.
- Apr 19, 2020
- 258
Seems like she said it out of love, not hostility. How hard all that must be for the both of you though.
GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
- 6,727
I guess I don't understand because OP's mother has been so compassionate, I'm hesitant to take this as a negation of the OP when, given her history, she might be saying, "I would not have brought a child into the world to suffer. I am sorry." Not, "I am sorry you exist and burdened me."
Don't mean to talk about you like you're not here, @MariV .
voyager
Don't you dare go hollow...
- Nov 25, 2019
- 965
Yeah, it's a depressing end. Did you at least have some good times or do you also wish you had never been born?
Painless_end
Life is too difficult for me
- Oct 11, 2019
- 794
I'm really sorry for your pain. How old are you ? What has happened ?
If you don't feel like sharing I understand.
I can understand where she is coming from. It is hard to not blame myself if my children suffer. It comes with being a loving parent, and is part of her processing that you will die.
i mean she knows im unhappy and suffer. not in the sense of being a burden at all. she suffers so much for my pain that she is saying that tomorrow she will go to the hospital and make a tantrum so they connect me to the morphine pump and end my life.
and shes doing all this despite her parkinson which makes her very difficult and painful to move.
its really bad. i hope this situation ends soon
and shes doing all this despite her parkinson which makes her very difficult and painful to move.
its really bad. i hope this situation ends soon
we have always been very intimate. best friends and twin souls. but also so much illness, so much pain, so many surgeries, so mich suffering. she used to be the happiest person in the world and now she is devastation
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You have my sympathies for going through all that. I'm glad that your mother is behind your decision to CTB, however hard it is for her.
Though are you in a country where assisted suicide or euthanasia is legal? If you aren't then you might want to take things into your own hands
Though are you in a country where assisted suicide or euthanasia is legal? If you aren't then you might want to take things into your own hands
ISeeRed
Member
- Oct 12, 2020
- 12
Your mother probably just is really sad and would do anything to take your pain away if she could. Parents and other people just can't.
You are blessed to have someone loving you that much, hope you can become her angel once you go.
Infinite Conscious
Experienced
- Aug 18, 2020
- 282
What a deja-vu... like I've been through this exact moment before, looking at this thread, other things around me being identical.
Anyhow, MariV, I know your story and you should never say "ouch" to what your mother said, she meant it in the most compassionate way.
I don't know where you live and if that "morphine pump" is legal and realistic, but I sure hope it is.
I wish you the best of luck... but do let us know in advance if... you know.
Anyhow, MariV, I know your story and you should never say "ouch" to what your mother said, she meant it in the most compassionate way.
I don't know where you live and if that "morphine pump" is legal and realistic, but I sure hope it is.
I wish you the best of luck... but do let us know in advance if... you know.
Meditation guide
Always was, is, and always shall be.
- Jun 22, 2020
- 6,089
A morphine pump is just a delivery system of morphine. It's used in good hospitals by good doctors. It's not used for assisted suicide. It's a bedside machine that delivers a measured intravenous dose of morphine automatically every few hours if it's what I'm thinking of.
TheGoodGuy
Visionary
- Aug 27, 2018
- 2,996
Same I don´t understand how is that ouch? My first thought was "what an actually rational thinking parent about suicide" And this is seriously how every parents should feel when their child is going through never ending suffering it shows so much empathy from her part and selflessness and especially it coming from your mother who I am sure loved being a mother to you before the suffering started.
Acopia
Specialist
- Sep 21, 2020
- 355
Sounds like your mum is putting your own life in front of hers.
That's beautiful.
That's beautiful.
yes indeed shes a cool mum. she is going to leave me alone while i ctb. the "ouch" was because of the tragic of the situation
Xocoyotziin
Scorpion
- Sep 5, 2020
- 402
My mom said the same thing to me once
I felt so bad for being unable to stop the thoughts. If she were anyone else I could just leave her without hesitation.
Now she's getting tired of me I think lol but that's not really motivating me either because I don't think that would matter when the grief hits.
We're lucky. We got the good ones, and that makes leaving so much harder and so much guiltier, for me anyway. Ultimately I think she'd respect my choice either way but I still don't know what to do.
I felt so bad for being unable to stop the thoughts. If she were anyone else I could just leave her without hesitation.
Now she's getting tired of me I think lol but that's not really motivating me either because I don't think that would matter when the grief hits.
We're lucky. We got the good ones, and that makes leaving so much harder and so much guiltier, for me anyway. Ultimately I think she'd respect my choice either way but I still don't know what to do.
exactly...getting the good ones makes it much harder. she says she will leave home while I ctb. so bad...poor thing, i hope she goes to heaven
