Abaigh

Abaigh

Student
Jan 20, 2020
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My mother and I haven't been talking for the past two weeks and after constantly fighting with her for all my life I decided I didn't want to get back talking to her and today she used the fact that she never fucking molested me like my dad that I shouldn't be angry with her. I know this might not seem like a big deal but it really really hurt me. It was such a horrible thing to say such a low blow. I already had a bad ptsd episode earlier but this made it way worse.
 
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miguel6565

miguel6565

Arcanist
Apr 5, 2020
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lmao,i dont belive she could told you that,is opening a wound that will never close,im am os orry for you to have to hear that,sending love,and yes its a big deal
 
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Abaigh

Abaigh

Student
Jan 20, 2020
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And to clarify she always hints surly at it in fights but this was the worst yet.
 
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AnxietyAttack44

I just wanna go to my husband already.
Jun 5, 2020
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Im sorry to say this, but try not to be too angry with your mum. Just like us she might be having problems, sadness and hidding it. My mum did, wefought alot as well in past. But truth to be told she hid alot of problems and depression, wich made her very angry person. As time passed i saw it as well. I dont want to ctb with her thinking i hate her.
I dont know if your mum is good or bad, but alot of ppl suffers. Its hard to hate parents, they think they do us good. I hope it gets better for you and im sorry if i said something wrong, i didnt mean to. Just coming from my expiriences, good luck
 
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Abaigh

Abaigh

Student
Jan 20, 2020
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Im sorry to say this, but try not to be too angry with your mum. Just like us she might be having problems, sadness and hidding it. My mum did, wefought alot as well in past. But truth to be told she hid alot of problems and depression, wich made her very angry person. As time passed i saw it as well. I dont want to ctb with her thinking i hate her.
I dont know if your mum is good or bad, but alot of ppl suffers. Its hard to hate parents, they think they do us good. I hope it gets better for you and im sorry if i said something wrong, i didnt mean to. Just coming from my expiriences, good luck
I know she deals with stuff too it she's always been so cold to me and my nanny was the one to raise me I've never had a bond with my man and she always screams at me for no reason saying all sorts of stuff. Although I see where ur coming from and where she is coming from she makes me feel like shit. She is part of the reason I want to ctb because she calls me worthless and stupid other demeaning things to the point I believe it. I could never hate her because she is still my mother but since I was young I always knew when I moved out I would stop talking to her.
 
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BlackCatTalk

BlackCatTalk

StrayCat
Apr 28, 2019
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Heello sweety:


some people were not born to be mothers, just a big cunts, send u love
 
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TheGoodGuy

TheGoodGuy

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Aug 27, 2018
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today she used the fact that she never fucking molested me like my dad that I shouldn't be angry with her.
But if she knew about it she is at fault too, also it reminds me of this scene from natural born killers in case you haven´t seen the movie the context is Mallory was raped by her dad so by that in mind her line "you never did nothing" makes a lot of sense.
 
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Abaigh

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Jan 20, 2020
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But if she knew about it she is at fault too, also it reminds me of this scene from natural born killers in case you haven´t seen the movie the context is Mallory was raped by her dad so by that in mind her line "you never did nothing" makes a lot of sense.
She found out after the fact but she uses something so hurtful so often in fights.
 
GoodPersonEffed

GoodPersonEffed

Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
Jan 11, 2020
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She sounds so irrational!

Trying to come up with analogy...

I tripped you, but I didn't break your arm like that other person did, so you shouldn't be mad at me.

Just...what????

I highly recommend no contact. It's so freeing from all the bullshit that they prove they'll never stop slinging, and that one can never get caught up shoveling. I wish I'd gone no contact decades sooner.
 
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Abaigh

Student
Jan 20, 2020
115
She sounds so irrational!

Trying to come up with analogy...

I tripped you, but I didn't break your arm like that other person did, so you shouldn't be mad at me.

Just...what????

I highly recommend no contact. It's so freeing from all the bullshit that they prove they'll never stop slinging, and that one can never get caught up shoveling. I wish I'd gone no contact decades sooner.
ye as soon as I move out I want to go no contact but the rest of my family guilts next because "she's my mother" so that means she can do anything she wants and I take it.
 

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