my gf doesn't love me anymore

[carnivalforone]

its so tiring, seeing someone you adore pull away from you, seeing them put less and less effort for you, seeing them lose respect for you and simply not care about you or your feelings anymore. it hurts even more looking back and seeing how its never once been good and youve been dissillusioning yourself the entire time. i didnt ask for anything, just reassurance and love just knowing i had someone a best friend a partner, i dont have many people in my life , my greatest failure, but losing her idk what im gonna do. im already purposeless as it is. im so pathetic i wish i could just dissapear, go to sleep forever, im so tired...

 

[flightless bird]

i don't know about the dynamics of your relationship , but just my two cents; most girls look for confidence and energy. perhaps she has lost interest in you because of the way you are.

watch the 2011 movie 'limitless' to see how he wins the girl back. that's exactly what girls want.

 

[Old Friend]

I think confidence and energy is good for first impressions and early relationships. Longer term relationships should have a stronger foundation.

I don't know the OP's situation but oftentimes, the girl doesn't love you anymore because she's found someone else.

That said, there's nothing in the OP's post that suggests she's found someone else or even that she doesn't love him anymore. It may well be OP's perception rather than reality.

 

[Kalista]

*Please don't generalize what girls want. The world doesn't work that way.

It's painful, very painful losing someone you've invested your heart, mind, and body in. What you do from here on will be entirely up to you.

I wish you the best going through this pain and I hope you figure out what needs to be done.

 

[Old Friend]

Oftentimes is oftentimes. And I've seen it many times over.

 

[R_N]

I am sorry for all the insensitive comments. It sucks to love and be betrayed.

Don't change to win others over like suggested. It is manipulative and then you just end up playing games. If you ever plan on changing do it to stop needing their affection. No one is worth your suffering trust me, it is a waste of time. They are also not worth your efforts if they ditch you like that.

 

[Kasumi]

i don't know about the dynamics of your relationship , but just my two cents; most girls look for confidence and energy. perhaps she has lost interest in you because of the way you are.

watch the 2011 movie 'limitless' to see how he wins the girl back. that's exactly what girls want.

that's just preference, I for one wouldn't want a guy like that, then again I'm gay and suicidal so I'm not really what you'd call "the norm" lol

 

[Old Friend]

I am sorry for all the insensitive comments. It sucks to love and be betrayed.

Excuse me?

 

[R_N]

Excuse me?

This person is in pain and you are all victim blaming. I also have a feeling replies would be different if the girl posted this. And no I am not saying girls have it easier ofc but some double standards exists on both sides.

Men should also be treated with empathy you know. Should women also change to win over men? I bet not. So guys shouldn't too unless they are abusive.

 

[Old Friend]

I've not blamed anyone. Back the fuck off.

 

[R_N]

I've not blamed anyone. Back the fuck off.

Ok then I apologise. No reason to use that language tho. I just said what I think.

 

[flightless bird]

This person is in pain and you are all victim blaming. I also have a feeling replies would be different if the girl posted this. And no I am not saying girls have it easier ofc but some double standards exists on both sides.

Men should also be treated with empathy you know. Should women also change to win over men? I bet not. So guys shouldn't too unless they are abusive.

i wasn't being insensitive; i just wanted to offer him a perspective. i understand how he is feeling. in most cases, it is better to take action than to sit down and feel sorry for oneself.

 

[Old Friend]

Well, the OP didn't go into great detail, so we can't know for sure. OP might be better off talking to her if he's worried.

 

[Brown-Jacket Revy]

Well this thread escalated quickly.

 

[R_N]

Well this thread escalated quickly.

I just felt op got the same treatment they would get elsewhere. It is settled already tho, I was not trying to stir things up.

I probably shouldn't have made that comment but I felt op deserved better.

 

[carnivalforone]

ive been with this girl for about 2 years so definitely past impressions, just lately its weird, she has bpd and i have my own shi and its just a lot of mindgames and yk how it is, i brought it up and seems it was just my misunderstanding or my pessimism, anyways was kinda funny seeing what this thread devolved to lol. we're okay just a little ill shes all i have im bound to get hurt but again my pessimism..

I just felt op got the same treatment they would get elsewhere. It is settled already tho, I was not trying to stir things up.

I probably shouldn't have made that comment but I felt op deserved better.

youre an angel

i don't know about the dynamics of your relationship , but just my two cents; most girls look for confidence and energy. perhaps she has lost interest in you because of the way you are.

watch the 2011 movie 'limitless' to see how he wins the girl back. that's exactly what girls want.

i really hope you dont actually imitate a movie scene because you think it gets you play T.T