My attempts kept escalating like that but not to icu, thank God, and I know that the people who "saved" me weren't getting thanks, I hated them for it and told them so. I felt like such a failure that if people questioned me to "help" them I would have been beyond angry. I don't want the added responsibility of someone else on my conscience. Plus as you said we're the wrong ones to ask. If they want to know so bad make it public and I'm sure other people feel more comfortable sharing that stuff. I'm sorry people are bombarding you and I'm glad you've made a public post because otherwise people don't know it's a problem to do it...sending lots of love x
I'm not trying to cause any problems but this post isn't going to help in the least. In a day or two it will be gone and she will be left in the same position she was in before. That's why I suggested she either put a disclaimer in any post where there is a chance someone may ask for advice or possibly a better idea would be to add it to her signature. This should almost guarantee that this won't happen again.
This is a different and way more open forum when it comes to CTB and the methods used so the vast majority of people are willing to share their knowledge not only to make sure a person is successful, but I think most importantly that if they don't succeed that there will be no long term damage.
No person here can be responsible for anyone's actions especially when it comes to CTB. It doesn't matter what information you give out or even if you send them the necessary items. In the end it will always rest on the individual who takes action on that knowledge.
That being said I don't blame anyone for not wanting to share no matter what their reason is. That should be ultimately respected and I think most people here accept that.
True you can make a post asking everyone about a specific method and why it wasn't successful to hopefully get the answers that will help ensure a successful CTB (so I think people who didn't succeed are exactly the kind of people who should be asked because something didn't go as planned). Sadly I didn't think about it so I sent a pm.
While everyone will have differing opinions I personally don't think there is an issue with that. It keeps it private so it's not out in the open for everyone to see and allows the receiver to decline to answer the question without the pressure of the whole forum expecting an response from the OP. Once again that's just my point of view and as with everything else in life not everyone is going to agree.
This is a forum unlike any other with people sharing things here that they wouldn't dare tell friends or family. This is a safe place for anything you want to say and even things you don't want to say.
I hope this puts a rest to this whole thing once and for all. Obviously I triggered some strong emotions and that wasn't my intent. I was just looking for knowledge plain and simple.
Once again I will sincerely apologise for any pain and/or discomfort I caused her and I truly hope she can accept that apology.
Most importantly I hope she sticks around as there are a lot of great, open, and caring people here that is extremely hard to find elsewhere.
While I personally don't mind if someone simply asks me questions about it and I think most mean no harm and would feel terrible if they knew it bothered you, I definitely had the same experience when it came to someone almost seeming to get off on it, when I first came to this site and posted about my failed attempts. It was just one person and they were clearly encouraging me to kill myself, and kept going on and on about how they hope I'm not listening to anyone trying to talk me out of it. They started sending me all these videos of people hanging themselves and encouraged me to record mine, and it was just very uncomfortable. They are definitely not the norm here though and they did end up getting banned.
Man, that's seriously messed up and sorry you had to deal with that. Only a really twisted person would write such sick messages to you.