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That's the hell I live with
- Apr 19, 2018
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WARNING - LONG
From my research, as it is a joint mortgage, he is responsible for it after I die.
The mortgage is 390, which as we are in the process of divorce, he has actually refused to help pay it and is leaving me to pay it all.
The bank said I could do a standing order, so I would only be responsible for my half.
I decided against that, as I did not want to screw my ex over.
From the end of September, he will only be receiving 400 quid a month from UC.
The mortgage is 390, not to mention he will still have to pay electric and gas, on top.
I was feeling really bad about leaving him with all this, until yesterday.
He was trying to persuade me to get a loan of 5k, or borrow it from my aunt to give to him. He said in return, he would sign the flat over to me so I would own 100 percent of the flat and he wants to be taken of the mortgage. Even if I wanted to, the bank would not allow this as I do not earn enough.
The reason for this is because he wanted the money to pay of HIS paypal credit account, completely in his name, and I told him it was a fucking bad idea when he opened it, the debt is now 3k
So we could pay off our overdraft of 500 quid on our joint account, I still had to give the bank permission for this, but he basically bullied me into it
And that he could get 800 quid for the dog. We bought the dog with the money from our wedding, that I fucking paid for.
We asked for money instead of presents so we got the dog with the money.
This happened yesterday, so did the next thing I am going to write.
So, the electric and gas is in his name.
He didn't want to pay the standing charges on the property, as he doesnt believe in paying for a service he is not using. That is fair enough, but the company said the only way he can get away with not paying the standing charges is to have the meters removed.
He rung me to ask what he should do. I said I will ring up the estate agent and ask how that would effect the sale of the property.
He said It would make the flat unsellable, so I told my ex that.
He just put back for fucks sake.
A couple hours later, he asked what was happening with the electric and gas. He then put forward an offer. He said if I wanted him to carry on paying the electric, he wanted me to pay off his paypal credit account, money for the dog, and he wanted something from the sale of the flat. He put no money towards the flat, I was the one that put down the deposit, and luckily we had a declaration of trust signed saying when the flat is sold I get my deposit back and we split the rest.
I said I said no to this and that he is obviously going to have to pay it.
He said he is not going to, as he can not afford it and hinted that I should be paying that. I said I am not paying it, as I'm paying the mortgage.
He said fine, then I'm getting the meters removed.
This would make the flat unsellable and then I would be stuck paying the mortgage for ages.
His reaction was basically he didnt care and he was going to arrange to have the meters removed.
Luckily, he told me he has actually lost the key to the flat so I would have to be the one to let them in.
I told him that I won't be doing that, and he said he is looking for his key when he got back. He finished at 9 last night, so luckily he can't arrange for the electric company to come down and he has lost his key anyway.
I told him that I hope he doesn't find it.
My Dad is actually going over tommorow morning to change the locks so he can not let them in.
But last night, I wasn't replying to my ex and he got mad saying fine he will keep on paying the electric and gas, I can keep the dog for free and he will take on all the debt as I obviously think that is fair.
The only debt I have is the 500 quid one for the overdraft which is both of ours responsibility.
But he is also going on about the 3k which is HIS paypal credit account anyway!
But I know him really well, he would not tell me that he found his key and is getting the meters out, so my Dad is going over there to change the locks and to drop the new key over to the estate agents.
I was honestly feeling very bad and very guilty about possibly leaving him in debt when I die, I was honestly thinking of postponing until the flat sold.
But after the absolute shit show of yesterday, I could not give a single fuck about the fact I will be putting him in debt now, he is being so fucking unreasonable.
From my research, as it is a joint mortgage, he is responsible for it after I die.
The mortgage is 390, which as we are in the process of divorce, he has actually refused to help pay it and is leaving me to pay it all.
The bank said I could do a standing order, so I would only be responsible for my half.
I decided against that, as I did not want to screw my ex over.
From the end of September, he will only be receiving 400 quid a month from UC.
The mortgage is 390, not to mention he will still have to pay electric and gas, on top.
I was feeling really bad about leaving him with all this, until yesterday.
He was trying to persuade me to get a loan of 5k, or borrow it from my aunt to give to him. He said in return, he would sign the flat over to me so I would own 100 percent of the flat and he wants to be taken of the mortgage. Even if I wanted to, the bank would not allow this as I do not earn enough.
The reason for this is because he wanted the money to pay of HIS paypal credit account, completely in his name, and I told him it was a fucking bad idea when he opened it, the debt is now 3k
So we could pay off our overdraft of 500 quid on our joint account, I still had to give the bank permission for this, but he basically bullied me into it
And that he could get 800 quid for the dog. We bought the dog with the money from our wedding, that I fucking paid for.
We asked for money instead of presents so we got the dog with the money.
This happened yesterday, so did the next thing I am going to write.
So, the electric and gas is in his name.
He didn't want to pay the standing charges on the property, as he doesnt believe in paying for a service he is not using. That is fair enough, but the company said the only way he can get away with not paying the standing charges is to have the meters removed.
He rung me to ask what he should do. I said I will ring up the estate agent and ask how that would effect the sale of the property.
He said It would make the flat unsellable, so I told my ex that.
He just put back for fucks sake.
A couple hours later, he asked what was happening with the electric and gas. He then put forward an offer. He said if I wanted him to carry on paying the electric, he wanted me to pay off his paypal credit account, money for the dog, and he wanted something from the sale of the flat. He put no money towards the flat, I was the one that put down the deposit, and luckily we had a declaration of trust signed saying when the flat is sold I get my deposit back and we split the rest.
I said I said no to this and that he is obviously going to have to pay it.
He said he is not going to, as he can not afford it and hinted that I should be paying that. I said I am not paying it, as I'm paying the mortgage.
He said fine, then I'm getting the meters removed.
This would make the flat unsellable and then I would be stuck paying the mortgage for ages.
His reaction was basically he didnt care and he was going to arrange to have the meters removed.
Luckily, he told me he has actually lost the key to the flat so I would have to be the one to let them in.
I told him that I won't be doing that, and he said he is looking for his key when he got back. He finished at 9 last night, so luckily he can't arrange for the electric company to come down and he has lost his key anyway.
I told him that I hope he doesn't find it.
My Dad is actually going over tommorow morning to change the locks so he can not let them in.
But last night, I wasn't replying to my ex and he got mad saying fine he will keep on paying the electric and gas, I can keep the dog for free and he will take on all the debt as I obviously think that is fair.
The only debt I have is the 500 quid one for the overdraft which is both of ours responsibility.
But he is also going on about the 3k which is HIS paypal credit account anyway!
But I know him really well, he would not tell me that he found his key and is getting the meters out, so my Dad is going over there to change the locks and to drop the new key over to the estate agents.
I was honestly feeling very bad and very guilty about possibly leaving him in debt when I die, I was honestly thinking of postponing until the flat sold.
But after the absolute shit show of yesterday, I could not give a single fuck about the fact I will be putting him in debt now, he is being so fucking unreasonable.
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