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- Sep 15, 2020
- 50
I got manic early this year and was arguing with my parents and sister.. blaming them for my eating disorder. Ever since, my Dad has gotten vengeful. He brings up bad/shameful/embarrassing things I've done throughout my life, in public, often. He is textbook toxic.. puts me down, laughs at me.. his words drip with insecurity. Patronizing.. doesn't listen. He randomly brings up horrible things I never did, or exaggerated versions of my worst moments, at family parties or around strangers. People typically give him blank looks while he does this and he just giggles to himself, looking down, totally unaware of and unconcerned with the reactions of others.. it's sad how much he's changing. I am partially responsible, I shamed him and blamed him and it triggered something in him. His resentment is here to stay. He was always a bit passive aggressive, but his resentment has become overt. Last time I saw him he told me he wishes he never met my mom. So many damaging words delivered with a smile on his face... he regularly mocks my uncle (his brother) for his untreated bipolar disorder, I admitted to my dad that I'm afraid he sees me the same way he sees his brother- as a clown/loser.. ever since I admitted this fear, my dad makes jabs comparing me to his brother. He's been increasingly acting like an emotionally abusive partner- similar to abuse I endured from a friend with BPD.. it feels so bizarre to have that dynamic with my own father. I just want to tell him I hate him, resent him and blame him for everything, then never talk to him again.. but I think he'll get that message when I CTB.
Many people don't even have fathers in their lives. I know I'm being ungrateful, but ever since my dad admitted he wishes he never met my mom, I've felt like I shouldn't exist. My dad's genetics, my family name- it dies with me and I'm so happy about this. Some part of me wants to CTB to end my pain, but another part wants to punish my parents.. like their son's suicide is karma returning back to them. Justice.
Though, part of me feels the opposite, I freak out imagining my family after I CTB. My father would be crushed... Would he? no one deserves such a fate. I'm so confused.
Ultimately nothing to sweat, we all return to the dirt.. just a privilege to be alive at all.. being a human currently alive right now is wild.. it's disorienting how quickly I switch from self-pitying despair to grateful to be alive back to depressed, all within a minute, ahh I feel like human minds are too powerful I can't handle thoughts or feelings just want to die ahhh.. truly a privilege tho for real, what a life
Many people don't even have fathers in their lives. I know I'm being ungrateful, but ever since my dad admitted he wishes he never met my mom, I've felt like I shouldn't exist. My dad's genetics, my family name- it dies with me and I'm so happy about this. Some part of me wants to CTB to end my pain, but another part wants to punish my parents.. like their son's suicide is karma returning back to them. Justice.
Though, part of me feels the opposite, I freak out imagining my family after I CTB. My father would be crushed... Would he? no one deserves such a fate. I'm so confused.
Ultimately nothing to sweat, we all return to the dirt.. just a privilege to be alive at all.. being a human currently alive right now is wild.. it's disorienting how quickly I switch from self-pitying despair to grateful to be alive back to depressed, all within a minute, ahh I feel like human minds are too powerful I can't handle thoughts or feelings just want to die ahhh.. truly a privilege tho for real, what a life
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