Anyone else feel outcasted because everyone they know got to have a fun childhood and you can't relate because you never got to do anything fun or get to watch tv/play games/hang out with friends? You were just your parents pawns? If so, how do you handle losing 18+ years of your life that you can never get back?
stellabelle
ethereal
- Dec 14, 2018
- 3,919
Grew up in abuse, and grew up too fast. Adulthood has been pretty much trash too. We just learn to move forward.
not me.. I had a great childhood.. very fun with lots of friends.. it is adulthood that has turned into a living hell for me.. and the older I get, the worse it gets...
Pulpit2018
Experienced
- Oct 8, 2018
- 287
Personally i fucking hate adulthood.There is no fun.
When you are child you are impressed by the most silly things.
When you are child you are impressed by the most silly things.
Moony21
Experienced
- Nov 23, 2018
- 273
I have empathy for you. I can not remember a common childhood experience with my parents. they had too much trouble back then with themselves, I guess. It only started to hurt me when I was around 18 years old and when I went in my own apartment. Free from them
Othermind
Specialist
- Dec 26, 2018
- 301
Sort of.
I've had a friend from birth who's always been like a brother to me, even though we kind of went our separate ways in high school, and he was there when I was a kid. But at school (1st through 4th grade) I got bullied RELENTLESSLY and neither the teachers or my parents ever did shit. Except when I broke a kid's finger in retaliation or split another's lip, then they were all up in arms about it. But that's the thing with teachers, they only ever take action against those who upset the status quo, and some kid being constantly teased, harassed and isolated is the status quo to them.
Needless to say, I learned 0 social skills during crucial formative years and that fucked me up for life. I never learned how to semi-decently deal with people until I was 19 and even now I struggle like crazy.
My parents never did help, but honestly it's not like there was much they could have done. They both have deep personal issues, are virtually incapable of self-criticism and are not exactly great with people themselves. How they thought having a kid was going to be a good idea is beyond me.
Still, maybe if I hadn't been put in a classroom full of inbred country bumpkins my life would have taken a different turn, but such is life, I got dealt a shitty hand and that's the only thing that matters.
I've had a friend from birth who's always been like a brother to me, even though we kind of went our separate ways in high school, and he was there when I was a kid. But at school (1st through 4th grade) I got bullied RELENTLESSLY and neither the teachers or my parents ever did shit. Except when I broke a kid's finger in retaliation or split another's lip, then they were all up in arms about it. But that's the thing with teachers, they only ever take action against those who upset the status quo, and some kid being constantly teased, harassed and isolated is the status quo to them.
Needless to say, I learned 0 social skills during crucial formative years and that fucked me up for life. I never learned how to semi-decently deal with people until I was 19 and even now I struggle like crazy.
My parents never did help, but honestly it's not like there was much they could have done. They both have deep personal issues, are virtually incapable of self-criticism and are not exactly great with people themselves. How they thought having a kid was going to be a good idea is beyond me.
Still, maybe if I hadn't been put in a classroom full of inbred country bumpkins my life would have taken a different turn, but such is life, I got dealt a shitty hand and that's the only thing that matters.
I feel the same way and I don't know if I can or really want to recover from it.
Angst Filled Fuck Up
Visionary
- Sep 9, 2018
- 2,982
Idk, childhood didn't exactly feel like a picnic but it sure was a walk in the park compared to the horror show of adulthood. I have come to view everything that happened to me under the age of 18 as more or less inconsequential. I look back on my "struggles" at the time and now I'm like:
I think adulthood is so overwhelming and joyless. Nothing is fun. You're expected to know everything overnight, and there are no real resources for people who are struggling due to no fault of their own. Basically the problems I had in childhood and adolescence have followed me, with the addition of failing mental and physical health, as well as debt and responsibilities.
I think adulthood is so overwhelming and joyless. Nothing is fun. You're expected to know everything overnight, and there are no real resources for people who are struggling due to no fault of their own. Basically the problems I had in childhood and adolescence have followed me, with the addition of failing mental and physical health, as well as debt and responsibilities.
