Discussion Long distance relationships

[BornToFail]

Are they a meme? I'm in one, 4 hours away.

 

[ArchmagePrincess]

They take a lot of work to keep feeling connected, but I've had what I'd call successful relationships that started long distance. They're not for everyone but depending on the right situation/people it's not just a meme.

 

[BornToFail]

They take a lot of work to keep feeling connected, but I've had what I'd call successful relationships that started long distance. They're not for everyone but depending on the right situation/people it's not just a meme.

Thank you, I just get so worried and insecure when people say they are. I lose hope.

 

[Zegers]

It doesnt work, even irl relations are a fucking mess...

 

[BornToFail]

It doesnt work, even irl relations are a fucking mess...

It is all I could ever get. I mean, we love each other. I can't mange to talk to girls irl even if I wanted to.

 

[ArchmagePrincess]

Thank you, I just get so worried and insecure when people say they are. I lose hope.

I totally relate, especially from older folk in my experience but lots of people tbh, just don't see long distance as "real." But the truth is now a days cause of the internet and video calls and gaming you really can get to know someone pretty well. I think it's pretty silly to gatekeep love like that.

 

[Life_and_Death]

its not really long distance because he literally lives/works down the street and we went to high school together, but we havent seen each other in ~7 years either. like @ArchmagePrincess princess said, they take a bit of work. but theres things you can do to help. rn we're playing yahtzee https://cardgames.io/
time together and communication seem to be the answer

 

[Zegers]

But its a friendship or relationship? i think a friendship could work.

 

[BornToFail]

But its a friendship or relationship? i think a friendship could work.

Relationship

 

[Zegers]

In that case i see it as more complicated but if you are 4 hours away, maybe.

Good luck

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Older person here and I can attest they work. But as @ArchmagePrincess said, they do take a lot to maintain. But they definitely can work very well if it's the right person.

 

[hamvil]

Are they a meme? I'm in one, 4 hours away.

I was in a long distance relationship for several years (5/6 i think). We met during the major holidays and that's it. She would visit also from time to time. We were approx 12 hours away by car. Later that person become my wife, it was good for a few more year, then.... well it became not so good, nothing is eternal not even love.

 

[Lily (Osako)]

They can be absolutely wonderful. You tend to appreciate time and closeness more. Being apart can bring you closer to one another than if you were to see each other every day.
But if one stops putting in the effort or becomes lazy and neglects to stay in touch during the apart times, it will fail miserably.

 

[western_heart]

I was in a long distance relationship for a year (8 hours apart) and we moved in together after a year. It worked for us at the time because it wasn't sexually exclusive & I had the freedom (car & plenty of credit cards & no job) to be able to visit whenever I wanted.

We have been together over four years now

 

[Deboneire1]

Waste of time.