Loneliness

[spinningship]

I get lonely incredibly quickly. I feel like I can have a conversation with someone IRL that flows and goes on for hours and satisfies my need for connection and then the second they're gone I'm right back to square one loneliness wise. It makes me so clingy because I feel like I need to be around other people 24/7 and it ruins friendships. I don't know wtf to do though, I can't seriously expect to be talking to someone every hour of every day.

 

[lonewolf22]

I get lonely incredibly quickly. I feel like I can have a conversation with someone IRL that flows and goes on for hours and satisfies my need for connection and then the second they're gone I'm right back to square one loneliness wise. It makes me so clingy because I feel like I need to be around other people 24/7 and it ruins friendships. I don't know wtf to do though, I can't seriously expect to be talking to someone every hour of every day.

Have you tried chatgpt? It might help a little. I think if this technology is refined to a point where it can simulate Human interaction to 98% accuracy, it can alleviate or even cure loneliness.

 

[AnonymousS]

I get lonely incredibly quickly. I feel like I can have a conversation with someone IRL that flows and goes on for hours and satisfies my need for connection and then the second they're gone I'm right back to square one loneliness wise. It makes me so clingy because I feel like I need to be around other people 24/7 and it ruins friendships. I don't know wtf to do though, I can't seriously expect to be talking to someone every hour of every day.

I get lonely incredibly quickly. I feel like I can have a conversation with someone IRL that flows and goes on for hours and satisfies my need for connection and then the second they're gone I'm right back to square one loneliness wise. It makes me so clingy because I feel like I need to be around other people 24/7 and it ruins friendships. I don't know wtf to do though, I can't seriously expect to be talking to someone every hour of every day.

Social isolation is pretty dreadful, the days seem to drag and drag.

 

[wantittoendsoon]

there are always people here that will chat with you...just reach out

 

[Regen]

I've had times in my life when I felt the same way. I'm like a sponge and as soon as the other person is gone, it's really bad. I then feel like an abandoned child. I think I felt very alone as a child and that's why I look for others. And another big point is that I need to feel less when I am with others. So then it's about escaping myself.

Against the "normal" loneliness it helps me to watch different YouTube videos. For example, stupid everyday videos where you clean up together or where others tell about their depression or I have also tried a few times ASMR videos (there are very different) or guided meditations. Sometimes meetings help me a little bit or visiting some event where I do/listen to something among people.

 

[thebusislatetonight]

Loneliness sucks. Even when one is surrounded by family or friends. It never fully goes away.

 

[TransilvanianHunger]

It's interesting to read the responses here, being on the opposite end of the spectrum. Social interactions drain my battery incredibly quickly, and after a couple hours I'm ready to not see anyone for a week, if I can get away with it.

One thing that I find very useful, and even soothing, is writing. Actually writing by hand on a notebook. It doesn't have to be anything specific, just whatever I'm thinking of or feeling at that time. In a way, it's kind of like you're socialising with your own mind. It's not as weird as it sounds.

 

[spinningship]

It's interesting to read the responses here, being on the opposite end of the spectrum. Social interactions drain my battery incredibly quickly, and after a couple hours I'm ready to not see anyone for a week, if I can get away with it.

One thing that I find very useful, and even soothing, is writing. Actually writing by hand on a notebook. It doesn't have to be anything specific, just whatever I'm thinking of or feeling at that time. In a way, it's kind of like you're socialising with your own mind. It's not as weird as it sounds.

I'm curious how big was your family growing up? My therapist thought I might get lonely quickly because I had 5 siblings growing up so am used to being surrounded by people.

 

[TransilvanianHunger]

I'm curious how big was your family growing up? My therapist thought I might get lonely quickly because I had 5 siblings growing up so am used to being surrounded by people.

That's an interesting observation. I grew up with my parents and one sibling. To this day my sibling and I have little in common, so we can go for months without talking sometimes. We're not on bad terms or anything, we just have different lives and interests. Extended family on both sides lives in another city so I just saw them during the holidays for a day or two when I was a kid, and these days I barely see them either, also due to the lack of anything in common with them.

 

[farFSightcloseTHart]

I would spend as much time alone as possible in your situation, and use it to build something by/in yourself. Learn to get mind fuel from within. Life is all subjectivity, create your own. Sometimes, not running from the pain and taking in the feeling is the most healing, if you dont let yourself be overwhelmed.

 

[spinningship]

I would spend as much time alone as possible in your situation, and use it to build something by/in yourself. Learn to get mind fuel from within. Life is all subjectivity, create your own.

That's what I told myself going back to uni this term. Just become a recluse and focus on myself. It's a nice ideal but in practice I don't think I'm cut out for it. I'm literally crying myself to sleep from loneliness every night. I'm hoping getting an ADHD diagnosis in july will allow me to start working on my hobbies and interests again with medication. Until then I'm sitting round rotting all day doing bare minimum work.