plushjuggybandit
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- Feb 22, 2023
- 29
im currently living with my ex.
we only dated for about a month and were set to move in together into a friends house before we even started dating.
long story short, i found out my ex is transphobic and it doesnt personally line up with my ideals or what i want in a partner, as im part of the lgbt community so it holds a lot of importance to me. i think everyone in the house, including my ex, is trying to get us back together. theyre always talking as if we will.
me and him had an argument again recently. he wanted to give me a ride home, and said 'only if i can touch your leg while we drive'. i said no, said he can only give me a ride if he doesnt do that. he ended up giving me a ride home anyway. i wanted to talk about what happened and clear the air so i took him up on the offer. it ended in him grilling me for my beliefs even though i was trying to stay respectful of his. so i had enough, told him to fuck off, and left the car.
everyone believes i was in the right but i 'just need patience' with him. but the thing is. i dont see why i should if i dont want to date him? i can be civil but i just dont want a relationship with him. i feel so on edge. i feel like im just waiting for everyone to slowly turn against me and hate me because i dont want to cooperate.
i expressed to my friend that i think i might be developing a small crush on this other guy that i have way more in common with, but she told me that my ex was a little insecure about that guy so its not a good idea and basically told me i have to stay friends with him. but im not interested in him just to make my ex jealous i just genuinely enjoy spending time with him :( i dont see why im not allowed to think about my possible feelings for him just because my ex might get jealous. i dont want to date my ex again ! i feel a little trapped and like anything i say or do is gonna get me in trouble. but im an adult i should be allowed to decide if i want to keep getting to know someone else
AAAH i dont know what to do im so confused and feel constantly on the verge of an anxiety attack.
any advice D:
we only dated for about a month and were set to move in together into a friends house before we even started dating.
long story short, i found out my ex is transphobic and it doesnt personally line up with my ideals or what i want in a partner, as im part of the lgbt community so it holds a lot of importance to me. i think everyone in the house, including my ex, is trying to get us back together. theyre always talking as if we will.
me and him had an argument again recently. he wanted to give me a ride home, and said 'only if i can touch your leg while we drive'. i said no, said he can only give me a ride if he doesnt do that. he ended up giving me a ride home anyway. i wanted to talk about what happened and clear the air so i took him up on the offer. it ended in him grilling me for my beliefs even though i was trying to stay respectful of his. so i had enough, told him to fuck off, and left the car.
everyone believes i was in the right but i 'just need patience' with him. but the thing is. i dont see why i should if i dont want to date him? i can be civil but i just dont want a relationship with him. i feel so on edge. i feel like im just waiting for everyone to slowly turn against me and hate me because i dont want to cooperate.
i expressed to my friend that i think i might be developing a small crush on this other guy that i have way more in common with, but she told me that my ex was a little insecure about that guy so its not a good idea and basically told me i have to stay friends with him. but im not interested in him just to make my ex jealous i just genuinely enjoy spending time with him :( i dont see why im not allowed to think about my possible feelings for him just because my ex might get jealous. i dont want to date my ex again ! i feel a little trapped and like anything i say or do is gonna get me in trouble. but im an adult i should be allowed to decide if i want to keep getting to know someone else
AAAH i dont know what to do im so confused and feel constantly on the verge of an anxiety attack.
any advice D:
