Help Links for anyone else suffering trauma ☔️

[sufferingalways]

Hi fellow forum members,


I have been trying to make sense of my jumbled thoughts arising from my own trauma, and I wanted to share what I found for anyone else suffering trauma too for whatever reasons.











Stages of recovery after trauma, (there's also interesting article about survivors of trauma, at the bottom of this link page)

Stages of Recovery After Trauma

Survivors of abuse should practice patience when recovering from trauma.

www.domesticshelters.org

This one was helpful too, affirmations.

Phases of Trauma Recovery - Trauma Informed

“The first goal of trauma recovery should and must be to improve your quality of life on a daily basis” […]

trauma-recovery.ca

I understand that some may feel it's too late for thinking this way and I accept that, but for anyone who wants and needs it, I am posting this for you.


I know how it feels to be traumatised. I'm there again sadly with my current situation of ongoing abuses and disability discrimination (by an organisation here in England called a council landlord). For this I'm looking for a suitable lawyer.

Hugs
SA

 

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I'm beginning to accept mine as part and particle of a flawed character. The pursuit of healing is out of reach for some of us. But I do have a pdf of this book if anyone wants the link:



This works too: https://virtualemdr.com/

 

[sufferingalways]

I'm beginning to accept mine as part and particle of a flawed character. The pursuit of healing is out of reach for some of us. But I do have a pdf of this book if anyone wants the link:

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This works too: https://virtualemdr.com/

Oh wow, sorry for delay, just found this on my list of posts. I had that book marked, saved on an old phone, but thank you for sharing. Hiw are you feeling today?

 

[SanJunipero1]

I really recommend The Body Keeps The Score, it was quite revelatory for me trauma wise.

 

[sufferingalways]

I really recommend The Body Keeps The Score, it was quite revelatory for me trauma wise.

Hi thank you I will keep look out, I've heard the title, it rings bells. Hiw are you managing with your traumas now?

Sadly im having nightmares again but hoping after the lawyer, this may dissolve and I get therapy again. I have someone lined up, one of her specialist areas is in trauma and her rates are good.

 

[SanJunipero1]

Hi thank you I will keep look out, I've heard the title, it rings bells. Hiw are you managing with your traumas now?

Sadly im having nightmares again but hoping after the lawyer, this may dissolve and I get therapy again. I have someone lined up, one of her specialist areas is in trauma and her rates are good.

Well right now, right now not great lol.
I was managing it pretty well through a combination of microdosing, young widow support group/lurking here and mainly writing (incredibly therapeutic for me), I was doing so well in fact, I felt ready to try EMDR which is proven to be a very effective form of trauma therapy
but unfortunately I'm too unstable for it currently and it was too difficult, started making me feel actively suicidal again so I had to stop. My problem is my fiancé's suicide itself isn't my trauma so death, trains, suicide, non of these are triggering things for me, quite the opposite. My trauma is our love and relationship, our lost future together so my triggers are couples, love and happiness, not exactly easy to avoid.
It's great you're giving trauma therapy a go and I have everything crossed for you, I know loads of other people it helped massively.

 

[sufferingalways]

Well right now, right now not great lol.
I was managing it pretty well through a combination of microdosing, young widow support group/lurking here and mainly writing (incredibly therapeutic for me), I was doing so well in fact, I felt ready to try EMDR which is proven to be a very effective form of trauma therapy
but unfortunately I'm too unstable for it currently and it was too difficult, started making me feel actively suicidal again so I had to stop. My problem is my fiancé's suicide itself isn't my trauma so death, trains, suicide, non of these are triggering things for me, quite the opposite. My trauma is our love and relationship, our lost future together so my triggers are couples, love and happiness, not exactly easy to avoid.
It's great you're giving trauma therapy a go and I have everything crossed for you, I know loads of other people it helped massively.

Hi sorry to hear things are not good for you right now.
Im with you on the writing thing. Therapeutic for me too. Ive filled loads of lever arch files with my writing over the years. Ive pondered a poetry booklet publishing thing as ive got loads but honestly dont know where or how to start.

What type of writing do you do? Journalling? Storytelling?
mine takes loads if different forms. Scripts, book chapters.. all bitty items.
I can imagine couples being triggering and upsetting. So sorry for your loss How long were you together?

Thank you, its a way away yet but im looking forward to starting it when i can. May be 2 years away.

 

[SanJunipero1]

Hi sorry to hear things are not good for you right now.
Im with you on the writing thing. Therapeutic for me too. Ive filled loads of lever arch files with my writing over the years. Ive pondered a poetry booklet publishing thing as ive got loads but honestly dont know where or how to start.

What type of writing do you do? Journalling? Storytelling?
mine takes loads if different forms. Scripts, book chapters.. all bitty items.
I can imagine couples being triggering and upsetting. So sorry for your loss How long were you together?

Thank you, its a way away yet but im looking forward to starting it when i can. May be 2 years away.

Wow that's awesome, you totally should. I haven't looked into it properly but I believe it's relatively easy to self publish an e-book, especially if you're more interested in just having your words read rather than to make money.

I'm playwriting, working on a dark comedy one woman show about suicide, young widowhood and female anger (I'm 37). Comedy is how I make sense of everything, if I can laugh about stuff then it doesn't overwhelm me so much and putting my rage on the page means I externalise rather than internalise it. I find it super therapeutic to be able to write both about my emotions and wish fulfilment stuff (what I would want to say to people in real life that I can't etc). I find I can safely revist stuff by writing as a character version of myself as it's almost dissociative and then performing my stuff (done a couple of monologues for various online theatre things) is another further dissociative step. In fact The Body Keeps The Score has chapters on what good trauma aides writing and drama can be.

Thank you for your kind words. We were friends for over 10 years, on and off over the years but never in the same place emotionally at the same time, then we both went through some shit in 2018 and came out the other side finally properly ready for each other and we never looked back, we got engaged in 2019 but I lost him a few short months later.
I found the meaning of life and the meaning of my life was him. I'm not suicidal because I don't know how to live without him,
I'm suicidal because I do. It's like doing a reverse Wizard of Oz, I got to experience what the world is like in glorious technicolour and now have to live in a black and white world.

How come 2 years, is that when you've been told you could access services?