Venting leaving my dogs...

[sadbadpsychogirl]

this is the hardest part of it all. my family knows that i am doing this and they have approved (unspoken) they know i will never have a good life and they understand. i have 2 wonderful dogs that i got a little over a year ago and i love them to death. they are the only thing that brings me any joy. my om and aunt and brother have made it clear that they love them to death as well and will take good care of them when i'm gone. i just can't help feeling that i am betraying them. or abandoning them. i can't stop thinking about it. i know for sure i am going to do this, i just don't know how to get over it. anyone feel the same way? i would appreciate any advice.

 

[ssaaahmo]

I feel the same way. I have dogs and chickens. I can't really give any advice but I'm glad I found someone who feels the same

 

[Aap]

animals are amazing and can love you in a selfless and unconditional manner. The best you can do in that situation is make sure they are taken care of.

 

[autumnal]

this is the hardest part of it all. my family knows that i am doing this and they have approved (unspoken) they know i will never have a good life and they understand. i have 2 wonderful dogs that i got a little over a year ago and i love them to death. they are the only thing that brings me any joy. my om and aunt and brother have made it clear that they love them to death as well and will take good care of them when i'm gone. i just can't help feeling that i am betraying them. or abandoning them. i can't stop thinking about it. i know for sure i am going to do this, i just don't know how to get over it. anyone feel the same way? i would appreciate any advice.

I think most pets are more adaptable to having new owners after we die than we give them credit for. I think we tend to project our feelings towards pets onto them having similar feelings towards us. And while they certainly love us, and take time to adjust to someone new, we're not as irreplaceable to them as they may be to us.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

thanks for the support guys, i feel a little better now.

 

[Jumper Geo]

Sadly your pooches will miss you and will grieve for you as well, there are many stories on the internet where they have waited for there owners to return after dying, but I'm sure they will be fine if your family love and take care of them, here is one story below waiting for there owner to return, I was going to give you the link to the thread I done about suicidal animals but I'm not that cruel.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/05/26/dog-waits-hospital-three-months-owner-dies-coronavirus-12757572/

Cheers

Geo

 

[Woodnote]

I feel the same way. My dogs are the only reason I'm alive right now. I don't want to abandon them.

 

[Kevin_theFrog]

I get how u feel just let em smell you after you died so they know you're actually gone

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

sounds kinda morbid. i'm going to shelter them from any unpleasantries. thank you for the idea though.

 

[Kevin_theFrog]

sounds kinda morbid. i'm going to shelter them from any unpleasantries. thank you for the idea though.

I know and it actually is. The thing is however, that ur pets don't know that you've died until they smell you afterwards. They might think u left them instead. Just trying to give information, what u do is up to you

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

thanks. they will be with my family i'm hoping that they will eventually forget me,

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

the thing is i think of them as my children (i don't know if this is normal) and its hard to abandon your children i have maternal instincts towards them and everything. my only solace is that i know they will be in good hands, but death is necessary for me.

 

[Addi_Madd]

My oldest cat probably has at least five years left, probably more. She's also the one who I know would actually miss me and be unhappy for at least a while, the others would be fine. I try to remind myself that if I'm willing to put human people through a grieving process, no matter how detached (there's only one person to whom I'm super loved and important, my mother, everyone else in my life have their own loved ones and close family) then it's a bit disingenuous to handwring over whether my cat will be able To get over it...

 

[Nofuture0628]

this is the hardest part of it all. my family knows that i am doing this and they have approved (unspoken) they know i will never have a good life and they understand. i have 2 wonderful dogs that i got a little over a year ago and i love them to death. they are the only thing that brings me any joy. my om and aunt and brother have made it clear that they love them to death as well and will take good care of them when i'm gone. i just can't help feeling that i am betraying them. or abandoning them. i can't stop thinking about it. i know for sure i am going to do this, i just don't know how to get over it. anyone feel the same way? i would appreciate any advice.

do you mind me asking your reason?

 

[nitroautnz]

I know how you feel , i had to leave my dog to my parent when i move out from my country because its an old dog, i just thinking that I won't see her again before i ctb break my heart ... I have a rat too (her sister die recently), and im worried about what happens to her if she don't die before me, its make things harder.

 

[Ghost2211]

It's honestly hard to say if it would be better for them to see and smell your body and know you're dead, or just never see you again. Growing up I had a lot of pets. When one died we put it on the ground for the others to see and say goodbye. Animals understand death.