Leaving a note

[Elaina]

Would it be best to leave a note explaining why I've chosen to kill myself? I've tried to explain to my mom why my life sucks and she just tells me to stop feeling sorry for myself. I just want someone to understand why I'm choosing to leave but no one understands.

 

[Hanger]

Leaving a note is better than talking to someone who wouldn´t understand. I will levae a note explaining y pain fears and everything that makes me leve this world

 

[Emily]

This is the hardest part for me to decide on. On one hand it could be helpful to explain why I've done it to give people closure; on the other hand I worry that it will cause people more pain if they obsess over it and read too much into it.

For example, if I say, "please look after each other", my family might think I'm implying they didn't do a good enough job of looking after me.

I think I'll just leave something simple like "I'm truly sorry and I love you all very much."

At the end of the day, they're going to be faced with the fact that their much-loved daughter hated herself and her life, and died alone, out of her mind on drugs, hanging from a tree with a broken neck, at 19 years old. Nothing in the world can make that hurt less.

 

[El Topo]

If there are people who care about you, I think it's best to leave a note. Short and simple, not a whole "tell your whole life story" thing, but enough to make it clear that it was a well thought-out decision and not just an impulsive action.

I'm planning on writing separate notes for a few different people and sending them through delayed email.

For my mom, I'm going to include something like, "I know you're going to blame yourself, but I hope that over time, you will learn to accept that it wasn't your fault. I know you did your best."