Just leave me alone for fucks sake.

[WAITING TO DIE]

I've been working my way up to ctb in early January and finalising my suicide note and funeral arrangements etc.
I'm absolutely committed to this and am 100% sure that it is the only solution to a lifetime of untreatable, persistent mental illness and several other unsolvable problems.
The problem is that my Sister has begun contacting me regularly lately by text, even though we have very little to do with each other anymore because I am viewed as the depressed, socially awkward loser of the family and she has treated me badly in the past even though I'd never done anything to deserve it.
This is really freaking me out because I don't want any contact whatsoever between now and my death, especially now because anyone trying to have a conversation with me would immediately realise that I wasn't right mentally and I've lost a lot of weight too.
It can't be anything urgent or else she would have said so in the text, she just makes small talk about the weather and stuff.
I don't hate her or anything but I just wish she'd go away and leave me alone like she has done in the past.

 

[Some place nice]

Maybe you could just start responding less? Try to make it seem like you are working a lot lately.

 

[Orbitc]

Hello Nembutal dreams! Maybe you should find the courage and tell her that you don't want to communicate with her, even if she regrets her behavior in the past. Just be honest and straightforward. Sometimes it's difficult for people to behave as I advise because they are afraid of offending someone...

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Hello Nembutal dreams! Maybe you should find the courage and tell her that you don't want to communicate with her, even if she regrets her behavior in the past. Just be honest and straightforward. Sometimes it's difficult for people to behave as I advise because they are afraid of offending someone...

I've tried this before in the past when I've tried to ignore her.
She's very controlling and interfering.
If I ignore her she will take offence and start trouble.
She will probably come round to where I live and be confrontational.
The thing is that I look obviously ill and am a nervous and emotional wreck at the moment, and knowing her she will call the psych ward on me because she's done it once before in the past, not because she cares much but because " she knows what's best for me ".
She just won't listen or respect people's boundaries.

 

[tiger b]

She's twistin' your melon man. Scrotally. *

It sucks feeling like you have to play along with that silly, mundane game. It sounds like you'd have more drama than you need if the psych ward got involved...so it seems it's the lesser of two evils.

Personally, I'd rather eat my own spleen than interface with that 'sort' of person your sister seems to be. Without ketchup, too. Oh how great to be rich, then you could just disappear before CTB.

Shame you can't get AI to automatically answer the texts. Talking about the weather in Manchester doesn't usually involve a lot of imagination, 'It's fookin' raining' x 365.

* one trick tiger

 

[FuneralCry]

It must be frustrating and awful being in that situation, I wish people would just learn to mind their own business. But anyway best wishes.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

She's twistin' your melon man. Scrotally. *

It sucks feeling like you have to play along with that silly, mundane game. It sounds like you'd have more drama than you need if the psych ward got involved...so it seems it's the lesser of two evils.

Personally, I'd rather eat my own spleen than interface with that 'sort' of person your sister seems to be. Without ketchup, too. Oh how great to be rich, then you could just disappear before CTB.

Shame you can't get AI to automatically answer the texts. Talking about the weather in Manchester doesn't usually involve a lot of imagination, 'It's fookin' raining' x 365.

* one trick tiger

Thanks tiger, your post made me smile a little during a very bad day.

 

[gbi2]

Bit soon to judge her via the internet but she immediately seems a bit of a narcissist. Possibly it's your turn again to be her supply when she has got bored of other relatives and friends. They don't like not getting the exact kind of attention they want. They have no hierarhcy of action, reward, values or anything so they will easily resort to the worst thing possible to do or say to someone when something less harsh would have been a better option.

 

[lunchbox]

Family always serve to get in the way of things, but you're strong and I know you will make it. Hopefully soon you'll be at peace from them all in one way or another <3

 

[ThisUnrest]

Sorry youre having such a hard time and being put into an uncomfortable situation. That would make me nervous, too.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Bit soon to judge her via the internet but she immediately seems a bit of a narcissist. Possibly it's your turn again to be her supply when she has got bored of other relatives and friends. They don't like not getting the exact kind of attention they want. They have no hierarhcy of action, reward, values or anything so they will easily resort to the worst thing possible to do or say to someone when something less harsh would have been a better option.

You've definitely hit the nail on the head here. She takes after my mother who was a malignant narcissist.
She's nowhere as near as bad as my mother but definitely bad enough.

Family always serve to get in the way of things, but you're strong and I know you will make it. Hopefully soon you'll be at peace from them all in one way or another <3

Thank you, the kindness of strangers is a wonderful thing.

 

[gbi2]

Shit. So yeah the best thing to do as advised by the many experts I've learned from, including self-aware narcissists like Ben who runs the Raw Motivations youtube channel is to try and stay No Contact. It always assumes you have that choice though and like I mentioned on some videos in the comments, sometimes you can't, like when you work with one and can't get another job so easily.

The thing is they can cause the damage without you knowing until it's gone beyond the point of fixing.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Shit. So yeah the best thing to do as advised by the many experts I've learned from, including self-aware narcissists like Ben who runs the Raw Motivations youtube channel is to try and stay No Contact. It always assumes you have that choice though and like I mentioned on some videos in the comments, sometimes you can't, like when you work with one and can't get another job so easily.

The thing is they can cause the damage without you knowing until it's gone beyond the point of fixing.

This is so true. I couldn't get away from my mother when younger and her abuse messed my brain up for life.

 

[gbi2]

This is so true. I couldn't get away from my mother when younger and her abuse messed my brain up for life.

And it's still such a misunderstood form of abuse that people go through. Many therapists don't even understand the effects. They still think it's a choice to just dust yourself off and get on with it.

 

[hi-okbye]

family tends to try and get in the way, i hope she leaves you alone soon.
like someone else mentioned, have you ever tried just telling her your busy with work or something?

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

family tends to try and get in the way, i hope she leaves you alone soon.
like someone else mentioned, have you ever tried just telling her your busy with work or something?

She refuses to listen or respect boundaries. They definitely try and get in the way, even though we have very little contact overall.

 

[hi-okbye]

Yes, but she refuses to listen or respect boundaries. They definitely try and get in the way, even though we have very little contact overall.

i'm sorry she's so controlling you don't deserve that :/

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Maybe you could just start responding less? Try to make it seem like you are working a lot lately.

I've tried this, but she just doesn't listen or respect boundaries. Thanks anyway.