He strawmans and says that someone might experience bad stuff and experience PTSD, then in the next sentence he talks about someone having a setback at work. This is at around the 15:30 mark. Yeah, no Dr. K you can't use an argument like this and say that something so traumatic that they get PTSD and say that they're not as adaptable as someone who had a setback at work because these are two
very different things. Also, in the case of PTSD, what do you say to someone who had a traumatic childhood? Maybe for something like abusive parents? They adapt to try to survive their parents, and can still get PTSD even if they don't that's going to fuck them up forever. This here wouldn't be a case of "just adapt", but rather accepting the fact that you lost your childhood (well, that's what I did anyways, and some studies I've found say that this can be helpful or very damaging). This isn't something that can be solved because it happened when you were a kid. LOTS of people are unhappy because their parents were shit. Especially here. I'm not sure adaptability can heal your loss. Yes, it's an extreme case, but he brought up PTSD in the first place.
Also didn't he say in several other videos that giving up is in itself an adaptation? Your brain is trying to save yourself energy by giving up? (I'm straw-manning here. This is a very very weak argument, but it
is an argument like you asked).
He also blames black & white thinking, and to be honest I don't really buy into it that much. But I also don't really understand where he's going with it other than "don't think in black and white." "Don't think that this thing will either be good or bad." So... what, just do it? Honestly, I guess that's fair, but I think you should also allow yourself to listen to both the black
and the white thinking, then morph into gray. That's usually how I go about it anyways. The more I look at this section, the more I think that it's just a high-level overview. He's
right and giving you the knowledge for you to go to coaching or therapy for. Funnily enough, the commenters accuse detractors of thinking in black and white instead of doing what Dr. K said to do and trying to understand the other side. I don't think that getting rid of black and white thinking is going to work on its own though. I mean, you've already said, and don't
seem to me from posts I've seen from you (at least the posts before I left) to be a black & white thinker. He seems to imply that if you're a gray thinker everything will be solved. No.
Honestly, I think the video is fine. It's high-level stuff and doesn't need to be more than that. I just don't necessarily agree with the notion because I tend to think of myself as a gray thinker, specifically, I think of the black, then the white, then smash them together. I'm doing what he says great! Now what? And that video wasn't about the now what part. I think you don't like the video because you already knew everything and felt it was out of touch like I did simply because we don't know what to do afterward, but other people might find it helpful. I know I found some of his other videos helpful more so just for the fact that I gained a better understanding of certain psychology topics that I like.
This video goes through it all, even interviewing a lot of professionals in the mental health field about how much of a fuck up Dr K is.
It's a little long and don't have time currently to view it, but I did skim what I did see is just... damn. I never noticed this stuff before when I used to listen to his VODs at work.
