It is valentine's day and I TALKED with a woman what a SUCCESS!

[noname223]

YES. I DID IT! What an achievement! I talked to a woman who was not a relative of mine. She was around my age and I later found out she has a bf. But damn I approached her and bam what a success. If I do such achievements in such a short time (I am in my mid twenties.) I might can hold a hand of a woman when I am 40.

No seriously damn I am so pathetic. We would not have fit anyway. Though it was kind of good to appproach her. Something always told me inside myself that she finds me disgusting. But the social skills were better than in the past. I try to train them. I am FAR FAR away being able to find a gf. I don't have the guts to ask for a phone number. My self-esteem is absolutely zero or even negative. I could not handle a rejection. I am very glad I have not asked for her number because later she mentioned her bf. Geez that was good. I really don't need such an embarassing moment again. My self-hatred can be triggered by such a pathetic moment a lot.

To add one thing: of course I am only speaking about women in real life and not in this forum for example

Oh and the title is obviously irony...the parts about achievement and big success is obviously ironic too. I even once had a double bind with a good looking borderline girl and some other experiences with women. Though due to isolation my social skills declined a lot.

 

[HappyForever?]

Congratulations! I hope you make more progress soon.

 

[Sherri]

Yay. So happy for you!

 

[Deleted member 8975]

are the replies thus far also irony or did no one read the subject matter?

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Is she someone you knew? "Cold calling" women in public is difficult.

 

[Mixo]

As a gay woman, I have to say I think you are seriously underestimating your accomplishment here. I also have found all my exes mostly online, or by being friends with them first for some time before professing my interest in them romantically and I've learned it's okay if things start off slow. I myself have never gone up to a woman I didn't know and "chatted them up" (i.e. flirted) straight out (sorry if I'm making an erroneous assumption about your level of relationship with this girl). Unless I'm missing out on key info here, it sounds like you interacted with her relatively appropriately.

 

[noname223]

Is she someone you knew? "Cold calling" women in public is difficult.

I won't go into details I am too scared of being doxxed. Trust me this was not inappropriate. I am very careful not to do something like that. To start the conversation had a really good reason. And she seemed not to be unpleasant about it.

 

[Sherri]

I won't go into details I am too scared of being doxxed. Trust me this was not inappropriate. I am very careful not to do something like that. To start the conversation had a really good reason. And she seemed not to be unpleasant about it.

Yes always be careful. I'm very happy once again my dear

 

[whywere]

Congratulations and so AWESOME!!!

Your post made my heart skip a beat as seeing fellow SS members happy!!

I truly wear my heart on my sleeve and my heart on my sleeve also skipped a beat for you!!

Your post reminds me that you are awesome, life is awesome and that there is a world out there!!

Sending you lots of huge hugs, caring and the knowledge that you are a wonderous soul.

Walter

 

[noname223]

are the replies thus far also irony or did no one read the subject matter?

To be honest I have the feeling the most people don't get the irony of this post which is in itself somewhat funny. This incident did not really change my mood. My mood this day was and is horrible.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I won't go into details I am too scared of being doxxed. Trust me this was not inappropriate. I am very careful not to do something like that. To start the conversation had a really good reason. And she seemed not to be unpleasant about it.

I didn't mean to imply you were inappropriate. I just meant going up to someone you don't know is difficult so congratulations you had the courage.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Any socializing is good really, it doesn't matter if it doesn't yield a tangible result. I think that's a big part of it too (taking the pressure off yourself).

I remember I met one girl at the bar just by ordering a matcha tea shot. She was interested in what I got, and I told her I wanted to be drunk and healthy at the same time. That made her laugh and the rest was history. So really, any stupid interaction could get you in the door. You never know in life, and nothing is set in stone or linear. Keep trying.

 

[motel rooms]

I refuse to celebrate Valentine's Day like normies. I gave my husband an onion this morning. No, that isn't gay slang for some pungent sex act.

Not a red rose or a satin heart.
I give you an onion.
It is a moon wrapped in brown paper.
It promises light
like the careful undressing of love.

Here.
It will blind you with tears
like a lover.
It will make your reflection
a wobbling photo of grief.
I am trying to be truthful.

Not a cute card or a kissogram.
I give you an onion.
Its fierce kiss will stay on your lips,
possessive and faithful
as we are,
for as long as we are.

-- Carol Ann Duffy

 

[callme]

Man, to hear says much from you makes me more than delighted. I can't have had a better ending to my day, to any day, now that I found out that one of those things that break me inside, something I will never be able to do, is to your delight and success. It's only making me tear up, seeing how similar am I in terms of how I would feel, but always doomed from when I knew myself.

Hope a mountain fell down from your shoulders, that it should. I can only expect now you'll find yourself an emotionally well-adjusted woman and finally get out of the hole.

refuse to celebrate Valentine's Day like normies

February non-celebration day? What do they even do other than gulp choc and wine?

Your poem is hard to understand, but meaningful still.

 

[RN12]

awesome!

I could not handle a rejection. Try to learn and don't take it to yourself if it happens.

A good lesson I learned is:
30% likes you very much
40% is neutral about you
30% don't like you and that's okay

Just believe it! numbers may vary slightly but it is true!
There is not something like 'everybody' hates me it's impossible. Your head can tell you, but it's BS.. There are always people on the world who like you. Even if you don't know them or when they live on the other side of the world.

If you are rejected someday you just had someone from the wrong 30% group
If you have someone who doesn't know yet, that's okay it's the 40% and biggest group.
If you have someone who goes on a date with you directly that's nice

It's like fishing. Don't be to hard on yourself with the ladies ^^

 

[Sherri]

This song is for you today!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

You almost had me there, sorry that happened to you but hey, baby steps at least.

 

[callme]

This song is for you today!

I kissed a girl and I liked it,
The taste of her Charlie Chaplin

 

[motel rooms]

Your poem is hard to understand, but meaningful still.

You understand it. Love has nothing to do with cutesy Valentine's Day clichés.

 

[callme]

You understand it. Love has nothing to do with cutesy Valentine's Day cliches.

Well by intuition, I can guess it doesn't, flimsy as many modern relarionships. But real love is not something I can ever even dream about. Seems as real as it gets when you talk about it though, seriously one of the best displays I've seen, although I still don't know what onions are for.