Help Is there anyone here around 35 or over who got broken up with/divorced to add to their depression? As if you didn't hate life already!

[ChildrensITV]

People break up all the time, especially when younger. Heartbreak is clichéd feeling among the young. This is not to make light of it when it happens to the young. But for older people, it is a bit different because you are uglier, wrinklier, balder and less attractive. Less collagen, less sex-hormones, less vitality. If you don't like my facts, press Back on your browser now, by the way. It will be harder to get another mate if you're not goodlooking, especially if you are a male who isn't goodlooking. You're on a deadline. When you're older and try to date, many women have already had all their children. I guess some men too from the women's perspective.

There is a whole lot more you need to have achieved when you are trying to date when older. A stable job, a good income, etc.

I was using the last person I was with as a crutch to keep me alive. It was long-distance but it was just enough to give me a reason to get out of bed. I still hated life owing to other circumstances, but this was the one thing that kept me going. It wasn't perfect by any means. But it was something in a sea of nothingness. Then I got dumped. I can't imagine how people go through much longer, closer (you live in the same country!) relationships. Again, I need to stress that because I am an ugly, deformed male, the "plenty of other fish in the sea" does not apply to me. This was my one fish. And the fish was more attractive than I deserved.

I hated my life for decades. I didn't need anything added to my pain. Now more than ever, it is clear that I am not living for myself. It's to keep family from crying at my funeral. I am living on autopilot. I have checked out mentally. I can't do this much longer.

 

[leland]

I feel you. I'm 46 and went through a terrible divorce last year. It hit me hard! I lost my business and have to sell my home. I've suffered from depression and anxiety off and on since my teens, but this last year has been on another level. I wish I knew how to start over at this stage in my life. It just feels so hopeless.

 

[Unattainable666]

People break up all the time, especially when younger. Heartbreak is clichéd feeling among the young. This is not to make light of it when it happens to the young. But for older people, it is a bit different because you are uglier, wrinklier, balder and less attractive. Less collagen, less sex-hormones, less vitality. If you don't like my facts, press Back on your browser now, by the way. It will be harder to get another mate if you're not goodlooking, especially if you are a male who isn't goodlooking. You're on a deadline. When you're older and try to date, many women have already had all their children. I guess some men too from the women's perspective.

There is a whole lot more you need to have achieved when you are trying to date when older. A stable job, a good income, etc.

I was using the last person I was with as a crutch to keep me alive. It was long-distance but it was just enough to give me a reason to get out of bed. I still hated life owing to other circumstances, but this was the one thing that kept me going. It wasn't perfect by any means. But it was something in a sea of nothingness. Then I got dumped. I can't imagine how people go through much longer, closer (you live in the same country!) relationships. Again, I need to stress that because I am an ugly, deformed male, the "plenty of other fish in the sea" does not apply to me. This was my one fish. And the fish was more attractive than I deserved.

I hated my life for decades. I didn't need anything added to my pain. Now more than ever, it is clear that I am not living for myself. It's to keep family from crying at my funeral. I am living on autopilot. I have checked out mentally. I can't do this much longer.

Yes. Relationship with a narcissist. Not a good result. Joined a number of sites for just that thing that really helped. I feel nothing anymore. Not sadness not anything. That's how they work - they drain you of any emotions you may have had.