Venting Is the idealization of love childish?

[Eren]

One of my reasons for CTB is my inability to have a partner (for a thousand reasons) loneliness etc ... and sometimes I tend to idealize (fantasize) what it would be like to have a partner, feel that intimacy together etc ...

Does anyone else do it? Do you think it is childish? Although it is, it doesn't surprise me, I think I'm quite immature for my age.

 

[blivogade]

Its not childish at all, its obviously something you crave and idealising can be comforting.
I seem unable to find a partner, so i do the same thing. At times it sucks but for those who ive asked who've found someone, it comes when you least expect it, and thats what gives me hope.
You arent immature for wanting something good, if idealising is what gets you by for the time being than so be it.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

Love is a waste of time and money. And can lead you to ctb

 

[NightmareTour]

I did used to feel like that. Then, I actually fell in love with someone who actually, really wanted to be with me. Or, I guess, so I thought. Maybe other people's experiences are different, but even when you're with someone and you really trust them and think that they're the love of your life, they can suddenly turn around and let you know that they never really felt the same about you. I don't believe in love as an amazing thing anymore. It's just something that happens between people and usually works out shitty.

 

[Green Destiny]

There's plenty of other things that can be way more childish imo, so no it's not childish.

 

[terry_a_davis]

It's not childish it's a natural human instinct to want to feel love and be with someone special. I feel for those who don't really ever get to experience this even just once. I've been hurt in relationships (and have unfortunately hurt others), i've been single for ages now and probably will be life but i know i'm so lucky compared to some.

 

[K-O]

not at all!!- love is only thing worth living for!!
@terry_a_davis im absolutely obsessed with your avatar.. sometimes i find myself starring at you for v long periods of time tbh..

 

[terry_a_davis]

@K-O I like it too it makes me laugh, @Yomyom had a good explanation for it, that's he's taken a wonderful new drug that hasn't been invented yet.

 

[K-O]

@K-O I like it too it makes me laugh, YomYom had a good explanation for it, that's he's taken a wonderful new drug that hasn't been invented yet.

well.... yeah... ok thats one way of lookin at it

 

[Arrow]

@terry_a_davis im absolutely obsessed with your avatar.. sometimes i find myself starring at you for v long periods of time tbh..

same i can't stop staring at it sometimes.

 

[K-O]

same i can't stop staring at it sometimes.

seems like wer'e all LOVE horndogs @Eren

 

[terry_a_davis]

@K-O and @Fumito If you want to download it you can from here https://gofile.io/d/zXp3ch (4.4MB ) I'd love to know how they made it, he must have been busting some serious moves to get his hair moving like that, and the faces he pulls (lol) maybe he was on something who knows...

 

[K-O]

@K-O and @Fumito If you want to download it you can from here https://gofile.io/d/zXp3ch (4.4MB ) I'd love to know how they made it, he must have been busting some serious moves to get his hair moving like that, and the faces he pulls (lol) maybe he was on something who knows...

that's what SELF LOVE does to one.. DANGER DANGER HIGH VOLTAGE! !
and nah mate.. i'd rather just go on stalking you thank you very much

 

[Lorntroubles]

Yes and no. If you have never experienced such things, then that is all the knowledge you will possess--to idealize and fantasize. But even I have my moments where I daydream about romance and what I would have wished for my life.

 

[Didymus]

It is not childish at all. Love is ageless.

 

[The Dark Chaos]

Its not childishh. Love is and will alwayys remain infinte and mysterious. But with time you also get to learn that LOVE FADES!

 

[xalltoowell]

It's not childish at all. Fantasizing about a different reality is sometimes all that can keep us semi-sane.

I'm quite cynical about love while equally being a hopeless romantic, but I've felt real love before and was overwhelmed to tears by the foreign sensation of feeling like I didn't want to die anymore and finally feeling like I had a reason to live.
It didn't work out, it never does for me, but that doesn't mean it can't for someone else.

 

[Nyxx33]

It isn't childish. So long you don't expect the other person to solve all your problems. It can be nice to have but takes work. It's super hard to find someone to match with that's loyal and kind and loves you for who you are. So if you find it don't take it for granted. I've dated for the last 3 years and still not even close to what I once had.

 

[Bct]

It's not childish. I had been in a relationship once but it's just a brief (less than a month) so the experience is barely there. I've been experiencing lots of unrequited love so combining this with having no close relationship with friends and family is a surefire way to feel loneliness.

I don't expect my relationship (if I have any) to fill the entire loneliness hole, but at least experiencing it properly perhaps will give me a bit drive to live. I also understand having a bad relationship is the main reason people want to CTB because love is't all about glitters and rainbows. Honestly, in my case I'm too skeptical to find one who loves me back, especially since I have suicidal thoughts and won't be around this world soon.

 

[Eren]

Fantasizing about a different reality is sometimes all that can keep us semi-sane.

Completely agree, that's what happens to me, but reality hits me much harder afterwards.

 

[TheSoulless]

I don't think it's childish, but I also think it's slightly harmful to hold it to a really high value. That's how I feel, at least. It was a big reason why I developed depression. My main hindering factor now is a health condition, but you know what? I still tend to value love and intimacy over many things. The thing is that I don't know what relationships – or even the feeling of love – are like.

Completely agree, that's what happens to me, but reality hits me much harder afterwards.

I feel you. It's worst when waking up from a pleasant dream.