Discussion Is sex worth it?

[freedommatrix]

I'm 21 and never had sex. I also will soon be getting chemical castration drugs from my friend to remove my libido. He takes SSRI's and Andocur which completely kills his sex drive. Hasn't masturbated in over 7 months or had sex.

My question is, is sex nice that this is a mistake or should I just castrate myself?

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Personally myself I think you should wait because you are still young... Sex is nice but it's not everything... Its just a huge decision that you are making..... Hugs to you

 

[Sensei]

Please excuse my ignorance, but Is chemical castration permanent? If it is, I agree with Rallyon. Wait and see.

 

[freedommatrix]

Please excuse my ignorance, but Is chemical castration permanent? If it is, I agree with Rallyon. Wait and see.

No it's not.

 

[Sensei]

No it's not.

If you're sure there are no lasting effects, I guess you could go through with it. Obviously, this is a very private topic, so I fully understand if you don't want to answer, but what's your particular reason for wanting to remove your libido?

(For the record: I'm not saying that you must have a libido. Nikola Tesla, Andy Warhol, Mother Teresa, and many others died virgins, and they seem to have lived happier and more stimulating lives than most.)

 

[Brick In The Wall]

Don't do it! Life sucks enough as it is. Atleast enjoy the "guilty" pleasures of even self gratification. You're young and will find someone in due time.

 

[Sensei]

Don't do it! Life sucks enough as it is. Atleast enjoy the "guilty" pleasures of even self gratification. You're young and will find someone in due time.

I generally agree with you, but there are people who have good reasons to suppress or even remove their libido.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I generally agree with you, but there are people who have good reasons to suppress or even remove their libido.

I suppose you're right, to each their own. This is after all a pro choice forum. Any major decision such as this or even CTB should, however, not be taken lightly.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

I believe you are making a mistake. Don't mess with that stuff. Yes. It is something to miss out on. Im not going to lie and say it isn't. But attainable sex is far from impossible if you really want it so if truly feel you aren't missing anything maybe your not. Since you have no experience I suggest giving sex a try.
Im not trying to talk NSFW on here but I honestly think that this is valid to your question. This is not to be answered by you but rather for you to ask yourself.
Do you like masturbating? And I mean when one has withheld a bit. Not masturbating 3 times a day everyday. If yes? Try sex.
It's not that much different physically but there is a huge body connection that you can't get with your hand or porn, whether you are gay or straight.

Do you find yourself looking at anyone with sexual desire? If yes? Again I think this is a mistake.

Also another thing to realize is that many people think they are asexual until they engage with the right person. I am not invalidating asexual people. It's a real thing. I know. Also past trauma that impedes or fouls sexuality can also be overcome sometimes after experiencing some good sexual encounters. The brain can rewire. It's not easy for people dealing with that stuff.

All this said, as another poster stated. Sex isn't everything. I got some good sex just 3 weeks ago and I'm still completely depressed. I think you should give it a try though. If anything at least that's one thing you don't have to regret not trying when you pass away. You don't have to feel like you missed out.

 

[freedommatrix]

I generally agree with you, but there are people who have good reasons to suppress or even remove their libido.

I think pedophiles would be one example

 

[Mr2005]

I'm 21 and never had sex. I also will soon be getting chemical castration drugs from my friend to remove my libido. He takes SSRI's and Andocur which completely kills his sex drive. Hasn't masturbated in over 7 months or had sex.

My question is, is sex nice that this is a mistake or should I just castrate myself?

I didn't have sex until I was 21. Once I had it became less of a big deal. That's not to say it's not worth having

 

[ManWithNoName]

My question is, is sex nice that this is a mistake or should I just castrate myself?

Don't castrate yourself, that's what all the man-haters want you to do.

Are you taking the SSRI's to stop your libido? Or for other reasons?

As was already stated here that sex is great, but it's not everything, though at age 21 you're at your peak and something legitimately that occupies your mind a lot.

Just realize too that as a young man there will be elements of society that will try to manipulate you via sex (advertisements for example) so just be aware of that. Be highly cautious too when engaging in sex—wear protection to avoid unplanned pregnancies.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

Taking SSRIs can have long lasting effects on sexual function. This is not a good idea. Do not listen to anyone who tells you there is good reason for this. Unless you are raping people there is no reason to do this to yourself.

 

[Final Escape]

It can be the most beautiful act and experience u ever imagined. In some ways I wish I never knew how amazing it can be lol! It can enslave and addict u because it can be so intense and has a theraputic/healing effect. It is tragic if u get on meds and never get to have this experience. In our current system love and sex is something the tyrants want to destroy because it brings joy, meaning, connection, intimacy, and it is not something they can tax.

 

[SettOne1994]

I think pedophiles would be one example

pedophiles become such for long supressing their libido and desires...also feeling small as a man

 

[ManWithNoName]

In our current system love and sex is something the tyrants want to destroy because it brings joy, meaning, connection, intimacy, and it is not something they can tax.

Nailed it.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

I lost my libido a few years ago and honestly, just think about all the BS you can avoid. Many people really live their whole life's through relationship drama. Looking at them I feel like an alien sometimes.

 

[Dead beat dad]

I'm 21 and never had sex. I also will soon be getting chemical castration drugs from my friend to remove my libido. He takes SSRI's and Andocur which completely kills his sex drive. Hasn't masturbated in over 7 months or had sex.

My question is, is sex nice that this is a mistake or should I just castrate myself?

Hi friend sounds like you're in a shitty place. Take it from someone who hates sex with a passion (ironic), it is that it is overrated.
Ask anyone to share their experience of losing their innocence and it will usually not be a happy story.
Sex like pizza is generally okay even if it not so great but after you will always feel a bit rubbish. That is my experience.
That said your plan to annihilate you labido permanently seems a bit extreme in my opinion. You may have been down this road but have you tired working out and then studying / reading till you drop?
Sexual release and sex are not the same thing but they will both be out of the equation if you hurt yourself as you're describing.
I wish you peace friend.
DBD

 

[ctbUniquectb]

If OP can pull 7 months without choking the chicken then sex is prob no big deal to miss out on

That said, shame of not even holding someone's hand until I was 20, then 8 years of my 20s without dating, then my last ex using sex as a weapon against me ... well, you're all correct that sex isn't everything. but money isn't everything either. sexlessness isn't the main reason but it's figuring into why I'm catching the bus soon.

 

[Life sucks]

Everyone is different maybe. In my case I want the libido because its closely related to brain chemicals and helps me against anhedonia. Without it, fighting anhedonia is 1000x harder.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

Everyone is different maybe. In my case I want the libido because its closely related to brain chemicals and helps me against anhedonia. Without it, fighting anhedonia is 1000x harder.

Spoiler: MY MAN!

 

[TAW122]

I would say it's worth having the experience just "once" in your life so that way you won't have to worry about what it feels like both physically and emotionally. I didn't lose my virginity until just soon after my 29th birthday. I vowed never to be a wizard (a 30 year old virgin) myself so I made good on my promise. For me, I went somewhere where it was legal and paid for it. I have no shame nor regrets in paying for it either because I know that everyone pays one way or another (I won't elaborate into that as that would be another topic for another time and some may agree/disagree with me. However, I still stand by my decision and no regrets either.)

Spoiler: An European country

Amsterdam, Netherlands

I also got a trip overseas to somewhere I never been in my life.

 

[rntmss]

Yes.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

your post

Disagree. Not the same when you pay: no ego boost that someone likes and accepts and desires you.

But I'm not gonna yuck your yum, my brother in autism.

 

[Xena87]

Why TF do you want to castrate yourself? Are you wishing to transition into a woman? Do you have sexual mental problems like pedophilic thoughts etc?..
There's a reason behind this that you're not saying because castrating yourself is very specific.

 

[foreverbroken28]

I'm 21 and never had sex. I also will soon be getting chemical castration drugs from my friend to remove my libido. He takes SSRI's and Andocur which completely kills his sex drive. Hasn't masturbated in over 7 months or had sex.

My question is, is sex nice that this is a mistake or should I just castrate myself?

If the curiosity is strong enough, perhaps you should wait it out and try it. I'll be 30 soon and I'm still a virgin and will probably die that way. (By choice.)

You are still extremely young.

 

[faust]

Well, I think you would better just decrease your libido, with a chance of getting it back to normal, but no chemical castration.
Sex is good itself, but should never be a priority.
Or at least you can try to put your sexual energy anywhere else

 

[ctbUniquectb]

Sex is good itself, but should never be a priority.

That's like saying food shouldn't be a priority.

Or at least you can try to put your sexual energy anywhere else

I've heard that said before. Sincerely, what does it even mean?

 

[faust]

@ctbUniquectb People cannot live without food, but can without sex. There is even such a thing called abstinence, some people say that helps, but when I was on SSRI it was just normal not to have a desire for sex.
For some people who has high libido it is good not to "wind up" but use this very feeling to create something, to workout in the gym, does not matter what to do, but it is an additional source of energy. It is hard to say what is this, only using examples

 

[porksoda]

I guess it depends on the person. It can be enjoyable but losing my virginity wasn't a huge, life changing experience to me or anything. Honestly I could take it or leave it most days, personally.

If you're curious about it, I'd go for it and not the castration. You're young.