Is it wrong to feel wanted?

[Dante]

Firstly I apologise if this thread is in the wrong place.

move suffered with depression for 15 years and it's been a tough ride but I'm still here however I feel so alone, I have family and I feel like they just don't care.

last week I wrote a suicide note and self harmed. My mother, father and sister found out and I've not really had any contact from them other than you know where we are if you need us?

if it was my kids I would be on the phone most days or messaging to see how they are after such an episode.
Am I wrong for letting this get to me?
Is the "we are here if you need us" a common reaction or am I right in just thinking that they don't give a shit?

I'm just fed up of being alone and having to fight everyday with little support from others?

 

[Jean4]

It isn't wrong. I completely understand.

When I was a child, I used to dream my parents were the one's from Little House on the Prairie . When I was in grade school, I wished my two favorite teachers would marry and adopt me.

Unfortunately, we can't choose our parents. You can't choose your biological family, but you can choose who you make your family... and you have us.

 

[Lostnotfound]

It is a bitter pill to swallow when the actions of loved ones demonstrate they dont give a shit. Experience talking.

 

[BlackPoppet]

Firstly I apologise if this thread is in the wrong place.

move suffered with depression for 15 years and it's been a tough ride but I'm still here however I feel so alone, I have family and I feel like they just don't care.

last week I wrote a suicide note and self harmed. My mother, father and sister found out and I've not really had any contact from them other than you know where we are if you need us?

if it was my kids I would be on the phone most days or messaging to see how they are after such an episode.
Am I wrong for letting this get to me?
Is the "we are here if you need us" a common reaction or am I right in just thinking that they don't give a shit?

I'm just fed up of being alone and having to fight everyday with little support from others?

There is nothing wrong with being wanted! People are social creatures. Especially when it comes to family. I don't think you are wrong for letting this get to you. When I self harmed as a teen, my dad said something really cruel. Which still upsets me to this very day. People need the support of my families during extremely difficult times.
hugs from me to you.

 

[Dante]

Thanks guys I really appreciate your words and puts things into perspective

 

[RottenDeer]

There's nothing wrong with being wanted. Even people who say they don't secretly long for someone who wants and understand them, no matter if it comes in form of family, friends or lover.

 

[disabledandhopeless]

It's not wrong. I want to feel wanted too.

 

[Pan]

Firstly I apologise if this thread is in the wrong place.

move suffered with depression for 15 years and it's been a tough ride but I'm still here however I feel so alone, I have family and I feel like they just don't care.

last week I wrote a suicide note and self harmed. My mother, father and sister found out and I've not really had any contact from them other than you know where we are if you need us?

if it was my kids I would be on the phone most days or messaging to see how they are after such an episode.
Am I wrong for letting this get to me?
Is the "we are here if you need us" a common reaction or am I right in just thinking that they don't give a shit?

I'm just fed up of being alone and having to fight everyday with little support from others?

You May be alone, but you sound like A wonderful mother who sincerely cares about the health and well being of her children. I don't have kids, so what the heckdoiknow about the rigors of motherhood. I know that YOU CARE...that alone puts you ahead of the game...

Thanks guys I really appreciate your words and puts things into perspective

I KNOW THINGS WILLBE OK, FRIEND. YR. PAL ALWAYS.

 

[s1mplem3]

If I was your father I would cry about it and spend all my time with you. You need someone to love you and I'm sorry that you miss it in your life.

 

[Beautiful_Disgrace]

I've self harmed plenty of times, and when I finally told people no one ever checked up on me. My own boyfriend saw me bleeding into a paper towel, treated the wound and pretended everything was fine the next day. I don't know. I'm beginning to think that being rejected after self harming by loved ones is the normal reaction.

 

[PoisonedJuliet]

Short and simple. No it is not wrong to be wanted. You deserve to be loved and cared for. You deserve to be wanted.

 

[Mm80]

Is the "we are here if you need us" a common reaction or am I right in just thinking that they don't give a shit?

I have a slightly different slant on this. Obviously i dont know your family and you do. I have had experiences whereby i believe my family care very much but cannot handle the suicide thing. Some people cannot get their head round it and dont know what to do for the best. They might wrongly think that you want space and time on your own? They might even be hurt that you want to leave them behind.i know my family were. They felt betrayed. Or of course as suggested in earlier posts sadly they may not care enough. Maybe you coukd tell them how you feel (probably easier said than done)
Anyway you will always find understanding support and care on here and hopefully this will help.
Thanks

 

[keiichidono]

It's not wrong to want to feel like someone would miss you when you're gone. I know I'll be forgotten but I still want to be missed.