is it wrong to blame someone for your suicide?

[39hatsune]

what if this person genuinely drove you to it? like i have been suicidal for years before i met this person but they really fucked me up, my decision this time is a result of their actions

i dont want to write in a note or something that its their fault, but i also kinda want them to know how they made me feel

 

[sanctionedusage]

no with respect to common sense caveats

 

[not yet]

Uhh, I'm not sure. I think it depends on the person's intentions and what exactly they did

 

[39hatsune]

Uhh, I'm not sure. I think it depends on the person's intentions and what exactly they did

abuse but i think they genuinely dont realise they abused me . like either he is really stupid and arrogant or he knows exactly what he did
thats why im unsure

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

Depends what they did, obviously use some common sense [don't blame an infant for crying and giving you a headache so bad you CTB...] but in general I don't think it's wrong.

 

[Deepdense]

Generally there are more variables at play so if you want to blame them make a list of what brought you to doing it.

 

[39hatsune]

Generally there are more variables at play so if you want to blame them make a list of what brought you to doing it.

thats true. as much as this person hurt me, i dont really want to hurt them
but i dont know how else they can understand the gravity of what they have done and how it made me feel

 

[Deepdense]

thats true. as much as this person hurt me, i dont really want to hurt them
but i dont know how else they can understand the gravity of what they have done and how it made me feel

As long as they know they aren't the sole cause it would relieve some guilt.

 

[Lady_V]

Personal opinion, but I think it really depends on the reasons. If they rape you and you commit suicide, yes, they share the blame. When kids or family viciously bully you to the point you kill yourself, blood is on their hands. If you're scammed out of all your money and ctb, the scammer played a big part in your death.

Buuuttt if you want to blame them for pushing you away or breaking up with you and whatnot, not so much. That's probably just manipulation.

 

[39hatsune]

Personal opinion, but I think it really depends on the reasons. If they rape you and you commit suicide, yes, they share the blame. When kids or family viciously bully you to the point you kill yourself, blood is on their hands. If you're scammed out of all your money and ctb, the scammer played a big part in your death.

Buuuttt if you want to blame them for pushing you away or breaking up with you and whatnot, not so much. That's probably just manipulation.

thats the thing i feel like a terrible person for even thinking that hes to blame even though he put me through genuine hell
even worse, i really really cant tell if everything he did was on purpose or not, there was always an excuse