Is it wrong to ask for a friend's help?

[LongSeason]

Is it wrong to ask for a friend's help?
Am I selfish?
Am I just an attention-seeking piece of shit?

 

[gingerplum]

Is it wrong to ask for a friend's help?
Am I selfish?
Am I just an attention-seeking piece of shit?

Of course not! Wouldn't you want your friend to ask you if the situation was reversed?

 

[LongSeason]

Of course not! Wouldn't you want your friend to ask you if the situation was reversed?

Yes but I feel like I shouldn't whine like a little bitch since I know that so many people have it much harder.
I only want to disappear.

 

[Stillnotsure]

Depends on what your are asking your friend to help you with. Recovery? Yes! Help to ctb? No!

 

[gingerplum]

Yes but I feel like I should whine like a little bitch since I know that so many people have it much harder.
I only want to disappear.

I am sure your friend will feel differently. Everything is relative, and whatever you're struggling with is very real and shouldn't be minimized. Give yourself a break.

 

[TiredHorse]

Yes but I feel like I shouldn't whine like a little bitch since I know that so many people have it much harder.

Please, please don't compare yourself like that. Breaking points are specific to each individual. You may have in the past brushed off things that would have had me a sobbing wreck for weeks. I may have just cussed and pushed through things that others would have died from. But we have each, very recently, reached the limit of our respective abilities to manage our own pain.

You have now hit your breaking point, which cannot be compared to anyone else's. Are you at your limit? Yes. That's all that matters.

If you think your friend can help you, please do reach out. Suicide is shockingly final, so you generally want to explore every option prior to that.

And @gingerplum is, of course, right on the money: Wouldn't you want your friend to reach out to you if the situation were reversed?

 

[Whiskeyjames]

Ask for fd for help/recover is a good thing. But not for ctb. you wanna put your friend in jail!? (At least in my place, assisting sucide is I believed is mimimum second degree murder...)

 

[lost_soul83]

Yes but I feel like I shouldn't whine like a little bitch since I know that so many people have it much harder.
I only want to disappear.

I've often felt this way, but only you have to live your life and you are the only one that knows how much you can take before you lose your shit and wanna throw in the towel. It's okay to break and it's okay to say that you can't take any more of your life.

 

[CuriousAboutThis]

Is it wrong to ask for a friend's help?
Am I selfish?
Am I just an attention-seeking piece of shit?

Never be afraid to ask for help.

 

[TheCrow]

Suicide is shockingly final

HA!

 

[Misanthrope]

I am just going to comment on why you should not compare your pain to others 'worse pain.' You are also not selfish for wanting help. If you feel you can get it with your friends assistance its a worthwhile road to take. Unless you are making them complicit in your suicide. That will result in criminal ramifications. Expressions of pain are not whining either. It is not like you are moaning about how you lost your smart phone charger and how that is the end of the world. Your on a website for the suicidal, that is pretty serious! Thus the opposite of whining. Nothing trivial about suicide.

The reasons don't matter, you shouldn't compare them. There is nothing attention seeking about being in pain, pain makes you vocal that is all. It is also not wise to compare pain to others. Because if you go down that route you could argue that everyone's reasons here are stupid and invalid, as they don't know the pain of living in North Korea forced to eat their babies to stave off starvation. You seem very harsh on yourself. I hope you can be kinder to yourself and find greater strength in your friend.

Peace.

 

[TiredHorse]

pain makes you vocal that is all.

I hadn't ever distilled my thoughts down to this, but @Misanthrope is spot on. I whack my thumb with a hammer, I yell. I burn myself, I cuss. When I am in existential despair, I cry out for help in whatever way some unfathomed part of me feels might bring alleviation to my pain.

 

[creationisdeath]

Ask for fd for help/recover is a good thing. But not for ctb. you wanna put your friend in jail!? (At least in my place, assisting sucide is I believed is mimimum second degree murder...)

I mean there are ways around leaving evidence. Even if it's just being there in case something goes wrong to make sure they don't end up brain damaged. But it's probably hard to convince a friend to help unless you're obviously ill. Even though emotional issues can be a great burden too most people don't think that's a valid reason.

 

[Whiskeyjames]

I mean there are ways around leaving evidence. Even if it's just being there in case something goes wrong to make sure they don't end up brain damaged. But it's probably hard to convince a friend to help unless you're obviously ill. Even though emotional issues can be a great burden too most people don't think that's a valid reason.

Haha best case scenario is to get a friend that you hate to accidentally help your ctb....

 

[21Neberg]

Just be careful - if he finds out you've got a date set, he might call the police and screw up your plan!

Otherwise, best of luck. I wish I had a friend in real life who knew the shit I go through everyday. I wish they knew I have a date set.

 

[DoneFighting]

My bf is the reason I haven't been successful.

 

[bigj75]

Help as in someone to talk to is fine.

Help as in help you ctb? No. Don't bring others into it. They won't understand.