Is it possible to make my death easier on my boyfriend?

[toobrokenforlife]

I'm planning to ctb soon as I have too many issues to function in this society, but I have an amazing boyfriend and I don't want to hurt him. Is there any way to make it easier on him?

 

[LittleBabyNothing]

Can't help but ask, can he support you through this dark time and be a part of a life worth living?
i ended my relationship last Nov, with someone who's amazing, in order to lessen impact on him.

 

[Toptock]

If you leave a note, maybe remind him you love him. Otherwise I'd recommend steeling your heart. He'll hurt but he'll move on. He'll find other love and perhaps even be happier.

 

[Life_and_Death]

If you leave a note, maybe remind him you love him. Otherwise I'd recommend steeling your heart. He'll hurt but he'll move on. He'll find other love and perhaps even be happier.

this is what im hoping will work with someone i care about, if i can stay away.

 

[toobrokenforlife]

Can't help but ask, can he support you through this dark time and be a part of a life worth living?
i ended my relationship last Nov, with someone who's amazing, in order to lessen impact on him.

He's supporting me the best he can, but no matter what he does I'll never be able to keep a job, get through college, or do anything with my life. Breaking up with him might be best.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

I'll never be able to keep a job, get through college, or do anything with my life.

Lol same, we can still try tho.

 

[toobrokenforlife]

If you leave a note, maybe remind him you love him. Otherwise I'd recommend steeling your heart. He'll hurt but he'll move on. He'll find other love and perhaps even be happier.

That's what I'm planning if I don't break up with him to distance myself.

 

[Gonjoolie]

I think it's important to realize your boyfriend will be hurt unless you do something to make him hate you. I'd recommend taping a suicide note to your door if you're gonna be ctbing in your room and explain what he will see when he opens the door. Also try not to pick a method that's too bloody, such as shooting yourself or cutting open an artery. That's about it honestly. Not much else you can do to lessen the pain

 

[WornOutLife]

He will be hurt no matter what you do.
However, that pain can be reduced by leaving a lot of notes, videos and photos. You gotta let him know how much you've loved him and how satisfied you are with the decision of leaving this world.

 

[AnnonyBox]

This is something I deal with. My friends won't give up on the idea of me living and somehow recovering. I don't have the kind of hope that they do. I've tried to isolate myself, but it doesn't really work. No matter what, I suppose they will be hurt, but as much as it pains me to say it, I have to prioritize my own suffering. Some of them will move on, some of them won't forget me. The best I can do is leave a note to try to console them after the fact, I guess.

 

[ori4kun]

I'm really worried about hurting people close to me , I want to die but I don't want make anyone suffer,although I don't have any romantic relations with anyone , maybe you could try and live for him ? in the end if you do it, no matter what he will be really hurt.

 

[LittleBabyNothing]

Leaving notes and explaining to my ex and others is important to me. When a friend left us a few years ago with no note her family had a beautiful accpetance to her choice despite being so broken at the loss. But they had so many questions, still do. i want to be able to leave and not have my loved ones forever wondering what if...

 

[Ame]

The short and ugly answer is: No, not really.

Of course, as a disclaimer, my opinion is probably coloured by my own experience and because it is so fresh, I am still grieving. I would say that leaving things behind would offer survivors a little more closure (and I mean a little) than not leaving anything at all, but there will always be questions and guilt. Those loops of "what if I"s and "if only I had"s that have the potential to drive people mad. These are normal when you care for someone and I don't think that they can be avoided.

Pulling away or trying to make the other "hate" you may not help much either. Depending on the attachment style of your partner, they may cling even harder. Intuition is also a funny thing and I should like to think of myself as a rational person. I won't lie, I would rather you live and find a way to build a beautiful life with your boyfriend. He seems like a lovely person and seeing as he loves you as much as he does, you are probably equally as lovely in your own way. I'm sorry about your pain and how hopeless you feel about everything.

There are countless outcomes of varying probabilities that you can explore so long as you are living. If you die, the probability of all of those outcomes collapse to zero. It is something to consider, although I know that it can be difficult when you are hurting so much.

 

[blue_muse]

As cliched as it may sound, providing you are absolutely sure you want to CTB, you could make your last days with him as memorable as possible - treat each time together as a mini adventure . You could ensure that there will be something of a safety net, just so your passing doesn't hit him too hard. Let's say he's career-minded then try encouraging him in that arena.

 

[Mindy]

Since I've made the decision to ctb, I try to give my best, giving my husband a good feeling about him. I try to say, "when I will leave it has nothing to do with you". I don't want him to feel gulity in some way. I complain a lot about my physical / mental problems. So I hope one day, he can move forward and find a new love and will have many kids. I am no longer a good company for him :(