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teddy_soul

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Apr 14, 2020
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Hi. If I think a friend of my is planning to kill them selves, what do I do? Do I let someone know, or just let him or her do what they want and give them peace. I think I would prefer the second option if it was about me, but also not if that makes sense? And also, i'm new here. Hi
 
TheGoodGuy

TheGoodGuy

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Aug 27, 2018
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Don´t snitch on your friend if he/she want to kill himself/herself then it´s up to that person alone he/she just want to end his/her suffering so by snitching on your friend you are just prolonging his/her suffering..

But you could always talk with your friend about why he/she want to commit suicide I see no harm in that.but don´t be a snitch remember "nobody asked to be born to everyone has the right to die"
 
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qwerty32

I tried.
Apr 13, 2020
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Make up some excuse to be around them.
 
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Living sucks

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Mar 27, 2020
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Heve a sincere but discreet discussion with them. If they are a close friend you should be able to tell them you are concerned about them and let them know you are willing to talk about anything with them if they want to talk. It's common for someone to pretend everything is fine or be defensive, worried you might disclose their thoughts and then they are getting attn to make it worse. Obviously there is a reason you feel this way. Mention this website maybe? People to talk to here who understand. If you have concerns and they do decide to ctb, you may have a hard time with your own feelings for not speaking to them. So many variables and ways this can go but i think genuine deep concern and caring for someone can only help them.
 
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GoodPersonEffed

Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
Jan 11, 2020
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I would say...as much as you are able to for your own mental health, to just listen and care, and allow them the space to decide for themselves what is best for them.

Curious as to why you joined. Are you also contemplating suicide, or was it only to seek advice about this subject?
 
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teddy_soul

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I would say...as much as you are able to for your own mental health, to just listen and care, and allow them the space to decide for themselves what is best for them.

Curious as to why you joined. Are you also contemplating suicide, or was it only to seek advice about this subject?
I'm also contemplating suicide
 
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Hopeindeath!

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Dec 7, 2019
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Welcome.:hug: I'm sorry you and your friend both want to CTB. Maybe you both can help each other if you talk about it.
 
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Genetics

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Apr 8, 2020
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I'm also contemplating suicide
Would you want your friend to tell on you? How would you like that feeling? The betrayal of trust and confidence?

Please don't tell. Treat your friend with the caring, respect and love that you would want to be treated with for any life decision you make.
 
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Aug 23, 2019
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Welcome :hug: I'm sorry that you're contemplating ctb but I hope you find some sort of peace on this site.

As for your friend, the best you can do is love and support them. You know how it feels to be in such a dark place, so it may be comforting to your friend to know that they're talking to someone who gets it, at least a little bit. Maybe you two can agree to try and seek help/other options besides ctb with each other's support. That being said, don't sacrifice your own mental health to be a good friend. There has to be a boundary somewhere. Best of luck to both of you!!
 
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Otter

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Feb 10, 2020
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Some people attempt as a cry out for help. There is no way to know what this person wants without asking them. if they were just crying out for help, can you imagine the guilt you would feel by not helping them? I guess, just say "if you ever tried to kill yourself, would you want someone to call authorities or not?" Maybe bring it up by talking about some movie that has a suicide scene in it.
 
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Lady black

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Oct 22, 2018
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Say to him/her that you support them in whatever he/she decides. You can offe rhelp like listen to this person, but do not call the authorities, they will make it worse only. I think everybody should have the right to live or also the right to die if they want to.
 
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