Discussion Is it normal to not want friends?

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[ItsMe-Hecked]

I wouldn't say it's "normal", but it is rational. People suck.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Yes . I absolutely dont want any friends. I had friends in the past and some of it was pleasant and some not but I decided that it is not the lifestyle for me to have or something that i would like to pursue. I dont never could get fulfilled from the interactions and often the effort and headache it takes to make friendships work not make it worth while. Thats not against the concept of friendship though. I think good friendships are essential to a content and healthy life but I am not healthy nor do I have prospects of having a healthy life. I dont regret becoming recluse. It is my destiny. I was made to live like this in the end. I accept my fate. That being said I still have social needs that uncompromisable and I have my family and online friends here to fill. I am grateful for that

 

[divine4u2b]

I have begun staying away from certain people and nearly all my friends despite not having too many initially. The less they see me now; the easier it will be for them when I make my exit.

 

[miserableforever]

I don't want or need any. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Some people are lone wolf types, nothing wrong with it if that's what you want. Depression can also cause this feeling.

 

[FuneralCry]

Personally, I do not want friends. I do not care if that is 'normal' or not, after all what people see as normal is subjective. It is certainly normal for me. I find people to be very tiring, I am very introverted and overall I cannot stand people. People can be cruel and can upset you, so I see it as better to stay away. I need to be alone.

 

[deflationary]

No, it's not normal in the sense that most people do want friends. But if it works for you then don't worry about what's normal. Normal isn't an inherently positive word.

 

[Blue_mist]

Absolutely normal!
Nothing wrong with not wanting friends, all friendships these days depend on mutual interests and there is no such thing as true honest friends.

 

[LastFlowers]

Absolutely normal!
Nothing wrong with not wanting friends, all friendships these days depend on mutual interests and there is no such thing as true honest friends.

Friendships also require effort and balance (yet imbalanced ones are the most common), there will always be scuffles at certain points in relationships, and sometimes straight up hell to pay, which is asking a bit much of people who are already paying one devil-with their life.
If it gets exhausting even for people who live a fulfilled and privileged existence, then I imagine it's not very alluring to those of us here who just can't be bothered, there's no room for it, even with people who would actually prefer some companionship.
Nobody else wants to put up with our misery anyhow, they just want witnesses to applaud their fortune and smile in the background while they walk into the sunset.

 

[Crazy4u]

It is more like "I don't have energy". I used to have friendship 1-2 at a time. People suck.

 

[8AEM]

It's not a common want.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Sure, it prevents a lot of suffering.

 

[Hirokami]

It's not "normal" in a sense where it's socially acceptable. Though, that doesn't make it bad. People are so hard to understand and they get pissed off at literally everything.

 

[Kalebri]

I think social media and money destroyed the good relationship between people, so yeah, it's pretty normal to not have friends or having kind of misanthropy nowadays.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Yep LoneWolf by name and LoneWolf by nature!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I wouldn't say it's normal but just because it's not normal doesn't mean it's wrong either. Then again if you don't want friends why should you even care what's normal or not? Continue to do you and to stick it to normalcy worldwide.

 

[Feeding Pigeons]

It takes a lot of effort to maintain friendships. On both sides. I've only had 2 close friends max my entire life. Fuck "normal", we're on a board for suicidal people we're already beyond normal.

 

[PrisonBreak]

Friendships are one of the contributory factors that has led me to this point. The first mistake I made in my life was putting a friend first before myself. There's nothing wrong with being a loner. However, we are social beings and having someone to talk with time and again isn't bad either.

 

[completely-done]

Personally, I'm tired of being abandoned. Right now I'm doing the bare minimum to keep my very few current friends. When I ctb they will probably hate me too and move on

 

[TooConscious]

It's good if you can live without others. Since most people will betray you. The universe is quite evil to some of us the same way it showers others with gifts, or the lucky few who have a good balance.
Anyway. Any human relationship can be bought for personal gain in 98.9% of cases simply monetary value alone will have people throw their mother or son to the wolves.

 

[callme]

I am long disinterested by what's normal if it's not even possible. Some people are terrible enough to be born, live and die alone. Surely it's not normal, because being alone all the time begets mental illness.

 

[Lost Magic]

People are fickle as fuck and many just want to take, take and give you nothing back. I'm done with friends (especially so called ones). Dogs and cats have more humanity than so called humans.