I feel like the two main reasons people stay alive are either preference- they see enough good in life to prefer to remain living in it, or obligation- they may not be so convinced about how good life is but they feel an obligation to stay.
I think- the problem with pro-lifers is- they try and convince us of things we don't believe or worse- things we have experienced directly and, know to be false- or at least, the result doesn't fill us with the same satisfaction as it does them.
So- they may believe you could achieve a satisfying life being neurodivergent. They may know successful people who are neurodivergent or they may even be that themselves. If you're not looking to recover though. If you're not interested in trying what they did, if you've already tried what they have and it didn't work out- how is any of that any good for you?!!
They aren't you at the end of the day. How can they make an assessment on what would make your life liveable for you? I'm probably quite neurotypical but I wouldn't appreciate someone trying to tell me what should make me satisfied with my life! What business is it of theirs?!!
The worst of all is when they try and make you feel guilty about it. The whole- there are people out there with your problems and worse and they're doing ok. Again- how does that help you?!! Unless you're actively looking for success stories to be inspired by maybe.
Why should we feel guilty either? Is it my fault these people have worse problems than I do? Not really. If I can suddenly cope in my life- does that mean their life will improve too? No. Can I somehow give my life to them- to let them have a shot at a life with better odds? No. So why are we even talking about them?!!
We can't always change someone's outlook in life. Especially when they don't want to change- for whatever reason- they've tried and failed multiple times in the past, they've tried and succeeded and the 'reward' wasn't worth the effort they put in, or they're simply sick of trying. After that- it just becomes a 'forced' thing which leads to obligation.
I think some people live out of a sense of obligation. It can even be impressed upon us that we have an obligation to ourselves to keep trying. To fulfil our own potential or whatever. I think that concept often leads back to religion- our lives and potential is a gift from God and it's somehow dishonouring them to not do our best to fulfil them. Same deal for our parents. They (should have) nurtured and invested in us and now, we're indebted to them to do well in life.
I guess it depends on your beliefs as to whether you feel the affects of any of that. Personally, I'm not convinced there is a God. I don't think parents should be bringing children here with an expectation that they will either be successful or even be particularly happy or grateful that they were brought here. You'd hope they'd wish the best for their children but ultimately- they're exposing them to so much risk. How much right do they have to expect them to cope with it? Is it right for them to make that person feel obligated to stay when they desperately want to leave? Personally, I'd say- no- that's unfair.
Of course, the other way around though- we may feel obligated to stay. I personally do. It's not so much out of feeling emotionally blackmailed or forced to. It's because I know my suicide would deeply upset my Dad. He's actually a good person and I love him. He did his best. He's already had a load of awful shit to deal with in his life and if I can, I'd rather not add to it. That's for all of us to decide though.
I think you maybe need to ask yourself- what is it that made you ask the question? Why do you think being neurodivergent isn't a legitimate reason to want to CTB? Is it because you yourself think there may still be a way to make life worthwhile for you? Or- is it because- that's what other people have impressed upon you?
