Is anyone here actually serious because it sure doesn't seem like it.

[Priestess]

I've lost count of the number of people on this and other forums who claim to be actively seeking a partner, string me along and then let me down at the last minute. And the reasons are stupid. One remembered at the last minute that he couldn't do it because he has a child. Surely if that was true and was going to stop you, you'd have remembered that before. Is anyone actually serious? I want a partner as I need help with the method. But I am serious and ready any time (in the UK).

 

[jodes2]

I partner is a really bad idea. If one of you fails it's asking for a prison sentence. Just cos someone backs out of partnering doesn't mean they weren't serious. It's a hell of a commitment.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm sorry you've had this experience. Assisting a suicide is illegal in the UK though- and a lot of the rest of the world. I'm not entirely sure by what you mean by- you 'need help with the method' but maybe this is a factor. If you succeed and they don't- for whatever reason- I imagine they could be in a whole load of trouble- ie. up to 14 years in jail (apparently.)

I know- in theory this wouldn't happen because you would go together. Still- failures do happen and if you're hoping they will provide you with the means to do it- or help you with the act, I can see why a relative stranger could be nervous. I'm sorry.

 

[hrsprayqn]

Yeah, I've given up on finding a partner (UK too). I'm waiting for an anti-emetic and my SN to arrive but I'm just doing it alone, if it fails with a partner fuck going to prison for assisted suicide.

 

[Priestess]

I've had a stroke and don't have full use of my left side so yes I was hoping for help with it. But the thing is, they all knew this from the start and strung me along, making me think it was all organised and sorted. If they weren't willing to help they shouldn't have answered in the first place. Apart from one who, after the arrangements were made, then admitted he was planning for sexual things to happen between us before we died. He hadn't mentioned any of this while making the arrangements. I cancelled that one, obviously. People just aren't honest when answering these messages, they treat it like a game, they're just dallying with the idea and stringing people along while they do it. They don't seem to consider the fact that there's an actual person on the other side of the screen who has trusted and believed them and is being very let down by them.

 

[Source Energy]

I've had a stroke and don't have full use of my left side so yes I was hoping for help with it. But the thing is, they all knew this from the start and strung me along, making me think it was all organised and sorted. If they weren't willing to help they shouldn't have answered in the first place. Apart from one who, after the arrangements were made, then admitted he was planning for sexual things to happen between us before we died. He hadn't mentioned any of this while making the arrangements. I cancelled that one, obviously. People just aren't honest when answering these messages, they treat it like a game, they're just dallying with the idea and stringing people along while they do it. They don't seem to consider the fact that there's an actual person on the other side of the screen who has trusted and believed them and is being very let down by them.

that is so horrible. You dodged a bullet my dear. Imagine you went to a hotel to ctb and he raped you or something....
He should be ashamed of himself. I think you should consider a method you can do alone. The SN maybe?

I would only want a partner with the Nitrogen method. I'm a dummy so I won't know to put it together. I would welcome help with that. Otherwise, alone in my bed is how I want it. I'll do sn I don't need a partner for that thank gawd...

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm pretty sure that many people on here are serious about ctb, but the fact is that suicide partners are an absolutely terrible idea as there is risks and complications involved in such a thing. It's really not a good idea to involve other people in suicide plans and you cannot trust people anyway. If someone wishes to be gone, then it's best to just plan to die alone.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've had a stroke and don't have full use of my left side so yes I was hoping for help with it. But the thing is, they all knew this from the start and strung me along, making me think it was all organised and sorted. If they weren't willing to help they shouldn't have answered in the first place. Apart from one who, after the arrangements were made, then admitted he was planning for sexual things to happen between us before we died. He hadn't mentioned any of this while making the arrangements. I cancelled that one, obviously. People just aren't honest when answering these messages, they treat it like a game, they're just dallying with the idea and stringing people along while they do it. They don't seem to consider the fact that there's an actual person on the other side of the screen who has trusted and believed them and is being very let down by them.

I'm sorry. It's appalling anyone should act like this. I agree- if they know from the start, it doesn't seem right to string you along. Just please be SO careful if you do continue though- I've heard of people being assaulted, raped and even murdered. Sadly- this sort of site IS going to attract predators.

I don't suppose there are family members or close friends you could confide in? If I'm honest- I would SERIOUSLY consider it for a family member or close friend. I personally wouldn't take the risk for a stranger though.

Is assisted suicide an option for you? Have you ever spoken to your doctor about it? That would likely be my first action with a family member who had a medical history that might qualify them for this. I hope you find a solution. I'm sorry life has brought you to this point and I'm sorry you feel so trapped.

 

[Disaster]

Are you actually complaining about not enough severely suicidal people in your area? That's something completely new.
Making a pact or ctb-ing together is a crime, and it's perfectly reasonable and good that people back off and don't want to do that even if they fantasized about it.
If you ever tried to date, you probably know how difficult it's to find a right person. I guess finding a "right person" to commit a crime with you may be even harder and is advised against. While you do want to die, you could become a victim of some crime you don't consent to. Of course trusting people in the internet isn't a great idea, and you can find dodgy people when you're looking for someone to commit a crime with you.

Please don't do that. Either seek help, or choose a method that doesn't involve others.

 

[Priestess]

I'm sorry. It's appalling anyone should act like this. I agree- if they know from the start, it doesn't seem right to string you along. Just please be SO careful if you do continue though- I've heard of people being assaulted, raped and even murdered. Sadly- this sort of site IS going to attract predators.

I don't suppose there are family members or close friends you could confide in? If I'm honest- I would SERIOUSLY consider it for a family member or close friend. I personally wouldn't take the risk for a stranger though.

Is assisted suicide an option for you? Have you ever spoken to your doctor about it? That would likely be my first action with a family member who had a medical history that might qualify them for this. I hope you find a solution. I'm sorry life has brought you to this point and I'm sorry you feel so trapped.

I live in the UK, can't get assisted suicide. My family are very anti-suicide.

Are you actually complaining about not enough severely suicidal people in your area?

No, I am complaining about people dishonestly stringing me along, making arrangements with me only to let me down at the last minute.

seek help,

This trite old advice is very annoying. I've already had multiple therapies and antidepressants, none work.

 

[releasespieces]

Everyone dies alone.

 

[Disaster]

I live in the UK, can't get assisted suicide. My family are very anti-suicide.

No, I am complaining about people dishonestly stringing me along, making arrangements with me only to let me down at the last minute.

This trite old advice is very annoying. I've already had multiple therapies and antidepressants, none work.

I said "either seek help or…". Certainly I do respect your right to either continue or not continue living. I am not a pro-lifer. Simply, pacts are too dangerous and there's huge risk of putting either yourself or the other person in a much worse situation. A pact/doing it together is not an option unless maybe the civilization collapses and there's no one to enforce the laws (and likely rescue people from unsuccessful attempts).

 

[Lost in a Dream]

What method were you considering and do you already have the things you need? If I was in the UK, maybe I would consider this, but I'm not and I don't have a passport or anything like that. Also don't think my SN can go on a plane either.

Sometimes it feels like this would be easier to do with a suicide partner, but it might be too risky to do it with some random person I met online (and it's probably true for you). I'm sorry about the stroke and being let down by those people who agreed to do it with you. It would be better to have a friend that you already know well who wants to die and then you could try doing it with them if they were willing. Would be nice to have a friend like that.

I said "either seek help or…". Certainly I do respect your right to either continue or not continue living. I am not a pro-lifer. Simply, pacts are too dangerous and there's huge risk of putting either yourself or the other person in a much worse situation. A pact/doing it together is not an option unless maybe the civilization collapses and there's no one to enforce the laws (and likely rescue people from unsuccessful attempts).

I wonder how often pacts actually succeed though. It probably doesn't work out very often because of the reasons you mentioned here, and the creeps on the internet wanting to take advantage of people, but it must've worked out for some people, right?

 

[Superdeterminist]

Of course people will be hesitating a lot when it comes to a pact... It's an extremely risky thing to try, for various reasons. You shouldn't be surprised to encounter hesitancy, although I understand it's frustrating.

 

[odradek]

Are you serious with this post? I'm sorry for your situation and that you find yourself here. Trying to make a suicide pact with strangers on the internet is not only risky but it's inherently unreliable. Try to have some perspective.

 

[Anon1337]

You've been on here less than 10 days..

 

[SexyIncél]

Some found success finding partners. I don't want to say more on that yet, but can talk abstractly. Offhand, I can think of 4 aspects

1. your attributes
2. partner's attributes (and your ability to detect them)
3. your goals
4. your ability to plan and execute

Ok, so: attributes, goals and planning/execution. Partners should probably have a decent mix of all four. If alone, you only need small amounts of a couple

In a less cultish world, this would be so much easier. People could help you, etc

 

[thebusislatetonight]

I think OP was just trying to vent out their frustration over this. Clearly, something like this could really worsen the situation for someone who is already in a pretty bad shape.
I get it tbh. It's bound to make you feel like shit after having been in discussions/planning etc. But at the same time, it's perhaps a bit more realistic to expect that these things could have a possibility of falling apart because so many things could go wrong. For one, it's illegal and unreliable in so many countries and contexts.
But it's okay to feel like OP does. Let's not invalidate how they choose to express their feelings. I can understand how troubling this would be.

 

[groucho]

There were times when the thoughts of suicide seemed more like a bad habit but the "feel" of the thoughts when you are serious is very different to just ideation. That feeling has been growing stronger by the year, now I have it near constantly.

 

[Helios-III]

I think OP was just trying to vent out their frustration over this. Clearly, something like this could really worsen the situation for someone who is already in a pretty bad shape.
I get it tbh. It's bound to make you feel like shit after having been in discussions/planning etc. But at the same time, it's perhaps a bit more realistic to expect that these things could have a possibility of falling apart because so many things could go wrong. For one, it's illegal and unreliable in so many countries and contexts.
But it's okay to feel like OP does. Let's not invalidate how they choose to express their feelings. I can understand how troubling this would be.

I agree with this completely.

Many people are desperate and I think we can all understand that. This is a very difficult and stressful thing to figure out. Society really doesn't want to let go of people and there are so many legitimate and non-legitimate reasons why.

I hope OP can figure their situation out with their ideal outcome.

 

[odradek]

I think OP was just trying to vent out their frustration over this. Clearly, something like this could really worsen the situation for someone who is already in a pretty bad shape.
I get it tbh. It's bound to make you feel like shit after having been in discussions/planning etc. But at the same time, it's perhaps a bit more realistic to expect that these things could have a possibility of falling apart because so many things could go wrong. For one, it's illegal and unreliable in so many countries and contexts.
But it's okay to feel like OP does. Let's not invalidate how they choose to express their feelings. I can understand how troubling this would be.

I agree with this completely.

Many people are desperate and I think we can all understand that. This is a very difficult and stressful thing to figure out. Society really doesn't want to let go of people and there are so many legitimate and non-legitimate reasons why.

I hope OP can figure their situation out with their ideal outcome.

I don't think it's invalidating to tell OP the truth. If we were to be blunt, it is a dangerous and foolish idea to seek out a suicide partner with a stranger online. Full stop. It will l lead to failure or worse 99.999% of the time. It's also not validating to humour their outbursts either. I understand people are struggling but that doesn't give one license to be an asshole. Or maybe it does, maybe that's the environment we want to foster here. Where people in bad situations, making bad choices can just say whatever they want because... Well because?

Is anyone here actually serious?

 

[Helios-III]

I don't think it's invalidating to tell OP the truth. If we were to be blunt, it is a dangerous and foolish idea to seek out a suicide partner with a stranger online. Full stop. It will l lead to failure or worse 99.999% of the time. It's also not validating to humour their outbursts either. I understand people are struggling but that doesn't give one license to be an asshole. Or maybe it does, maybe that's the environment we want to foster here. Where people in bad situations, making bad choices can just say whatever they want because... Well because?

Is anyone here actually serious?

We all have a lot of perspective the average person doesn't, so I think a little grace is in order.

But I also agree with your concerns, and I do think they should be addressed. Those aren't the posts I'm referring to. But you are coming across fairly hostile yourself. A lot of people were rude or brash in response. Doesn't really help anything. Compassion is something we should foster here, imo.

 

[missingpeace]

Yes, it's my one and only goal at the moment.

 

[lukas19]

What method were you considering and do you already have the things you need? If I was in the UK, maybe I would consider this, but I'm not and I don't have a passport or anything like that. Also don't think my SN can go on a plane either.

Sometimes it feels like this would be easier to do with a suicide partner, but it might be too risky to do it with some random person I met online (and it's probably true for you). I'm sorry about the stroke and being let down by those people who agreed to do it with you. It would be better to have a friend that you already know well who wants to die and then you could try doing it with them if they were willing. Would be nice to have a friend like that.



I wonder how often pacts actually succeed though. It probably doesn't work out very often because of the reasons you mentioned here, and the creeps on the internet wanting to take advantage of people, but it must've worked out for some people, right?

Yes, a couple met on here then did the deed

'Unique and brilliant' Brett, 28, travelled to Scotland to take his own life

Brett Stevens and a 24-year-old woman were found dead inside a holiday cottage

www.stokesentinel.co.uk

 

[hellispink]

Sadly, they in all their right to retreat if they wish. Doesn't matter how upsetting is it, gotta keep trying until one is found and actually works.

 

[Jonaxthewise37]

I've lost count of the number of people on this and other forums who claim to be actively seeking a partner, string me along and then let me down at the last minute. And the reasons are stupid. One remembered at the last minute that he couldn't do it because he has a child. Surely if that was true and was going to stop you, you'd have remembered that before. Is anyone actually serious? I want a partner as I need help with the method. But I am serious and ready any time (in the UK).

Your method needs a partner, so I suggest therapy, you want to end your life fine, but it's permanent; forever.

 

[SolomonKado]

If anyone sees Jonaxthewise37 please do not engage. Just ignore their posts. This is not the first time. They also have a crossed out name. They have been reported already.