I'm worried about how my family will be hurt

[affirmatice]

My mind has been a severe depression fog for the last few months. It's really weird going about daily tasks and still living a "normal" life while contemplating whether or not you want to end it all.

But even as my brain has started to just detach from all the things going on, I still care about those around me. My friends and my family. My friends would be hurt no doubt, but they'll move on.

My family... I just don't know if I could do this to them. My brothers, my mom, my dad. My parents are older in age, no doubt this would ruin the rest of their lives. My dad is quite a pessimist and struggles dealing with major events (quite similarly to me) - he once contemplated suicide because he caught one of my siblings smoking weed.

I don't know... I'm in so much pain that I don't see improving. I don't see myself suffering through life just to keep those around me happy. But at the same time, it would be an unbelievably terrible thing to do to my family.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

My mind has been a severe depression fog for the last few months. It's really weird going about daily tasks and still living a "normal" life while contemplating whether or not you want to end it all.

But even as my brain has started to just detach from all the things going on, I still care about those around me. My friends and my family. My friends would be hurt no doubt, but they'll move on.

My family... I just don't know if I could do this to them. My brothers, my mom, my dad. My parents are older in age, no doubt this would ruin the rest of their lives. My dad is quite a pessimist and struggles dealing with major events (quite similarly to me) - he once contemplated suicide because he caught one of my siblings smoking weed.

I don't know... I'm in so much pain that I don't see improving. I don't see myself suffering through life just to keep those around me happy. But at the same time, it would be an unbelievably terrible thing to do to my family.

I made a post not too dissimilar to this a little bit ago (Sep. 27) so I definitely understand where you are coming from, though slightly differently. I have no siblings and my dad left when I was younger. I understand how you are conflicted. I have no real advice to offer though, but I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this, I also don't want to hurt my family so I'm trying really hard to stick around because, as you said, it would be a terrible thing to inflict on my family.

 

[James Sunderland]

That fog, as you put it, is really tough to get through, being removed and heavy with everything. You are carrying a lot, trying to live 'normally' while that inner storm confronts you. And yet, even in all of this pain, how much you clearly care for your family shines through. That says a lot about you. It's not easy holding in both the pain and the love at once, you know?

You talked about your dad and how he's navigated struggles before. It sounded like perhaps you share more with him than the pain, and that a part of him would actually want to understand how you're feeling. If this is okay, what do you think he might say if he knew how much you're hurting right now? Not to push it, but just curious to see what it would be like were that door opened, if only a little.

 

[affirmatice]

That fog, as you put it, is really tough to get through, being removed and heavy with everything. You are carrying a lot, trying to live 'normally' while that inner storm confronts you. And yet, even in all of this pain, how much you clearly care for your family shines through. That says a lot about you. It's not easy holding in both the pain and the love at once, you know?

You talked about your dad and how he's navigated struggles before. It sounded like perhaps you share more with him than the pain, and that a part of him would actually want to understand how you're feeling. If this is okay, what do you think he might say if he knew how much you're hurting right now? Not to push it, but just curious to see what it would be like were that door opened, if only a little.

It's not easy to live like this. Well better put - it's nearly impossible, hence the reason I'm on this forum.

The love I have left for those around me, i think it shows how much I have and how much I still hold onto life even as it feels like I'm fading away.

But the pain I feel is one that is internal to me. There is nothing that anyone can say or do that can give me back what I lost - it's a chronic physical problem I struggle with. Sad to say this one thing has caused me to look around at the world around me and feel completely hopeless at being a part of it.

That's why I don't know if opening up to my father - or anyone else would help. My struggles with myself are all within my mind and my body. i've never opened up to anyone about it (other than my therapist). And even after talking to my therapist, I didn't necessarily feel much "relief". The problem is still here, and I still haven't been able to cope with it.

 

[James Sunderland]

Of course, it is no easy way to be living, and it totally makes sense that you would feel this way, on the edge, considering something heavy and chronic that you are going through. It just shows how strong you are that despite what feels like a fade, you still hold onto love for those around you. It is not something many people in your place could do.

I get why opening up to your dad or anyone else feels like it might not change anything. It's not like they can make the physical pain disappear, and that can make it feel pointless to talk about. But sometimes, it's not about finding relief or solving the problem. It's about having someone else understand even a small part of what you're carrying. You know, just feeling like you're not so isolated with it. Your pain is real and personal, and sharing it doesn't mean you expect someone to fix it, it means you're inviting them to sit beside you in it. And you deserve that kind of understanding. Maybe that's something worth exploring? Not because it will magically make things better, but because you deserve to feel seen, even in the darkness.

I'm always here to listen if you want to keep sharing, thanks for reaching out.

 

[ReflectionOfTrauma]

I wanna cry when I feel about leaving my sister. I can't stay alive for myself and I know staying alive wouldn't make a big difference for her.

I just don't know how to explain to her I won't be always there for her. I can't think about it. It's too much.

 

[sevennn]

yeah especially since my stupid dad just died and it'd be too much ok everyone. but i'm suffering so badly

 

[landslide2]

I understand very well what you mean. I have cried many times when I think of the hurt I will cause my family, people who i love deeply and who love me.

 

[ReflectionOfTrauma]

I understand very well what you mean. I have cried many times when I think of the hurt I will cause my family, people who i love deeply and who love me.

I really wish I could go out in a hospital by getting euthanized.

How can I tell someone "I love you" and next day leave them by themselves ? I really hope my my suicide won't cause too much pain to anyone