Venting I'm wondering if I'm too sensitive or ungrateful

[whocares?]

My mom loves me. But the way she interacts with me kinda drain my energy. She is dramatic and always saying that she is going to die when I misbehave or she has done a bunch of things ( which she did). She told me I look like a dirty homeless girl when I cut my hair short to look more like a boy. She doesnt like me being part of the LGBTQ+
She doesnt believe me when I said I was SA'd by my f#ther. She is way too controlling, in a way that feels suffocating. She promises and never go with it, and keeps telling me that I'm way too doubtful.
She yelled at me and say my knowledge isnt true, that I'm terminally online and havent been trained yet ( which is true)
She lies, and gaslighting alot. At this point, I cant trust her, every time I trust her with something good, surely it will ended up wrong.
I'm wondering if I am too ungrateful or spoiled or childish

 

[rainatthebusstop]

I don't think you are being ungrateful. It sounds like you are however in an abusive household and that she is gaslighting you, as you yourself said.

People who are manipulative will very often insist someone's emotions over their abuse aren't real or that they are inadequate or inappropriate responses to their victims situation. So no, you aren't ungrateful or childish, you are reacting to a shit situation like someone who's been hurt would

 

[vyvanceandvodka]

My mom loves me. But the way she interacts with me kinda drain my energy. She is dramatic and always saying that she is going to die when I misbehave or she has done a bunch of things ( which she did). She told me I look like a dirty homeless girl when I cut my hair short to look more like a boy. She doesnt like me being part of the LGBTQ+
She doesnt believe me when I said I was SA'd by my f#ther. She is way too controlling, in a way that feels suffocating. She promises and never go with it, and keeps telling me that I'm way too doubtful.
She yelled at me and say my knowledge isnt true, that I'm terminally online and havent been trained yet ( which is true)
She lies, and gaslighting alot. At this point, I cant trust her, every time I trust her with something good, surely it will ended up wrong.
I'm wondering if I am too ungrateful or spoiled or childish

You're not being ungrateful at all! Your mom is being very hurtful. I'm sorry you're being treated like that.

 

[whosready4tmrw]

My mom loves me. But the way she interacts with me kinda drain my energy. She is dramatic and always saying that she is going to die when I misbehave or she has done a bunch of things ( which she did). She told me I look like a dirty homeless girl when I cut my hair short to look more like a boy. She doesnt like me being part of the LGBTQ+
She doesnt believe me when I said I was SA'd by my f#ther. She is way too controlling, in a way that feels suffocating. She promises and never go with it, and keeps telling me that I'm way too doubtful.
She yelled at me and say my knowledge isnt true, that I'm terminally online and havent been trained yet ( which is true)
She lies, and gaslighting alot. At this point, I cant trust her, every time I trust her with something good, surely it will ended up wrong.
I'm wondering if I am too ungrateful or spoiled or childish

Youve clearly already gone through so much, and this added on top is absolutely a lot to handle for any one person. Youre not being ungrateful at all to want better out of your own life.

 

[venerated-vader]

She might 'love you', but she's prioritizing venting her frustration and anger on you which is not fair. Also the fact that she doesn't believe you is a disgrace, and she should be ashamed of herself every day for being so heartless and ignorant. Trust me, you're not ungrateful in the least; you're in a terrible, unstable environment and absolutely none of it is your fault.

 

[violetforever]

everything you wrote is far from the actual treatment that somebody i would consider spoiled would receive from their parents. it's not normal for parents to verbally or physically abuse their children. you aren't ungrateful for wishing to have a stable household. i hope you're safe from your father now? your safety from anyone, even your own father, should be a main priority to your mother. i'm sorry all of this is happening