Venting I'm tired of people being "hard" on each other

[GreenLantern]

I hate that. When people constantly get on your case and people's go to action is to be "tough" on you.

Growing up, I was a military kid and one of my parents was a big military geek. He was an officer but he acted more like a drill sergeant. So he was on my case a lot and was basically like a drill sergeant with me at home. Half of my childhood felt like basic training.

In high school there were teachers and bosses that were on my case too.

I also had an experience that was like "scared straight" but not exactly.

And in a lot of the jobs I've worked, I've had a boss that prided themselves in being a hard ass with their employees.

I don't like how people's default action is to go "hard" on people when it's unnecessary or they don't deserve it. Is it some huge ego boost they get from being really tough on people?

 

[15dec]

I understand -wish I could figure out why some people default to 'let's be so tough on others they feel like shit'. Sometimes it's appropriate but in my experience people almost always do it when it's conpletely unnecessary. I've had people going tough on me when I tried to get mental health support. Checked myself into hospital for feeling suicidal (back when I thought I had hope) and the mental health worker told me if I carried on being suicidal I'd never get a job and that a close friend I was worried about didn't care about me and wasn't thinking about me knowing I was going through a tough time. Also told me to stop being kind and helpful to others for some reason even though it makes me feel better doing that. Made me feel worse and sent me home saying I wasn't depressed and was just upset.

Sorry for the long reply lmao but the 'tough love' thing or whatever pisses me off as well

 

[Jodes]

I run like hell from people like that, so sorry you've been through all that!!!

 

[Red star]

@GreenLantern I relate with you and your posts :D

 

[Idorus]

People drill, cause they think it's the only way you'll learn. They themselves are drilled to drill. Fear was the only thing that kept them in line and so they continue...

 

[MsM3talGamer]

The world is sadly full of grade A assholes.