For a bit of context, my ex and I were on and off for a few years and broke up for the final time in 2023. Not long after, he started dating someone new. It was extremely toxic, and I think we were trauma bonded. Every couple of months or so, he would still randomly message me and try to start an argument.
At the beginning of this year, I deleted all my social media profiles except Facebook, and that actually stopped him from contacting me for a while. I don't think I have a particularly rare name, so I didn't think he would be able to find me on there. But to my surprise, he sent me a friend request last night.
I don't know why I accepted it, but I just did. The first thing he did was make a joke about being surprised I hadn't killed myself yet. I responded with a laughing emoji. Then he tried video calling me several times. Eventually, I picked up. He started talking about random memories we shared. I kept asking him why he reached out, and he flipped it, saying, "Why did you even reply then?" He kept insisting that I still love and miss him, saying it like he is somehow better than everyone else.
He kept asking me to come over to "talk" even though we clearly could have done that over the phone. He even said that I wanted to be in his bed and things like that. I would never cross that line with someone who is in a relationship, especially considering this is my ex who made my life hell for years.
He refuses to admit when he is wrong and acts like he can never lose an argument. After about an hour, I told him I was done with the conversation because he was impossible to reason with. His response was to tell me to "chop it up." He knows about my BPD and my past, and then he laughed and said I obviously hadn't taken my meds today.
I blocked him after that, but I am still worried he is going to find another way to contact me. Every time I interact with him, I feel completely mentally drained and depressed. It takes me ages to get him out of my head and my dreams again. The progress I make always resets when this happens.
At the beginning of this year, I deleted all my social media profiles except Facebook, and that actually stopped him from contacting me for a while. I don't think I have a particularly rare name, so I didn't think he would be able to find me on there. But to my surprise, he sent me a friend request last night.
I don't know why I accepted it, but I just did. The first thing he did was make a joke about being surprised I hadn't killed myself yet. I responded with a laughing emoji. Then he tried video calling me several times. Eventually, I picked up. He started talking about random memories we shared. I kept asking him why he reached out, and he flipped it, saying, "Why did you even reply then?" He kept insisting that I still love and miss him, saying it like he is somehow better than everyone else.
He kept asking me to come over to "talk" even though we clearly could have done that over the phone. He even said that I wanted to be in his bed and things like that. I would never cross that line with someone who is in a relationship, especially considering this is my ex who made my life hell for years.
He refuses to admit when he is wrong and acts like he can never lose an argument. After about an hour, I told him I was done with the conversation because he was impossible to reason with. His response was to tell me to "chop it up." He knows about my BPD and my past, and then he laughed and said I obviously hadn't taken my meds today.
I blocked him after that, but I am still worried he is going to find another way to contact me. Every time I interact with him, I feel completely mentally drained and depressed. It takes me ages to get him out of my head and my dreams again. The progress I make always resets when this happens.
