We have never spoken, but everytime I see her my heart beats fast. I don't go talk to her and try someting else because I'm already too hurt when it comes to love and rejection. It sounds silly and childish that I felt in love with a girl I don't even know. It's just one of my failed "loves". I'm sorry I'm telling this right here, it is not related to the forum purpose, but I had no one to talk to. Just to spread the world how loser/ugly/unloved/disgusting I am.
Something similar is happening to me. Whenever I like a girl, I decide not to get too engaged because in the end, my depression and CTB thoughts will ruin everything, in the best-case-scenario in which she also has feelings for me.
I'm bound to die coupleless and alone.
Still, if you have a nice day, what about saying "hello" to her and try to have some short conversations? You have nothing to lose.
I'm bound to die coupleless and alone.
Still, if you have a nice day, what about saying "hello" to her and try to have some short conversations? You have nothing to lose.
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Mm80
Enlightened
- May 15, 2019
- 1,604
MichaelNomad123
Jesus
- Oct 15, 2020
- 433
I used to stare at the girl across from me in politics class and she would stare back. For a brief moment my heart would stop and then start to race at a million beats per second. I'd shift uncomfortably in my chair but never break my gaze and she would do the same. I thought, is this what they write literature about? Could it be that I'm having one of those experiences?
Then I got to know her and it became apparent very quickly that we were not for eachother. We did however become very good friends for a time.
Then I got to know her and it became apparent very quickly that we were not for eachother. We did however become very good friends for a time.
I know how you feel. It's something on my mind to talk to her one day but I don't think I have a chance, she's just too beautiful to me, probably a lot of men chase her
Probably not, I'm too shy and too ugly to be around her.
I think this girl eventually looks at me, but is probably out of curiosity.
Mm80
Enlightened
- May 15, 2019
- 1,604
Some girls prefer shy guys and ugliness is quite subjective. You never know
I feel like I don't deserve to be with a woman.
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 20,721
I've been in this situation before and it does not end well. Even if there's nothing problematic about you two getting together (like if you're the same rank and under the same department), then if something goes wrong, you're just going to end up associating that job with the heartbreak so if you like the job I wouldn't recommend pursuing.
You say you haven't talked to her and you feel too shy to do so. I've been there... Unfortunately it would be in your best interest to at least talk with her. Start with trying to bring up mutual things about your work place maybe? I don't know. The point is hopefully through finding out more about her you'll be able to tell whether you'll actually love her or whether you're just attracted to whatever appearance she puts on in a professional workplace setting. Getting to know her is at the very least, a useful way of trying to find out reasons you wouldn't like her in order to stop this crush...
You say you haven't talked to her and you feel too shy to do so. I've been there... Unfortunately it would be in your best interest to at least talk with her. Start with trying to bring up mutual things about your work place maybe? I don't know. The point is hopefully through finding out more about her you'll be able to tell whether you'll actually love her or whether you're just attracted to whatever appearance she puts on in a professional workplace setting. Getting to know her is at the very least, a useful way of trying to find out reasons you wouldn't like her in order to stop this crush...
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Jumper Geo
Life's a bitch and then you die.
- Feb 23, 2020
- 2,910
This reminded me of the film Bedazzled where Elliot was in love with a work colleague but things never went right, anyway take it in baby steps if they get up to make a tea or coffee get up as well and wait for an opportunity to speak to them, manners make us the man get the milk out of the fridge and offer it to them first just play it cool don't get up every time it will be creepy, lol remember social distancing, if you see her in the morning with a mask on say you look cool are you a dominatrix,
just kidding your not ready for my sense of humor, it does work but my last relationship was a painful lesson learned,Good luck just be cool don't need to rush anything, play the long game get noticed and make sure they are comfortable in your company so you talk to each other.
Cheers
Geo
I just saw right now a girl I've been flerting posta on whatsapp status a picture with a totally messed up guy, kissing of course. Damn, why this happen to me
Deleted member 19654
Working towards recovery.
- Jul 9, 2020
- 1,628
What do you mean totally messed up guy?
Try talking to your coworker by just starting off with a simple hello. See how she reacts and take it from there.
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death137
miserable
- Jun 25, 2020
- 1,166
If you are afraid then wait for a little while and see if she initiate conversation. If she doesn't then its best you initiate since you really want to know her very much. Same thing happened to me where I fall in love with a girl but luckily she initiated conversation. I never told my love to her but we became friends. If she didn't initiated I think I would never have talked to her. Wish you the best.
Weird, looks like a drug dealer, a guy from the hood.
I doubt she would start conversation. She's very "fancy"(I dont know how to say)
Chupacabra 44
If boredom were a CTB method, I would be long gone
- Sep 13, 2020
- 710
There's no loss in saying hi and building a friendship, and letting things go in whatever direction happens naturally. In the least you might get a new friend.
Its called Infatuation and it can be powerful.
But don't be ashamed of the way you feel. Its normal to find someone attractive .
I understand the frustration though.
(I mean , I would never approach or tell someone I liked them because I know they wouldn't want me. But my feelings wouldn't go away.)
Its hard when you don't feel worthy of them. Rejection does hurt .
But if she talks to you try to talk back .You could end up with a new friend.
Good luck.
But don't be ashamed of the way you feel. Its normal to find someone attractive .
I understand the frustration though.
(I mean , I would never approach or tell someone I liked them because I know they wouldn't want me. But my feelings wouldn't go away.)
Its hard when you don't feel worthy of them. Rejection does hurt .
But if she talks to you try to talk back .You could end up with a new friend.
Good luck.
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Sounds like a crush. It doesn't have to be a negative experience. Infactuation can be a wonderful feeling and experience and who knows maybe you'll get lucky.
I've been through a lot of rejections, so I'm too insecurity
K-O
FU(KOFFEE
- Apr 16, 2020
- 1,462
matters of the heart are what made me suicidal and initially got me here mate.. so.. spill it! x
take me for example.. i got a MASSIVE crush on JG! every time i see his smiley ass my heart misses a beat! there! i said it in public!if you see her in the morning with a mask on say you look cool are you a dominatrix,
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Lupgevif
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- Jul 23, 2020
- 928
"There is nothing to lose in saying hi." Yeah, only a lot of humiliation to gain.
GrumpyFrog
Exhausted
- Aug 23, 2020
- 1,913
I mean don't walk up stare longingly into their eyes, lick your lips, and in a seductive voice whisper "hello". Just go "hey, how's your day going" casually.
Damn, all these years I've been doing it wrong? Well hey
But yeah, been there. We ended up as really good friends. All I did was talk to her and not put any pressure on. Not what i was after but better in the end. But yes, it can be really hard to get over that awkwardness to even say 'hi.'
XYZ
I just can’t get these damn wrists to bleed
- Jul 22, 2020
- 800
Such a sweet title in the sea of heartbreak that is this forum.
I wish you good luck, op! I hope the universe will conspire to make that girl fall in love with you too
I wish you good luck, op! I hope the universe will conspire to make that girl fall in love with you too
May I suggest you confirm the company's policies on fraternization and nepotism first, especially if you like this job.
Lupgevif
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- Jul 23, 2020
- 928
Yeah, because the only way to be rejected is to act like a creep. Normal people don't get rudely rejected, ever.
Maybe cultural difference. People here say hi to literally everyone they walk by. We all talk to strangers all the time.
Lupgevif
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- Jul 23, 2020
- 928
Mark Edward
Member
- Jan 19, 2019
- 62
It happens when you are young, it's just the way nature works.
Just be cool and mindful of your dignity.
Just be cool and mindful of your dignity.
Phill
Student
- Dec 19, 2019
- 150
Once it happened to me too. At first I didn't even know her name. I thought she was weird because she was quiet, didn't speak to anyone and used to stayed at her desk looking down, and weird girls really catch my eye lol. Then I approached her a little, but I was unsuccessful. She had started dating other guy. I "kept waiting for her" for about three years and I did a lot of things out of thinking that someday we'd be together. That shows how much stupid I am.
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