I‘m fucking alone

[fsociety]

Hello lovely community.

I need some advice how to handle things..

1/2 year ago I lost my gf, my father and my best friend a few months ago who broke up our friendship..

Since then I'm alone and have nearly nobody to go out and do activities together. Just rotting all day home alone. I don't know how to handle that.. life isn't worth anymore without a friend who I can hang out or talk daily, I feel miserable.. I'm really not okay at the moment..

 

[iloverachel]

I am sorry to hear that. I am also alone and rotting every day for the past 8 years and it is truly awful

 

[Meteora]

I m sorry... that is tough. I m also mostly alone, I have no energy to meeting with people anymore.

 

[fsociety]

I am sorry to hear that. I am also alone and rotting every day for the past 8 years and it is truly awful

How do you handle that?
How do you keep going and not fear another few years being like that?
What is something that makes you happy and keep going?

I m sorry... that is tough. I m also mostly alone, I have no energy to meeting with people anymore.

What keeps you going on?
What's makes life worthy for you if you see other people having a good life?

 

[iloverachel]

How do you handle that?
How do you keep going and not fear another few years being like that?
What is something that makes you happy and keep going?

Honestly i am not handling it well
My parents are alive, and thats the only thing keeping me from killing myself
I play games, watch movies, read books to try and distract myself from how horrible and isolating life is
I really am not handling it well at all, every day is painful and isolating

Nothing makes me happy or want to keep on going. Literally nothing

 

[fsociety]

Honestly i am not handling it well
My parents are alive, and thats the only thing keeping me from killing myself
I play games, watch movies, read books to try and distract myself from how horrible and isolating life is
I really am not handling it well at all, every day is painful and isolating

Nothing makes me happy or want to keep on going. Literally nothing

I live the same and it sounds awful…

I distract myself from watching YouTube videos all the time and that's it..

Unfortunately I know I can never kill myself, but I wish for an accident that kills me..

I'm 31 years old and can't imagine living like this for the next 50 years..

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I hear you. I'm alone too. Absolutely no one. No friends at all. Lost every single one of my family over the past five years. Only people I get to talk to are store clerks maybe once a week. There is no really "dealing" with it. The loneliness just kills you little by little. I know I won't be able to do it for that long, just hopefully long enough to get everything in order. I'm not going to be able to just wait around, alone, growing older, eventually sicker, and see how this shit ass life of mine finally ends. It's no way to live. It's not living. It's hard to live knowing there isn't a person in the world left who loves you. I'm sorry OP that this insidious disease of loneliness has found you too. It's not fair. People weren't made to live like this. What keeps me going is knowing that soon I'll be able to remove myself from this existence.

 

[bearbrikk]

I 100% understand. I have a similar experience. I hate saying ''you are not alone'' because I know how alone you feel but you are not. Trust me when I say if you would like someone to vent to you can with me I wont even reply if you don't want that.

 

[wsx-rt]

Hello lovely community.

I need some advice how to handle things..

1/2 year ago I lost my gf, my father and my best friend a few months ago who broke up our friendship..

Since then I'm alone and have nearly nobody to go out and do activities together. Just rotting all day home alone. I don't know how to handle that.. life isn't worth anymore without a friend who I can hang out or talk daily, I feel miserable.. I'm really not okay at the moment..

I advise you to see a psychotherapist, maybe it's depression

 

[fsociety]

I advise you to see a psychotherapist, maybe it's depression

I already see one, but that doesn't prevent me from the loneliness I feel.. and I'm pretty sure I have depression because of my situation

 

[iloverachel]

I read about what happened with your friend months ago. Have you considered visiting or reaching out to him to work out and fix things? I am sure he was angry at that moment, but maybe after a few months he may have moved on from it and is willing to forgive?

I already see one, but that doesn't prevent me from the loneliness I feel.. and I'm pretty sure I have depression because of my situation

 

[BardBarrie]

I already see one, but that doesn't prevent me from the loneliness I feel.. and I'm pretty sure I have depression because of my situation

Do you think you would benefit from any hobby groups like Book/Sports/Craft Clubs etc?

 

[fsociety]

I read about what happened with your friend months ago. Have you considered visiting or reaching out to him to work out and fix things? I am sure he was angry at that moment, but maybe after a few months he may have moved on from it and is willing to forgive?

He blocked me everywhere, so I can't really reach out.. we got a friend together. That friend tries to talk to him about me but he got a lot in private life going on so it didn't happened by now but he is still trying to reach out to him.. but I think it doesn't change anything

Do you think you would benefit from any hobby groups like Book/Sports/Craft Clubs etc?

A hobby is definitive something I could need, but that depression keeps me from anything at the moment, even from eating normally or sleeping normally. I just lay around and waste time… :/

 

[BardBarrie]

He blocked me everywhere, so I can't really reach out.. we got a friend together. That friend tries to talk to him about me but he got a lot in private life going on so it didn't happened by now but he is still trying to reach out to him.. but I think it doesn't change anything

A hobby is definitive something I could need, but that depression keeps me from anything at the moment, even from eating normally or sleeping normally. I just lay around and waste time… :/

@enjoy92 How about if you started small with something like going for short walks at a local park?

Over time you may start seeing "familiars" and even simple greetings might make you feel less lonely, or give you opportunities for further conversation etc?

Do you get along with your neighbours?

 

[Linda]

Hello lovely community.

I need some advice how to handle things..

1/2 year ago I lost my gf, my father and my best friend a few months ago who broke up our friendship..

Since then I'm alone and have nearly nobody to go out and do activities together. Just rotting all day home alone. I don't know how to handle that.. life isn't worth anymore without a friend who I can hang out or talk daily, I feel miserable.. I'm really not okay at the moment..

You need to get out there, where people are. (How best to do that will depend on your circumstances.) You won't find any new friends by sitting at home. You will, eventually, find new friends if you mix with enough people.

 

[SexyIncél]

Do you work from home? And what's around you — a city or small town? It may help to find some kinda interest... something you always wanted do, or admire in people on youtube. This may allow you to find community

Then you just need to find a friend or two. They may not be the greatest, but as long as you both get to talk & explore thoughts (without too much meanness), that may help you brighten up & find others... maybe join their friendship circles. Being curious about others, talking about their interests & perspectives

 

[fsociety]

@enjoy92 How about if you started small with something like going for short walks at a local park?

Over time you may start seeing "familiars" and even simple greetings might make you feel less lonely, or give you opportunities for further conversation etc?

Do you get along with your neighbours?

Going on walks or being outside alone makes me a little more depressed, then I see couple, friend groups and that makes me envy them and missing my old life..

I still have one good friend whom I know since years but I see him once every two weeks, so the rest of the time I'm alone.. that friend I had I had daily contact with, missing it. Lost 2 persons who where there daily, girlfriend and that best friend and I can't handle that loneliness..

My neighbours are a lot older than me, nothing who I could get along with.. But also I think finding new people would be hard for me since I'm just a depressed dude and there is not much to talk about..

You need to get out there, where people are. (How best to do that will depend on your circumstances.) You won't find any new friends by sitting at home. You will, eventually, find new friends if you mix with enough people.

I have another friend left who wants to take me outside with his other friends but since I'm just a depressed fuck I have a lot of anxiety and getting to know new people is terrifying for me because I don't want anybody to see me like that. I have nothing to talk or tell..

Do you work from home? And what's around you — a city or small town? It may help to find some kinda interest... something you always wanted do, or admire in people on youtube. This may allow you to find community

Then you just need to find a friend or two. They may not be the greatest, but as long as you both get to talk & explore thoughts (without too much meanness), that may help you brighten up & find others... maybe join their friendship circles. Being curious about others, talking about their interests & perspectives

I don't work from home, I'm a male nurse.

I still got that one friend left but social anxiety keeps me from getting into his circle.. all I can do at the moment is whining around and talking of how depressed I am and how shitty my life is..



To all of you, thank you a lot!
Thanks for reading and trying to give advice

 

[iloverachel]

We're you depressed or suicidal prior to losing your gf, dad and close friend?
How was your mental health and feelings of loneliness before then?

 

[Linda]

Going on walks or being outside alone makes me a little more depressed, then I see couple, friend groups and that makes me envy them and missing my old life..

I still have one good friend whom I know since years but I see him once every two weeks, so the rest of the time I'm alone.. that friend I had I had daily contact with, missing it. Lost 2 persons who where there daily, girlfriend and that best friend and I can't handle that loneliness..

My neighbours are a lot older than me, nothing who I could get along with.. But also I think finding new people would be hard for me since I'm just a depressed dude and there is not much to talk about..


I have another friend left who wants to take me outside with his other friends but since I'm just a depressed fuck I have a lot of anxiety and getting to know new people is terrifying for me because I don't want anybody to see me like that. I have nothing to talk or tell..


I don't work from home, I'm a male nurse.

I still got that one friend left but social anxiety keeps me from getting into his circle.. all I can do at the moment is whining around and talking of how depressed I am and how shitty my life is..



To all of you, thank you a lot!
Thanks for reading and trying to give advice

"I have another friend left who wants to take me outside with his other friends but since I'm just a depressed fuck I have a lot of anxiety and getting to know new people is terrifying for me because I don't want anybody to see me like that. I have nothing to talk or tell .....". It's OK to be scared. Do it anyway. Get out there. It will get easier with practice.

 

[fsociety]

We're you depressed or suicidal prior to losing your gf, dad and close friend?
How was your mental health and feelings of loneliness before then?

Yes, my mental health was going down since then..

I had never mental health problems before, I was so happy with my life and wouldn't trade it with anyone else, everything was perfect for me and I had future plans.. before I spent the most of the time with my girlfriend (we lived together) and the two friends I had and one more friend who I saw once every other month.. and I enjoyed my time alone also since everything else was good in my life.. now the time alone is just depressing because i'm always alone..

"I have another friend left who wants to take me outside with his other friends but since I'm just a depressed fuck I have a lot of anxiety and getting to know new people is terrifying for me because I don't want anybody to see me like that. I have nothing to talk or tell .....". It's OK to be scared. Do it anyway. Get out there. It will get easier with practice.

I tried but I'm more like the "silent" guy then and don't talk that much… it's really hard for me to be honest… but I know what you mean.. If I don't do it, nothing will change..

 

[Zaphkiel]

Hello fellow human.

I lost my wife last year. She asked for divorce. Even though im still fully in love with here I did the only sensible choice.

Like you I assumed my life was perfect. Would have never traded it for a other so I get how you feel.

IM only beginning to feels better after a bit more of one year.
Even then, I feels suicida from time to time. I bought SN this week for example... At least I'll have it before it's forbidden everywhere.

My léthargie période (no eating, moving etc) lasted approx. 8 months.
I adopted a little cat at a refuge and he is a life saver. I'd encourage you to do that if you feel like it. Cats are low maintenance and not expensive day to day to. But be responsable on that front and give him the best life you can. It's also a goal and something that can help you.

In short only time will allow your lethargy to fade... Only then you May find the courage to find friendships.

Honestly I made all my friend at work and im very lucky for that... All the other compagnies I worked for it was not like that... But for example if like me you like board gaming there are often meeting for that in town.

Well.

Time.
It's all there is.

 

[Ambivalent1]

You have a dog

 

[wheredidigo]

I already see one, but that doesn't prevent me from the loneliness I feel.. and I'm pretty sure I have depression because of my situation

Hey, I read all your posts as a lot of what you've said really resonated with me. Keep going with that friend that you see every two weeks, and it's testament to your strength that your able to carry on in your nursing role. I do appreciate a good job isn't going to fulfil the lowliness though. I also lost a romantic relationship with the woman of my dreams six months ago and it hurts like it was yesterday, I don't feel like the same person nowadays. I've had to move back in with my parents so feel even more like a failure (as I'm 44F) and although I keep in contact with a few good friends they're a couple of hours away so seeing them is every few months. It's very hard to reach out and meet people when you feel so low, I get that. The loneliness is hard. Sending virtual hugs, you sound like a good guy and I really hope you can feel a bit better soon - well loads better! But I know that's hard to feel x if you ever want to chat I'm here pm me

 

[NoPainNoGain]

Hello lovely community.

I need some advice how to handle things..

1/2 year ago I lost my gf, my father and my best friend a few months ago who broke up our friendship..

Since then I'm alone and have nearly nobody to go out and do activities together. Just rotting all day home alone. I don't know how to handle that.. life isn't worth anymore without a friend who I can hang out or talk daily, I feel miserable.. I'm really not okay at the moment..

I feel you bro with whole my hearth. I try gaming and watching sports to pass day time. Now, when the weather is better, I feel like in a prison because I only lay in my bed and wonder why it is happening. Keep goin brother.