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HadItAll

I just want to be completely forgotten
Feb 20, 2023
243
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looking_for_peace

looking_for_peace

Student
Dec 4, 2022
195
20s is still too young. I'm 20 and still don't know what the fuck I'm doing, and I have no guidance. I even think leaving earlier would be better... at 20, you are already really fucking lost
 
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LaVieEnRose

LaVieEnRose

Angelic
Jul 23, 2022
4,356
I wouldn't kill myself if I had a child. Of course that's a pure hypothetical.
 
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Saki

Saki

A failed artist, student, daughter and friend
Mar 22, 2021
188
Honestly. It's better if that hypothetical child never knew me. I'd cause more damage with being suicidal then good. The kid has better chances somewhere else. Plus I would be suffering a lot to keep up a face facade to provide for a kid. Keeping them happy, fed, clothed and educated. No thanks-
 
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Midnight-rain

Student
Jan 1, 2020
191
Well I'm sterile and asocial, so this is literally impossible haha.
 
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stilhavinightmares

Warlock
Oct 13, 2022
753
I purposely decided I'm not having kids even though I really always wanted them, just so I don't have to stay here when I want to die.
 
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FuneralCry

FuneralCry

Just wanting some peace
Sep 24, 2020
43,397
No, and under no circumstances would I ever do the shameful and disgusting thing of choosing to procreate. It horrifies me the thought of ending up pregnant and giving birth as well. There is no need for new life to be brought here and there is no value in creating unnecessary suffering that would inevitably be experienced in a world where chance so cruelly determines everything. Procreation is something that is so incredibly harmful, and it seems like such an evil thing to burden someone with existing as it's undeniable that procreation is the ultimate source of all of life's problems.
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
12,173
I hope I would. I lost my Mum to natural death (cancer) when I was 3. That has impacted my whole life. I'd actually hope I wouldn't do it while they were alive at all. I've hung on for my Dad for 33 years already.

Still- of course- it would depend on the circumstances. I know some people just can't hang on. My current situation is very much a selfish but profound disatisfaction with life. I can get by- I just don't want to. It would have to depend on just HOW bad things were I guess. I do feel so sorry for people in that situation.
 
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Lost in a Dream

Lost in a Dream

He/him - Metal head
Feb 22, 2020
1,820
I put no because I'm never going to have kids, but even if I did, I still wouldn't stick around for them. For one thing, I could never love them or care for them the way they need me to, since I can barely take care of myself anyway.

The safest thing to do is make sure this hypothetical never happens. That's all I can say.
 
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Fl4u

Fl4u

Student
Oct 13, 2022
149
Would stick around definitely. Or well, if it's a baby, I would ctb because then the child would not get to know me anyway, won't be sad about someone they never got to know and might get a better father
 
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SamTam33

Warlock
Oct 9, 2022
763
I don't know that it's possible to have a baby by accident. Maybe in those rare cases where the mother didn't realize she was pregnant until she went into labor.

If THAT were to happen... Well... I'll just keep my hypothetical actions to myself 🤐
 
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HadItAll

I just want to be completely forgotten
Feb 20, 2023
243
I don't know that it's possible to have a baby by accident. Maybe in those rare cases where the mother didn't realize she was pregnant until she went into labor.

If THAT were to happen... Well... I'll just keep my hypothetical actions to myself 🤐
Wdym not possible. Accidental pregnancies happen all the time. And if the girl refuses to do an abortion (understandable) - that's it.
 
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SamTam33

Warlock
Oct 9, 2022
763
Wdym not possible. Accidental pregnancies happen all the time. And if the girl refuses to do an abortion (understandable) - that's it.
You can get pregnant by accident, but if you refuse an abortion, then you're deliberately having a baby.
 
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5417807

Dumb Dog
Jan 11, 2023
76
I have a young baby. They're too young to know me right now and I think it's better I die before they know me because they won't remember me and it's easier to grow up with a single dad instead of two dads
 
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HadItAll

I just want to be completely forgotten
Feb 20, 2023
243
You can get pregnant by accident, but if you refuse an abortion, then you're deliberately having a baby.
Not in your control if you're the father
 
hellispink

hellispink

poisonous
May 26, 2022
1,229
I would not have the baby. I don't want to leave them and abandon them like people abandoned me. I don't want them to come here to suffer either
 
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Tomie

Tomie

handle with care
Feb 26, 2023
18
I honestly don't know if I'd stick around. A part of me is still curious about how parenthood feels like... Not that I'd want to use my hypothetical child as some sort of experiment, of course. It's just that, after all I've done, the way my mother still loves me is puzzling to me. Maybe having a child would help me understand. At the same time, I don't feel like putting an act for another 20 years so I might just ctb before the child gets to know me, that only if I'm able to make sure he/she ends up in a good family.
 
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Disaster

Experienced
Jan 24, 2023
289
If I'd ever get pregnant and couldn't have an abortion, it would push me on edge to ctb asap. Just no, absolutely I don't want to participate in keeping this species and my particular genes around.
 
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umbra_

Member
Feb 21, 2023
22
I am only still here because I unexpectedly got pregnant.
 
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WitheringBird02

WitheringBird02

It never was my fault
Feb 26, 2023
44
No i would say no because like others i believe i am good to not have kids at least until i am sure i will not mess them up. I believe not having kids is much better than having kids and Messing them up like my parents did to me. I would rather save a life by not having kids. Rather than seeing them to grow up like me and god forbid join a website like this one
 
LocalAngel

LocalAngel

Lost, wanting out.
Feb 7, 2023
214
I would literally beg them to have an abortion because i'm a severely mentally ill trans person. If they didn't care about that and let it grow- cool. I don't wanna be around for that and it would push me to CTB. if they did abort, then things would remain the same.
 
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HermitLonerGuy

HermitLonerGuy

Warlock
Sep 28, 2022
707
there is no such thing as an accidental or unexpected pregnancy, people have to stop being so dense to not realize that when sperm goes inside a vagina it fertilizes the egg! gee no wonder! how unexpected that could happen! lol wake up folks. Anytime you have sex with no condom or protections yes mating leads to offspring shocker innit.

To answer your hypothetical question, yes id stick around because you are responsible for that child, you made the child, the child is literally your sperm and dna that grew. They never asked to be born .
 
theboy

theboy

Illuminated
Jul 15, 2022
3,233
if i die, what would happen to the woman i had children with? i shouldn't leave her alone.
 
evientually

evientually

New Member
Feb 26, 2023
3
I had an unexpected pregnancy almost two decades ago. It was the final thing that pushed me to make an attempt (benzos + booze) though obviously it ultimately failed. I was on two types of birth control and was going through chemo. I got my shit together long enough to get an abortion, which is still one of the best decisions I've ever made. Everything else aside, it was physically miserable: I felt like I had a parasite that was killing me. No maternal urges whatsoever. I've been sterilized since, thankfully, though unmarried and childless in my 30s living in the southern US Bible Belt, it wasn't easy to find a doctor who would do it. On a humorous note though, the Planned Parenthood in Mobile, Alabama is right DIRECTLY across the street from Chuck E Cheese, or it was in 2005.
 
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